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Gilbert McNally O'Gawa Gilbert McNally O'Gawa shared his joy

Gilbert McNally O'Gawa Gilbert McNally O'Gawa shared his joy

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Feb. 15—Gilbert McNally O'Gawa Gilbert McNally O'Gawa shared his joy and faith through music and dedicated his life to being of service to others through ophthalmology. A 13th generation Japanese physician, he imbued in his family an uncanny knack for problem solving. Gil died peacefully surrounded by family on November 6th, 2024 at the age of 93. Gil was born on May 2nd, 1931 in Paia, on Maui, HI to Margaret Elizabeth Braund Ogawa, a Canadian nurse, and Raymond Michio Ogawa, a Japanese American physician. In 1941, he and his parents lived a dozen miles east of Pearl Harbor when it was bombed. As a child, he enjoyed swimming in the ocean, captaining his little outboard 'Sea flea' inside the reef on Oahu, practicing Judo and tennis, and playing musical instruments ukulele, tipple, guitar & trombone. He attended Punahou School in Honolulu and earned his BA in chemistry from the College of Wooster in Ohio. He received his medical degree at the University of Rochester in New York, where he met and married a nursing student, Ruth Rosa Gerber O'Gawa. The two married on April 2, 1955 and moved to Minneapolis for Gilbert's internship year, and then to Detroit for his ophthalmology residency at Henry Ford Hospital. After his two years in the Navy, Gil joined the teaching staff at Henry Ford Hospital. 20 years later the family moved to Petoskey, MI where Gilbert practiced as an ophthalmologist at the Burns Clinic. Gil loved camping and instilled in his family a love of the outdoors. An introduction to scuba diving during his time in the Navy led to a love of diving, especially in the waters of Bonaire. Gil loved do-it-yourself projects home improvement, tree trimming, work on his beloved yellow International Scout II, and any other project you could imagine. There was almost nothing that he couldn't fix and if a tool didn't exist to do the job, he would create it as he did for many surgical instruments still in use today. He found community in the Church and through music. He played in the Garter Snappers plus Four a banjo band and floor show that entertained thousands of people in the Detroit area. He continued performing after moving to Petoskey playing with the Epsilon Jass Band. After retirement from Ophthalmology, he spent over 2 decades, driving around the country to banjo conventions. He crafted and sold banjo stands as well as selling banjos. He believed that a good day should end with an even better glass of red wine. Gil & Ruth moved to Albuquerque to be closer to their kids and grandchildren in 2015. Gil is survived by his children and their spouses, Sharon Dennler O'Gawa Dommermuth (Ronald Floyd Dommermuth), Gregory Scott Harrison Ogawa (Diane Jean Harrison Ogawa), and Mark Obenshain O'Gawa (Rebecca Obenshain O'Gawa) as well as seven grandchildren Michelle Marie Dommermuth, Christina Joy Dommermuth, David Albert Dommermuth, Katherine Harrison Ogawa Douglas, Al Harrison Ogawa, Richard Maleko O'Gawa, and Daniel Stull O'Gawa plus two great granddaughters, Abbie Ogawa Douglas and Zoey Anne Reilly-Crank. He is also survived by his sister Jane Spicer Ogawa Oliver (John Joseph Oliver), and brother Andrew Simpson OGawa (Catherine McConnell OGawa). He was preceded in death by his wife Ruth Rosa Gerber O'Gawa as well as parents Margaret Elizabeth Braund Ogawa and Raymond Michio Ogawa. A celebration of Gil's life will be held on February 22, 2025, 2 p.m. at La Vida Llena in Albuquerque. Memorial donations may be made to The Ogawa Year Out Fellowship at the University of Rochester School of Medicine. Direct link to the donation site: https://securelb.imodules.com/s/1676/giving19/giving19.aspx?sid=1676&gid=2&pgid=836&cid=1671&dids=1266.534&bledit=1&appealcode=25M27 An online guest book for Gil may be visited at www.FrenchFunerals.com.
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Deep-sea explorers to launch new search for Amelia Earhart

