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4 days ago
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Woman Told Friend in Bad Marriage ‘I Don't Want to End Up Like You' After Friend Told Her to ‘Lower' Her Standards
The woman, who shared her story on Reddit, said the friend is married to a man who "doesn't respect" herNEED TO KNOW A woman recently told a friend, 'I don't want to end up like you' after the friend told her to 'lower' her standards with men She went on to say that the friend is in a bad marriage with an unpleasant man The friend is no longer speaking to her, and the woman is now unsure if she did the right thingA woman recently told a friend, 'I don't want to end up like you' in the middle of an argument, and she's wondering if she crossed a line. The 22-year-old detailed her story on the 'Am I the A------?' forum on Reddit, a place where people can go to get input and advice on interpersonal issues. In her post, the woman said that she befriended a woman named Rachel three years ago when they were both in college. Rachel met a guy named Max two years ago, and they 'quickly began dating.' 'He isn't the most pleasant guy to be around in my opinion,' the woman admitted, adding that 'they had quite a few big arguments during the relationship.' 'He even tried to flirt with me, and I told Rachel about it, but she dismissed it, saying he was probably just trying to butter me up so I [would] help him with homework,' she continued. 'He has told some sexist jokes in the past, too. Whenever they fought, I always told Rachel she deserves better and to break up with him, but in the end they always made up.' The Reddit user said that Rachel and Max got married four months ago, and that Max 'became even worse' in that time. 'He never helps out with cleaning or cooking, doesn't really take Rachel out on dates anymore, and whenever she tries to talk to him about it, Max tells her to stop complaining about 'wife's duties,' ' the woman explained. The PEOPLE Puzzler crossword is here! How quickly can you solve it? Play now! She went on to say that Rachel recently asked her if she'd like to go on a date with a guy she knew from high school who recently became single. The woman — who said she has always been single and is very content on her own — agreed to the outing. 'I've never been on a date before, so I agreed out of curiosity,' she explained. However, the date was a bust. 'We went to a nice restaurant. The guy never asked me a single question about myself [...] and after I got tired of coming up with questions about him, we just sat the rest of the meal in awkward silence. We split the bill, and after he walked me to the subway station, he tried to kiss me. I declined as politely as I could and went home,' she recalled. The Redditor said that Rachel confronted her about the date the following day and asked why she 'rejected' the guy. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. 'I told her the reasons,' the woman said, at which point Rachel, 'rolled her eyes and said that I need to lower my standards because I'm honestly not that attractive, that I blew maybe my only chance to date and if I continue like that I'll end up forever alone.' The woman said she 'got angry' and ultimately told Rachel, "Better to be forever alone than end up like you, with a husband that doesn't respect me.' She said that Rachel started crying and claimed she was only trying to 'look out' for her — and added that they haven't texted or spoken since. 'Honestly, I'm not sure if I want to salvage this friendship after finding out this is how Rachel felt about me all this time,' she reflected. 'However, I feel guilty for saying this to her when I knew it was a sore spot, and also for kinda blaming her for the fact that her husband is awful.' 'So, AITA [am I the a------] in this situation?' she asked at the end of the post. The woman's fellow Redditors were quick to tell her that she was in no way wrong to assert herself in this specific situation. 'NTA [not the a------] AT ALL,' one person said. 'Good for you for sticking to your standards, you have a good head on your shoulders. Keep up the great work!' 'She is in a toxic relationship and she knows it,' another Redditor said. 'She might be jealous of you as well — your confidence and self-worth. Don't get dragged down into the dirt.' Several others said that they thought the woman should seriously consider whether the friendship is worth maintaining. 'This isn't a friend. This is a deeply damaged person with low self-esteem who wants to make you as miserable in a relationship as she is so that she can commiserate with you. Honestly, I'd slowly exit this 'friendship.' Sometimes you outgrow your friends and need to leave them behind so they don't keep you there with them,' one person said. 'Please distance yourself from her or anyone who reasons like her,' agreed someone else. Read the original article on People Solve the daily Crossword
Yahoo
11-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Bridesmaid bails on destination wedding — but still wants to go on trip paid for by bride and groom: ‘You sound like a lousy friend'
