Red Flags That Made People Rule Out Marriage

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2 days ago

Choosing the person you want to spend the rest of your life with is such a big decision, and occasionally, your significant other can exhibit behaviors along the way that can really open your eyes.
So, when Reddit user u/iwishiwasacargirl asked the question, "What did your partner do that made you instantly realize you could never marry them?" In r/AskReddit, I knew it would be full of some big realizations:
"He talked about his brother's pregnant wife 'being fat and letting herself go.' She was eight months pregnant and was basically all belly. It was a weird and disgusting thing to say but also very untrue."
"After a few months of being pretty normal, it became clear that she was jealous, suspicious, and very clingy. She tried to put her foot down about me having female friends, which I've always had...and then she became resentful when I even hung out with guy friends. She also made it seem like if we stayed together, we would inevitably have to move to her home country of Japan, and I would end up working for her father, who was a successful entrepreneur."
"They were yelling at me that they were 'the catch' in the relationship. All I was catching was raising an adult person who hoards, mistreats two cats, refuses to work, and funds smoking habits with payday loans."
"He demonstrated a very poor work ethic after assuring me that he'd get his shit together, and then he bought me a mug and flowers on my birthday and treated that like some Herculean effort."
"He told me what he saw as our future. We would move to Hawaii, he would grow weed in our basement, and I would work. While our relationship was already not great before then, I realized that this future he described made me nauseous."
"This happened in my early 20s. He told me that when he gets home late from partying (like 2-3 a.m.), he wakes his mom up to cook him food. I had always heard that a guy treats you as well as he does his mother. Nope!"
"He insisted on buying me a G Wagon once we got married because he needed a wife driving a G Wagon. I didn't even know what that was, and when I Googled it, I was shocked it was the price of a house. He also had about half a million in debt in student loans, credit cards, a car loan, etc."
"She tried to guilt me into spending several thousand dollars on a vacation. Their family had money and decided to take a spur-of-the-moment international vacation. All of her expenses would be paid by the family, but I would be out at least $5,000. Technically, I had the money, but I was working 50 hours a week when she was working maybe 15. I was saving for our future."
"I was working crazy hours at work for a short period and housesitting for his family while he was on holiday. He got mad at me for not texting him during my 15-minute 'lunch break.' I texted and called him morning and night. He told me that because of this, I was 'neglecting' him and that I 'wasn't missing him enough.' This was just the tip of the iceberg. Thank god I ended that engagement."
"He played a game on his phone while I poured my heart out about how I had been struggling with my mental health and taking care of myself. I didn't really have the wake-up call until I stayed at his place for two weeks with my cat while I was very sick with a mystery illness that lasted about four months..."
"Changing his personality drastically when he was with his friends. He was loving and romantic in private but would be disrespectful in front of his friends (like, 'Woman, you are here to serve me'). He was full of values with his family, especially about gay rights (his uncle being gay), but the first one to laugh and tell anti-gay 'jokes' with his friends."
"We got into a conflict while he was driving, and he pulled some sketchy driving moves to 'show me how angry I'd made him.'"
"In university I had a friend who passed on tragically and unexpectedly. She had a not-so-secret crush on me, which made my girlfriend at the time jealous. Upon hearing the news, my girlfriend's response was not that of sympathy or grief, but only smug indifference and schadenfreude. Totally awful."
"I had a bad reaction to antibiotics and ended up in the hospital. I drove myself there and home. They spent the next three days on coke with friends (each day saying they'd be home that night just to come up with an excuse like their ride left already or something equally ridiculous.)"
And finally, here's one that needs absolutely no explanation:
"Finding him fucking my roommate in my bed two weeks before the wedding pretty much made up my mind."
Was there a moment when you realized your significant other just wasn't the one? Tell me your story in the comments.