People Who Dated Bad Boy Or Girl Share How They Changed
That's why, when I recently decided to ask members of the BuzzFeed Community who dated their high school's "bad boy" or "bad girl," to tell me how that person turned out as an adult, I received many comments that ranged from heartwarming to "What the hell?" Without further ado, here are 21 of their most enlightening responses:
"I was 17 when I became friends with the 19-year-old bad boy, whom I'll call 'Jesse', right after high school. He had been on his own since he was 15 and had a past history of stealing to make ends meet. He would also regularly get into fights, didn't have a license or a phone, lived in a camper in someone's backyard, and went from job to job. His only real prospect was being in a rock band."
"Around the time we became friends, I was privately struggling in an emotionally abusive three-year relationship with my boyfriend, whom I'll call 'Kyle.' Kyle was the epitome of a 'good guy' — charming, handsome, rich, and generally well-liked by everyone...except Jesse. Jesse was the only person who saw through Kyle's 'nice guy' facade, and he made his opinions known. I was defensive and decided that Jesse must have feelings for me and was trying to drive Kyle and me apart, so I ended my friendship with him. But his opinions on Kyle bothered me for weeks because they were completely accurate. This eventually gave me the courage to break up with Kyle."
"I found my way back to Jesse about a month later and thought dating a bad boy for the summer might be a fun rebound. I'd hang out with him and his band, drink alcohol for the first time, and let his wild energy rub off on me. That wild summer turned into a wild year and then another. Thirteen years later, we're happily married."
"My husband of 27 years was the motorcycle riding, chain on the wallet wearing, anti-establishment punk in high school. I was the Bible-toting, prayer-group leading, honors student. He told me he was going to marry me the first week I met him in the middle of tenth grade."
"In high school, I briefly dated a girl known for shenanigans that usually resulted in her being suspended from school. They were all harmless pranks, but I suspect they were a nuisance for teachers or anyone with ears sensitive to creative swearing."
"Started dating a super cool guy who was three years older than me when I was a senior. I had known him prior, but our relationship was never romantic or inappropriate. We got married shortly after I graduated, and I got pregnant. We split up before I gave birth, as he had become addicted to drugs. His family was always very helpful with our daughter."
"He eventually became sober, and we not only co-parent beautifully, but we get along great. I adore his wife and his other child. He's even helped me move three times over the years. He's a great guy. We now share a grandson, as well.It's been so long since we were a couple that we almost think of each other like siblings at this point, weird as that sounds."—Anonymous
"The 'bad boy' I dated is now in a Christian rock band, proselytizing on social media about how God hates immigrants and members of the LGBTQ+ community. He claims to know what God thinks about the issues, because he and God are 'so tight.' I definitely dodged that bullet."
"We casually dated for four months, and it was wild, hot, heavy, and intense, yet sweet and romantic too. He was covered in tattoos from his ankles to his neckline."
"I started dating the 'bad boy' (he was 18 and I was 17) during my senior year of high school when he offered to give me guitar lessons in exchange for me teaching him how to play the piano. Unbeknownst to me at the time, he was on probation for underage drinking and doing community service. (He also did many other questionable things before we met, but was never caught)."
"He was really sweet to me at the beginning, but as our relationship continued, his true colors began to emerge. He had a terrible temper, so much so that he once threw a half-empty soda bottle that hit me in the ribs. That was the moment I decided to end our relationship and go 'no contact.'During our relationship, I always told him that if he didn't learn to control his temper and not fly into rages, he would be dead by the time he was 40. Sadly, I heard that he died from a heart attack two weeks before his fortieth birthday.When I was in college, I went in the complete opposite direction and began dating a cop whom I've been happily married to for 26 years, and he and I have a 20-year-old daughter. (I never learned how to play guitar, though.)"—Anonymous, 45
"I went to high school with the typical rebel teen boy. He cut class, sold weed, was very intelligent, and in all the honors classes, but barely graduated due to poor attendance and grades. After graduation, we didn't talk or see each other because we barely talked at school."
"The 'bad boy' was a terrible (and annoying) person. He was known for stealing, cheating, breaking hearts, and spitting gum at the teachers. In high school, he got a girl pregnant, refused to deal with it, and forced her to get an abortion."
"I married him. We met on a blind date when we were 15, but it didn't work out. We met again when we were 16/17 at a house party. Everyone was drinking, but I wasn't because I was on medication for seizures, so I basically sat in a corner wondering why I was even there."
"I married my bad boy. I met him just after high school. He was spontaneous, edgy, and got me outside my cautious comfort zone. We were very random and impulsive together, but all that changed when I had his kids."
"I have no idea what my 'bad boy' is up to these days. But while we were dating, he got my then-friend pregnant, and I broke up with him. I left town and pursued my dreams, but she got stuck there with the kid. Last I heard, she was finally getting her life on track, and he had left."
