Bride left in shock after receiving HR complaint from colleague for leaving her out of her wedding
The anonymous Reddit user, who appears to be from the UK, described the situation as 'one of the weirdest work things' she's ever had to deal with on the Subreddit 'EntitledPeople'.
While she was 'friendly' with her co-worker and exchanged 'small talk' in the office, the woman said they had never had lunch together or seen each other outside of work.
She was therefore shocked when her colleague presumptuously asked if she was going to be invited to her upcoming wedding.
The woman tried to play it down, telling her associate that it was to be a 'small' wedding with 'just close friends and family', but that didn't close the matter.
In a separate post, she confirmed that she had invited two other colleagues - but that they had been close friends 'way before we even worked together'.
The bride-to-be noticed her colleague's behaviour had begun to change, becoming 'quiet and a little cold', after their exchange, but she was genuinely surprised by what happened next.
'Fast forward a few days later, I get a meeting invite from HR,' she recalled in the Reddit post.
'Turns out she filed a complaint saying I was being "exclusive" and "creating a hostile environment by leaving people out".'
The woman couldn't understand why her co-worker had expected an invitation to her wedding - noting that it wasn't a 'even work-related' event - and irritated that she had been called before HR.
She said: 'I had to sit in this HR meeting and explain that I'm not required to invite co-workers I barely know to my literal wedding.
'That it's a personal event. That it has nothing to do with work or who's in the office.'
The HR representative, she said, 'looked just as confused' as she did and swiftly closed the case. However, she aaded, her colleague now behaves in a 'super passive-aggressive' way.
She elaborated: 'Like side-eyes, little digs when I walk by. Still bringing it up in these weird sarcastic comments like, 'Some people are so inclusive these days.'
She added, 'I can't believe she actually thought HR could… What, make me invite her?'
Fellow Reddit users were quick to weigh in with their opinions on the unusual case.
One person advised: 'I would report her to HR for creating an uncomfortable environment now. '
Another added: 'That is one of the strangest things I've read. Your coworker is odd. Who thinks like that?
'What's next? Does she expect you to have her along on the honeymoon?'
While a third said: 'This is the type of guest that comes without a gift, eats a lot of food, makes others uncomfortable, takes home a shit load of leftovers and a centerpiece.'
A fourth agreed with this analysis, adding: 'And wears a white dress.'
Someone else had a firm response, writing: 'File a counterclaim to HR about her creating a hostile work environment and the passive-aggressive comments.
'That is a workplace issue unlike your wedding. '
While a sixth person quipped, 'Imagine thinking HR handles wedding guest lists? The delusion is wild.'
It comes after a bride-to-be was left frustrated after her fiancé insisted his parents should be allowed to tag along on their honeymoon.
Taking to Reddit, the 22-year-old woman - believed to be from the US - revealed she is due to marry her long-term boyfriend, 24, and lives with him on a sprawling 40-acre property.
She said the couple are close to his parents and often go over to their house for dinner and games nights.
However, her fiancé's parents have taken their relationship with their son and daughter-in-law a step too far after they insisted on joining them on their honeymoon.
The couple, who are due to marry in November, have already planned a low-key wedding on a separate family-owned estate and decided to stay an extra week after the ceremony to enjoy some alone time.
But when she discovered her future in-laws were quietly planning to crash her honeymoon, she was stunned.
She wrote: 'When we go on vacation, his parents come with us. Lately it seems excessive, but I keep it to myself.
'We're getting married in November on another property that my boyfriend, his sister, and their parents own together.
'There's plenty of space for both our families and friends, and everyone is leaving the day after the wedding so we can honeymoon for a week there. That is, everyone except his parents.'
While the young bride revealed she loves her future in-laws 'like her own parents', she expressed her concern to her future husband and requested him to ask his parents to leave after the wedding.
But rather than supporting her, the groom-to-be shut her down entirely, saying 'it wasn't a big deal'.
The bride said: 'I told him it was weird and I wanted it to just be us. He suggested we could honeymoon somewhere else at a later date, but still spend the week after the wedding with his parents.
'I told him no because I have limited PTO (Paid Time Off), we planned on honeymooning there ALONE, we're trying to save money, and I don't want to be the couple that never ends up having a honeymoon cause they keep saying they'll have it later.'
Her husband-to-be claimed he will not be asking his parents to leave as they are 'part owners of the estate'.
The bride claimed she wanted to start 'setting boundaries' with his parents and family.
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