My husband Ben posted my age on Instagram. Friends were aghast. Why, asks Marina Fogle
While adults, those beneficiaries of education, maturity and decades of life experience, are reticent about their age, regarding getting older as an embarrassment, a frailty, a weakness, children, unsullied by this manufactured shame regard it as it should be, a privilege.
Growing up, I was aware of this stigma. My grandmother, the down-to-earth product of a generation who came of age during a war, was bafflingly elusive about her age. 'I'm as old as my tongue, and a little older than my teeth,' she would say, mysteriously. This puzzled me; did she think I would admire her less if I knew how old she was?
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