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Share your experience of renewing your vows
Couples eager to celebrate their love with their friends and family a second time around often choose to renew their wedding vows. We're interested in finding out more about people's experiences and why they decided to do it again. How did you celebrate and how did it compare to your first wedding? Perhaps your original wedding plans were affected by the pandemic. How did the vow renewal affect your relationship afterwards? You can tell us why you renewed your vows and how it affected your relationship by filling in the form below. Please include as much detail as possible. Please include as much detail as possible. Please include as much detail as possible. Please note, the maximum file size is 5.7 MB. Your contact details are helpful so we can contact you for more information. They will only be seen by the Guardian. Your contact details are helpful so we can contact you for more information. They will only be seen by the Guardian. If you include other people's names please ask them first. If you're having trouble using the form click here. Read terms of service here and privacy policy here.
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