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He didn't survive the Korean War." "I knew my husband was going to propose the day he did. He was acting 'off' as we were about to leave the house, and while he was in the bathroom, I felt his coat, and felt the ring box. He later refused to go without his coat even on a warm day as we were walking around, and I had to hide that I knew why. I still acted surprised and legit cried (no acting there!) when he did it and was beaming the rest of the day (week, month, today). But I will never tell him I knew beforehand that he was going to do it." —Azhchay "It just feels wrong to say out loud, but losing a close friendship has impacted me more deeply and for far longer than my dad's death." "When I was 18, I helped my grandmother move into a nursing home. In her old house, tucked away in the back of a cedar chest, I found a small, locked metal box. The key was taped to the bottom. Inside were letters and a few faded photos of her with a man who wasn't my grandfather, along with a birth certificate for a baby boy I had never heard of. The dates showed he was born just a year before my own father. My grandmother passed away a few months later. On her deathbed, she was in and out of lucidity, but at one point she grabbed my hand, looked me dead in the eye, and said, 'Don't let him ruin them.' I knew exactly what she meant." "I did some digging online. I found him, her other son. He had a family, a good career, and seemed happy. He had his own life, completely separate and unaware of ours. My father has always idolized my grandmother, viewing her as a saint. My grandfather, who passed years earlier, was a good but difficult man, and my dad's relationship with him was strained. The image of his mother was the one constant, perfect thing in his life. I took the metal box out to a bonfire one night and burned everything. Every letter, every photo, and the birth certificate. I watched until it was all ash. I didn't do it for her; I did it for my dad. He deserves to keep the one perfect memory he has — And I condemned a man to never knowing his mother or his brother. I chose one family's happiness over another's truth. I don't know if it was the right decision, but I would make the same one again."—Big-Reporter7078 "That I found out purely by accident that my ex's dad killed himself. Ex was a baby when his dad 'died of cancer.' That's what everyone was told. Through work, I met someone who grew up on the same street as the ex's family. I said, 'Oh, you must know the Smiths,' and the customer replied, 'Yes, very sad when he jumped off the railway bridge.' The customer, on seeing my shocked reaction, tried to backpedal, but it was too late. I will never tell my ex (we are good friends and share a son), it would destroy him." "I destroyed the engine of a brand-new truck by pouring a bag of sugar into it. They lived a couple of miles from us in the country, but their son and I rode the same bus. My dog liked to stand by the road when I got home to wait for my brother and me. He was a pit bull/border collie and exceptionally sweet. Even though they were miles away, they didn't like that he was part pit bull. He was in our fenced yard when my family went to the store and gone when we came home." "He limped home three days later, and it was clear he had been run over by an ATV because the tracks were clear on his little flank. His leg was broken and twisted, and he was in so much pain. We didn't have the money to get him fixed up, so he had to be put to sleep. Local cops said there was nothing we could do and that the family (who were the only ones in the area who had an ATV) claimed they were terrified of our 'vicious' dog. The son also smirked at us on the bus and pantomimed riding over something and made a dog yelping noise. We buried him in our yard, and my mom let me plant a lilac over his grave. A few months later, those assholes got a brand new truck, and I decided to get some justice for Rex. They didn't have any cameras, so one night I walked through the fields to their shitty little hobby farm with a 5-pound bag of sugar and poured it into the tank of their new truck and into the ATV. We did get a visit from the cops two days later, asking if we knew anything about some property destruction that had happened the other night. My mom told them no, that we had all been home. Pretty sure she knew what I did because the next time we went to the store, she asked me to go get another bag of sugar to replace the one I used, and she grinned at me. Haven't told anyone except my spouse what I did back then."—Rainbow-Mama"There is a special place in hell for people who abuse animals."—ariesleorising "My anonymous secret that I'll take to the grave is this: I had a chance to save a very important friendship, but my pride got in the way. We drifted apart over a petty misunderstanding, and I was waiting for the other person to make the first move. I was so convinced I was right that I couldn't bring myself to text 'I'm sorry.' We never spoke again. Now, I realize that the minor argument wasn't worth losing a person who was so important to me. It's one of the biggest regrets of my life, and I think about it every single day." "I stole that bag of Jolly Ranchers from the teacher's closet when we had a substitute in 6th grade, 35 years ago. Not a big crime, but when the teacher said our class would no longer get candy for doing extra credit, I joined in with the choir of kids arguing that it was unfair to punish the entire class. I was told that the principal himself stopped by to lecture the class about the situation the next day, but I was sick at home from eating too many Jolly Ranchers." —Stabastian "I know a woman through friends of friends of friends (we are barely acquaintances). She is not very nice, and her husband is not very nice. Last year, I saw her husband at a nice restaurant, making out with a woman who was clearly in her early 20s. I initially noticed them because they were being so inappropriate with each other that they stood out. Everyone in the restaurant was a little creeped out. Then I realized who the guy was. Normally, I would say something to the wife — I'm that type of person — but not this couple. They are mean and weird. I just have a gut feeling that somehow they would come after me. So, I see them once in a blue moon, with their three kids, and I say nothing. But I'll never forget the husband publicly playing 'Where's the beaver' with a much younger lady." "One time in high school, I told my parents I was staying after class to study with friends, but I actually hopped on a Greyhound bus to Vegas with less than $50 in my pocket. My only plan was to sneak into a Cirque du Soleil show because I was obsessed with acrobatics back then. I made it in by following a group of VIPs through the wrong door — no one checked me. I watched the entire show from the sound booth like I belonged there. Afterward, one of the tech guys asked me to help carry some cables (I guess he thought I was an intern), so I ended up backstage." "Long story short: I accidentally ate dinner with the cast, got photos in costume storage, and even rode in their shuttle back to the hotel. I panicked at 2 a.m. when I realized I had no way home, but some of the performers thought I actually was a new hire and offered me a ride halfway back toward my city. I finally caught another bus home, stumbled into first-period math the next morning, and no one ever found out. To this day, my parents think I was studying algebra."—Few_Channel_2294 "While my ex-husband was dying, we fell back in love with each other. My kids don't know, and my current husband doesn't know that we carried on an emotional affair for the last several years of his life. Luckily, he had his cell phone locked up, so nobody found out. I quietly grieve him." And finally, "I have risen through the ranks of engineering, IT, and now marketing with zero ability to code, program a router, etc, no background in finance, nothing. I was an English major. I'm just well-read, intelligent, and an excellent communicator. I am great at understanding concepts and can learn pretty much anything." —MonicaRising Is there a secret you'll take to the grave, but are willing to share with us? Tell us what it is in the comments anonymously in the Google Form below:

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