"Mine was addicted to alcohol and drugs when I met him. He was also annoying, reckless, and partied a lot, so I don't know what attracted me to him in the first place. We had an intense time, but it didn't work out because he couldn't commit to me."
"I went to the prom with the 'bad boy' when I was a freshman and he was a junior. My parents were pretty overprotective because of his history (the year before I met him, he stole a friend's car and took a joyride several states away). Anyway, when the school year ended, so did our relationship."
"We dated at 14 and again at 17. He had the reputation of a rebel, hung out with a crowd that got into trouble, and was even voted 'Class Rebel' senior year. But he wasn't a malicious person and got along with everyone. He was more of a 'wrong place at the wrong time' type of guy."
"My husband of 20 years was a certified bad boy. We didn't meet until after high school, but I've heard the stories about him running dice games in the halls, dealing in the parking lot, breaking into houses, and engaging in other behaviors that resulted in a few trips to rehab. After high school, it only got worse, and his run-ins with the justice system were very serious."
"By the time we met in our early 20s, he had been indicted and was awaiting trial and sentencing. Somehow, he was only sentenced to house arrest and probation.The thing about him is that he's never been a bad person, just a kid who made lots of ill-advised choices. He's incredible, and all of those experiences made him interesting and wildly empathetic."—Anonymous
"It hasn't been that long since we graduated, but I had a thing with the 'bad boy' new kid my senior year — weed, street racing, etc. He was kicked out of his house at 17. He always had to be in a relationship, and he'd cling to that person like his life depended on it, then completely shut them out without warning (me included)."
"I dated the 'bad boy' in high school— the one all my friends tried to warn me about. He was well known for using drugs, partying, and being with a lot of girls. He had also been arrested shortly before I met him."
"He wasn't exactly a 'bad boy' like a delinquent, but he was the class clown: We hit it off in middle school for a while until life started getting bad for me. He later went on to bully me because I had a low social status in the community and was showing signs of poverty at school. I had also developed a disability that affected my education, and he, along with his friends, bullied me to the point where I almost committed self-harm."
"He's a doctor now and is either engaged or married to a woman who resembles me (apparently he has a type), but she clearly takes better care of herself (fake tan, veneers, etc.) I'm now a disabled substitute teacher and married mother of two."—[deleted]
"I was convinced I was in love with him when we were in tenth grade, but my parents HATED him. We reconnected when I was in college, until one night when he left me a voicemail filled with vitriol because he couldn't reach me while I was out for a girls' night. That was enough for me, so I dropped him."
"I guess my high school 'bad' boy experience could be considered as the typical relationship of a good girl and a bad boy in reverse order, as he became the 'bad' version of himself after we broke up."
"There was always the potential threat of his environment causing him to steer in the wrong direction at any time; overcoming that early on seemed like the start of a successful journey to something positive, despite all that was against him.When we broke up, he took it horribly, and I felt awful about it. Eventually, he rose above his anger and resentment by dating a girl I'd gone to school with since pre-k. Once they had established their commitment to each other, I thought nothing more of it and was happy for them both."
"Then a few years later, someone asked me when I'd seen him last. I couldn't remember. They proceeded to describe to me in vivid detail and with incredible accuracy a person I would no longer recognize if he'd walked up and spit in my face."
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We were on a family reunion on a cruise around Alaska, and the night before we got on the ship, I said, 'Hey, everyone's here, we wouldn't have to plan... want to get married this week?' He said yes. We were married three days later in Juno. I wore a dress I had found in Vancouver in a few hours before we boarded the ship, and he already had his best suit packed." "Our first dance was alone in the ship's ballroom with an iPod plugged into the PA. I think he was happy but not too surprised because we had talked about it a lot. I wanted to take the pressure off of him with the whole ring thing... He couldn't afford a big rock but was the kind of guy who felt it was important. We got divorced four years later, but no regrets. Certainly wasn't because of how we got hitched!"—criscotwistr "We were sitting in a pub having a drink, and he asked me about what I thought about us long term and where he fit in the future. I asked him to marry me, and I thought he was going to explode into glitter. We went ring shopping the next day. Just celebrated our two-year anniversary at the end of March and have a baby girl now! Life is good!" "Technically, we had discussed marriage prior, so I knew he was into the idea. I know he wouldn't be confident buying me a ring because I'm pretty particular about jewelry. On Halloween morning (which was a Saturday), he brought me coffee in bed, and when he gave it to me, I said, 'Do you wanna go get a ring today?' and he said yes. Then we went out for breakfast while we waited for the shops to open, and we were so obviously giddy, and we bought a ring right after breakfast." —lucidcheesedream And finally: "We never talked about it beforehand. I thought something weird was going on, and I was frustrated. One night, it just bubbled up my throat, and I was horrified that it actually came out of my mouth. I later learned that that very same night, my husband's plans to propose to me during his college play practice session were put on hold due to practice being canceled. Talk about a weird but really awesome coincidence." —scribacious If you're a woman who proposed to her boyfriend (or you're a man whose girlfriend proposed to him!), what was the experience like? How did the other people in your life react? Let us know in the comments or in the anonymous comments box below!
