Aubrey Plaza talks about her husband's death: ‘A daily struggle ... At all times, there's a giant ocean of awfulness'
has said it is a 'daily struggle' following the death of her estranged husband Jeff Baena.
The film-maker died in January at the age of 47, with the
Los Angeles County
medical examiner concluding he took his own life.
The director and screenwriter was found at a home close to the Fern Dell Nature Trail near the
Hollywood Hills
, with the cause of his death determined as hanging.
Plaza discussed dealing with grief during an appearance on her Parks and Recreation co-star
Amy Poehler
's podcast.
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She said: 'Right in this very, very present moment, I feel happy to be with you. Overall, I'm here and I'm functioning. I feel really grateful to be moving through the world. I think I'm okay, but it's like a daily struggle, obviously.'
She told Poehler's Good Hang podcast that she compared her grief to the 2025 movie The Gorge, which stars Miles Teller and Anya Taylor-Joy.
She said: 'This is a really dumb analogy and it was kind of a joke at a certain point, but I actually mean it. Did you see that movie The Gorge? ... In the movie, there's a cliff on one side and there's a cliff on the other side, then there's a gorge in between and it's filled with all these monster people that are trying to get them.
'I swear, when I watched it, I was like 'that feels like what my grief is like' ... or what grief could be like.
'At all times, there's like a giant ocean of awfulness that's right there and I can see it. Sometimes I just want to dive into it, and just like be in it. Then sometimes I just look at it, and sometimes I try to get away from it. But, it's always there.'
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Plaza separated from Baena in September 2024, according to a report by the Los Angeles County coroner investigator.
The couple had been in a relationship since around 2011 and they married a decade later.
Plaza told The
Ellen DeGeneres
Show in December 2021 that they made the decision to tie the knot after getting 'a little bored one night' during the Covid pandemic.
The pair worked together on the 2014 horror film Life After Beth and 2017 historical comedy The Little Hours.
Plaza is best known for her role as April in the workplace comedy Parks and Recreation, in which Poehler played politician Leslie Knope.
She is also famous for her role in the second series of
The White Lotus
and the Marvel series Agatha All Along. She has also starred in Hollywood films including Megalopolis, My Old Ass, Ingrid Goes West, Dirty Grandpa and Emily The Criminal.
Baena wrote 2020 thriller Horse Girl, starring
Alison Brie
, and 2022 dark comedy Spin Me Round, both of which he also directed, as well as 2004 comedy I Heart Huckabees, starring Jude Law, Jason Schwartzman, Dustin Hoffman and Mark Wahlberg.
He also created the anthology comedy series Cinema Toast, which had an episode directed by Plaza and another starring Community actress Alison Brie.
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