Dad Chooses Motorcycle Trip Over Daughter's Rescheduled Wedding After the First Cancellation Cost Him More Than $22k

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The father says he's already supported his daughter 'every step of the way'NEED TO KNOW
A dad spent $22,500 on his daughter's destination wedding before she called it off, then took a 'revenge' trip instead
Months later, she rescheduled the wedding without checking his availability, setting it on the same date as his planned motorcycle trip
He refused to cancel his trip, saying he 'was there for the first one' and believes he's done enoughA man seeks support from the Reddit community after a family conflict over his daughter's wedding. In his post, the father makes it clear from the start that he does not believe he is in the wrong.
'Last year I was told my daughter was getting married in 2025,' he writes. 'I immediately supported this decision and was there every step of the way.'
Following tradition, he gives her $4,500 to help with the venue payment. But in the middle of planning, he says, 'They changed from a local wedding to a destination wedding in Puerto Rico and forwarded the timeline a year to last fall giving me a year less to pay for the wedding.'
With that change, costs begin piling up. 'Now I had to pay for flights and accommodations for people,' he explains, adding that reservations for an Airbnb were made and tickets purchased.
Then came a major twist — his daughter and her fiancé broke up 'over some pretty immature reasons.' He says he was 'stuck with the bill' and attempted to get refunds, but was told the trip was still happening for 'revenge photos to make him feel bad.'
He ultimately agrees to go, noting, 'Because my wife and step kids are Puerto Rican I said fine.' The trip, however, becomes far more expensive than anticipated.
'In total, that trip cost me $22,500.00,' he reveals. Not long after, an opportunity for a different type of travel presented itself.
'Shortly after that trip I was invited to ride through Glacier National Park with some buddies,' he says. After paying for multiple vacations for others, including 'multiple trips to Disney as well as multiple trips for people to go to Puerto Rico,' he feels he's earned one just for himself.
He and his friends planned the ride for September. Meanwhile, his daughter makes another unexpected move.
'My daughter left about 4 months ago to go back to her man and didn't say a word to me,' he writes. 'We haven't talked once since she left.'
The silence lasted until just days ago when she arrived at his home. 'She showed up at the house and told me matter of factly that the wedding is back on and I needed to be there,' he explains.
She tells him it's set for Thursday, September 11th. But his motorcycle trip is already locked in, and he tells her he can't make it.
'She said you're really going to miss my wedding,' he recalls. His response is blunt: 'I told her I was there for the first one.'
She insists, 'there wasn't one.' But he replies, 'Not according to my bank account."
"She walked off and now I apparently am the a------,' he adds.
The comments on his post, however, largely side with him. One user tells him, 'You've already been supportive and covered the cost for one venue, and attended a non-wedding destination revenge party for her and this dude.'
The commenter continues, 'At some point she needs to accept some responsibility in your absence and understand that it isn't malicious, but you do have a right to your own life. This wedding whiplash nonsense has gone on long enough.'
Another user points out that his daughter did not consider his schedule before setting a date. 'If she wanted you there, she should have check[ed] dates with [you] before planning the second one."
That same commenter adds, 'It is not just about the money—it's the total disrespect expecting you to drop everything [for] her demands. Enjoy your vacation!'
Throughout the post, the father never wavers in explaining that he has been there for his daughter in the past. From financially supporting her wedding plans twice to attending the Puerto Rico trip after the breakup, his actions show repeated involvement.
His frustration comes not only from the sudden demands but from the lack of communication. 'We haven't talked once since she left,' he emphasizes, making the wedding invitation feel more like a last-minute order than a heartfelt request.
Still, the choice before him is stark — join his buddies for a long-awaited ride through Glacier National Park or cancel to attend a wedding that came together without his input. In his mind, the decision has already been made.
By his account, he has paid thousands, rearranged his own life multiple times, and watched plans fall apart before. This time, he chooses to stick with something he planned for himself, something he's looked forward to.
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