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Untamed finale explained: Who killed Lucy?
Netflix's newest miniseries, Untamed, is probably one of the most aesthetically pleasing murder-mystery shows out there. Set in Yosemite National Park, it has stunning landscapes, waterfalls, and wildlife in basically every shot. But the thing about a 750,000-acre park where dozens of people have gone missing, never to be seen again, is it also provides a pretty darn spooky backdrop for a whodunnit murder show. The entire series revolves around federal agent Kyle Turner (Eric Bana) as he tries to figure out who killed a young woman, later identified as Lucy Cook, inside the park. And while that's going on, we also slowly learn bits and pieces about Kyle's son, Caleb, who was killed inside the park years earlier. After five episodes of build-up, the finale explosively unraveled every mystery and I, for one, was left shooketh. So who killed Lucy? And what happened with Caleb? And what does that drug trafficking ring have to do with any of it? Let's get into it! At the end of episode five, Kyle, having found video of Shane Maguire (the guy living on his own in the park with that massive gun) on Lucy's phone, goes to arrest him. When he gets to Shane's camp, he finds a pill bottle marked with an X on the top—the same as the bottles that were being trafficked around the park with the same X that Lucy had tattooed on her arm. While holding the bottle, Kyle gets shot in the side of the stomach. As to be expected, it was Shane who shot him and the two engage in a shootout through the mountains. With Kyle hurt and bleeding, Shane manages to catch up to him. But just as he's about to kill Kyle, Ranger Naya Vasquez saves the day, showing up in the nick of time and taking out Shane. Kyle passes out from his injuries but wakes up in a hospital where he's expected to make a full recovery. Lucy went missing when she was a little girl but was found dead many years later as a young woman, so we were all left wondering where the hell was she this whole time? Well, Kyle, now back in action, follows up on a tip he received about a girl who looked like Lucy having been at a foster home in Nevada years ago. He drives out to the home, and although the woman who lives there is elderly, living in hoarder-like conditions, and can't fully answer Kyle's questions, she does mention Lucy. Kyle also finds a depressing-looking room in the basement that locks from the outside where the foster kids would have slept all together with sleeping bags. He manages to track down the biological daughter of the foster mom who explains her parents essentially ran the foster home as a side hustle, taking money from parents in exchange for housing their child. She says they barely fed the kids and kept them locked in the basement most days. She remembers Lucy and said she was in the home for a few years before she ran away. (Presumably back to Yosemite, since we see a flashback of her in the park with one of the other nomads who lives there.) The biggest mystery of the whole show is who killed Lucy? After Shane's sus behaviour, everyone assumes it was him, though we don't know exactly why. Kyle guesses that maybe she became a liability for Shane and the drug trade. But when Kyle is talking to the foster parents' daughter in Nevada, she mentions something: Lucy always used to say her police officer father was going to show up and arrest everyone and take her away. Something clicks for Kyle and he resends Lucy's DNA to be tested. He then goes to confront Chief Paul Souter. Turns out Paul had an affair with Lucy's mother years ago and he's Lucy's real father. When Lucy's mother was dying, she told Lucy the truth about her father. He was also the one who took Lucy to the abusive foster family (although he claims he'd been told they were good people). When Lucy ran away from the home, she came back to the park to see Paul, but he turned her away. He claims she kept coming back demanding more and more money, threatening to blow his life up if he didn't comply. One day, she took Paul's granddaughter, Sadie, from the house. Paul confronted Lucy at gunpoint, and she, understandably, tried to run away. Paul shot her in the leg but she kept running and made her way to the edge of a cliff where she then stepped off it, falling to her death. Filled with shame and knowing Kyle is about to expose him to everyone, Paul shoots himself. Two of the show's background mysteries end up being tied together in a shocking twist. We find out via a confession from Kyle's ex-wife, Jill, that the man who killed their son was named Sean Sanderson. YES! The same Sean Sanderson who's been missing for five years, whose case Kyle was put in charge of at the time, and whose lawyer has been poking around trying to get info for a wrongful death lawsuit. Kyle found out Sanderson was responsible for the murder because Shane Maguire caught him on some wildlife cameras he'd put up in the park, and Shane showed the footage to Kyle. Shane offered to kill Sanderson, but Kyle said no. Jill, though, not wanting to have to go through a trial and listen to Sanderson try to defend himself, paid Shane to do the deed. Kyle only found out what happened when Sanderson was reported missing, and Jill says it was this betrayal that led to their divorce–another mini plot twist, considering we were led to believe it was likely Kyle who was responsible for their separation. Untamed is available on Netflix now
