Should Brides Organize Their Own Bachelorette Party Weekends? This Maid of Honor Thinks So
'Having to dip into savings to pay for everything up front then hoping everyone will pay me back' is one of many issues for her
The maid of honor also polled Mumsnet users, who overwhelmingly voted that she's not being unreasonablePlanning the 'last fling before the ring' is upsetting one bride's sister.
A maid of honor is expressing her frustrations with organizing her sister's bachelorette party weekend, so she asked the community forum Mumsnet if she's unreasonable for thinking brides should plan their own festivities.
'I'm honestly at the end of my tether with it,' she wrote. '[The bride] has told me the exact itinerary she wants and given me a shortlist of locations, which I suppose in some ways has made life easier, but I can't help thinking if she has such a clear idea then she should just do it herself!'
Explaining why it's a 'huge amount of effort,' she shared a list of reasons.
'Trying to find a house for 20 people, researching activities and nightlife, booking everything, thinking about logistics, having to dip into savings to pay for everything up front then hoping everyone will pay me back … I'm just honestly sick to the back teeth of it,' the sister of the bride admitted.
'There is no way brides would want a weekend away if they had to arrange the whole thing themselves,' she added, before opening up the conversation to the forum to see if her feelings are valid.
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In a Mumsnet poll under her May 9 post, 92 percent of nearly 750 voters selected 'You are NOT being unreasonable' as their voting option.
'I think it would take away a lot of stress if the bride organize her own,' one person commented. 'It's often the ones who want the surprise who are the most difficult to please in my experience.'
However, one reader noted that brides need to be understanding.
'Brides are busy organizing a wedding, so I think it's nice if the [bridesmaids] do some planning. That said, demanding brides with ideas that don't align with the group's budgets are the worst,' that user replied.
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