'My husband married another woman but we're still together, it works for us'

Daily Mirror

28-07-2025

A man who married another woman after 12 years with his wife has shared how the trio keep both relationships going, despite what others might say about their unusual dynamic
When it comes to relationships, couples come up with their own rules that work for them, their values and personalities. Some pairings are more unconventional than others. One man, Colton Winder, has opened up about his unique situation.
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After being married for 12 years, his wife "let him" tie the knot with another woman in a lavish ceremony, all while remaining with his first wife. He spends one night dating one of his wives, and the next night dating the other. Colton lives in Utah, US, with his wives Tami and Sophie. Together the three of them have five children, who they raise together in what they describe as 'plural marriage.'
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In a video, shared on YouTube's Love Don't Judge, Tami said: "When Colton and I got married we both believed in plural marriage, eventually it got to the point where we thought if we're supposed to find a wife we will, and we did." However, it took some time for the wives to get adjusted, creating tension within the family.
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Colton said there were "hard times" as "personalities didn't match at the beginning". Sophie told Truly: "The hardest part was realising that Tami and I didn't know each other very well. We didn't understand each other's personalities." Colton added: "There were misunderstandings…sometimes it kind of felt like I was standing in the middle of a tornado".
When Sophie first came into the family, the wives lived separately. "I didn't know what to expect," Sophie said. Once they all moved into together, however, things flowed a lot better.
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Sophie said: "One of the other misunderstandings that I had was feeling like a wife. You make a lot of comparisons. I felt like I was falling short."
Tami admitted she gets jealous when Sophie goes on a date with Colton. She says they will each go on dates with him individually, and then they will go on a date as a three.
Sophie and Tami have separate bedrooms in the house and each have a separate physical relationships with Colton. The women do not have a sexual relationship. "It's more of a sister relationship," said Sophie. However, she admits it's hard having her partner "gone every other night" when Colton is spending time with Tami.
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The family also prioritises spending time with their kids. Tami told Truly: "Our kids have brought us together, they make us feel like a proper plural family."
Tami said: "I think I have a really good relationship with Sophie. It's taken a lot of work to get here but I think we've worked really hard to get here and really become sisters."
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On Instagram earlier this year, Colton issued a message after their family received a lot of judgement. The husband said: "These two wonderful women have experience some criticism over the years for the choice they make daily, to live in a plural marriage.
"The simple truth is that these are strong, independent women that are perfectly capable of making their own decisions, and they choose to be wives and and mothers in a plural marriage.
"You may disagree with their choices, and that's okay. We're not asking you to agree. All we're asking for is the freedom to make out choice, and to live our faith."