Woman Tells Mother-in-Law to 'Stop Worrying About My Womb' After Baby Pressure
One woman says her mother-in-law won't stop pressuring her to have children
Even after telling her mother-in-law they don't plan on having children, she keeps insisting
The frustrated daughter-in-law snapped, but now wonders if she crossed a lineA woman says her mother-in-law won't stop pressuring her to have children despite making it clear she and her husband don't want kids.
In a post shared to Reddit, she writes that she and her husband have been married for one year and made the decision not to have children, but her husband's mother doesn't respect their decision.
"She goes as far as constantly telling me she's lonely and she wants a grandchild," she writes. "She also tends to rub on my stomach whenever I come around which makes me extremely uncomfortable."
The mother-in-law brings up children to the couple "literally every other day," and when they emphasize that they "do not want children" and would "rather do other things," she "gets upset" and calls them "selfish."
"Whenever we give her our reasons such as finances, the state of the world right now, the many problems women go through when having a baby emotionally and the physical turmoil, she says all those things doesn't matter and we can leave the baby with her," she writes.
Recently, the mother-in-law, who is in her 60s, told the couple she needs grandchildren soon because she's "running out of time," which caused the poster to snap.
"I told her to stop worrying about my womb out of frustration," she writes, adding that she finds the situation "so weird and uncomfortable to the point I don't ever want to be around her.
"Before she was unbearable but now it's just too much," she writes, noting that her mother-in-law never used to bother her this much before they got married.
While her mother-in-law's behavior has admittedly been "pissing [her] off," she still turned to Reddit to see if she was in the wrong, but users were firmly on her side.
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Most users urged the woman to speak to her husband to set up a plan of action regarding his mother.
"If it were me, I'd have a chat with my husband and tell him to talk to his Mom and get her under control and set some boundaries. It's not ok for her to keep this up and for him to not shut it down," one commenter suggested.
"Obviously your husband isn't shutting it down firmly enough. Next time she brings it up, leave or end the phone call," another added. "If you have to do that twice, you don't go back for a longer period. Make it clear she can choose between the hypothetical grandchildren and seeing the kid she already has."
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