She ditched the wedding — but still wants the vacation. A disgruntled bridesmaid is getting roasted online after revealing how she plans to skip her bestie's destination nuptials — but keep the comped flights and hotel to turn the trip into a romantic getaway with her boyfriend. The 27-year-old woman aired her drama in Reddit's fiery 'Am I The A–h—e' forum, admitting in her July 9 post that she backed out of the bridal party over a dustup with the groom's sister during a girls' getaway gone wrong. According to the would-be bridesmaid, the chaos kicked off during a bachelorette trip with five other ladies, including the groom's sister Mia — who was added to the bridal party at his request. The Redditor claimed Mia 'accused' her of 'taking her earrings' after she was the last one to leave the Airbnb bathroom. Despite finding the earrings later, Mia allegedly kept making 'digs' — and never apologized. What really steamed the bridesmaid? The bride, Ava's silence. 'I was super upset that Ava didn't say anything to Mia, but told me that she believed me, and Ava's other friends were on my side,' the woman fumed. 'After the trip, I sent Ava a message saying I was super upset she didn't stand up for me or say anything after Mia had found her earrings.' But instead of an apology, she got radio silence from her friend. So the original poster dropped a bombshell of her own: 'I was going to drop out of the bridal party.' The bride wasn't thrilled, pointing out her decision would leave the groomsmen uneven and that it was 'too close to the wedding to make a drastic change.' Still, the bridesmaid bowed out — but didn't want to bow out of the trip. She noted the bride and groom had already 'covered flights and a hotel' — and her boyfriend 'bought his ticket,' too. So, she reasoned, why waste a good vacation? Her boyfriend suggested they 'make it a holiday,' especially since they'd 'already taken the time off work and can't change it.' Cue the internet backlash. Commenters slammed her for turning a wedding into a selfish staycation. 'You're literally planning on stealing from your 'friend.' She bought your flights and hotel so you could attend her wedding, not f–k around with your boyfriend,' one seethed. Another said, 'You want to punish your friend over a misunderstanding with the groom's sister, and she's paying for you to be there? You sound like a lousy friend.' An additional user didn't mince words: 'Put yourself in her shoes. You are threatening to throw a wrench into her entire wedding plan because she didn't derail her own bachelorette party to defend your honor from someone she has already told you she wasn't a fan of and was difficult. It's just self-centered tbh.' Someone else chimed in, 'If I was the bride, I would cancel the hotel room.' And she's not the only one turning a wedding into a personal getaway — another pair packed their bags and crossed continents for 'I do's' they weren't even invited to. As The Post previously reported, one stunned couple flew 14 hours and forked over thousands — only to find out they weren't even invited to the destination 'I do's.' 'We flew across the world for a wedding we technically weren't even part of,' Yasemin Sarli explained to People in a recent interview. Despite getting an early save-the-date text, the couple never got a formal invite — but that didn't stop her ex from going full steam ahead. Convinced they made the guest list, he 'booked everything,' shelling out $1,500 on flights and $3,000 for a swanky five-night stay where other guests were reportedly bunking, per the magazine. Whether it's skipping the vows or crashing them entirely, these travelers prove one thing: wedding season may be for love — but some folks are just in it for the perks.
Yahoo
13-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Groom Accuses Sister of 'Ruining' His Wedding After She Told Him a Secret About Their Dad
A teenage girl is questioning whether she was right to share some sensitive information about her brother's wedding during the reception According to a post shared to Reddit's AITAH (Am I The A------?) forum, a 16-year-old girl told her brother at his wedding that their dad had used ChatGPT to generate his speech "I didn't mean to cause drama," she wrote in the post, sharing that her family members told her that she had ruined the wedding with her comment to her brotherA teenage girl is questioning whether she was right to share some sensitive information about her brother's wedding after her whole family became angry with her. In a post shared to Reddit's r/AITAH (Am I The A------?) forum, a 16-year-old girl opened up about attending her 25-year-old brother's wedding the weekend prior. According to the teen, "It was a beautiful ceremony, until it wasn't." "My brother and our dad have always had a tense relationship," she shared. "They're civil, but there's a lot of unspoken resentment there. My brother always felt like Dad wasn't emotionally available growing up, always worked too much, missed birthdays, etc. Dad, on the other hand, insists he 'did his best' and doesn't believe in 'dredging up the past.' You get the picture." According to the Redditor, her dad knocked on her bedroom door just two nights before the wedding to ask her to help him write a speech for the big day — but he wanted to AI-generate it. "He said he was 'too tired' to be sentimental, but knew he had to say something," she shared. "So he asked me to help him figure out how to use ChatGPT." "I showed him how to log on, typed in a prompt and that was it. He copied it, edited maybe two words, and saved it in his Notes app," the teen continued. "I asked him if he really wanted to say something he didn't write himself and he just shrugged and said, 'It says it better than I ever could,' I didn't say anything else at the time but I figured that he wouldn't ACTUALLY do it." According to the Reddit post, the wedding day turned out "beautiful," and people were moved by her father's speech. "People were crying," she shared. "Even my brother looked really emotional like he was actually touched. He hugged Dad afterwards." "Later that evening, after a few drinks and while things were winding down (of course I wasn't drinking) my brother found me and said, 'I didn't expect Dad to say all that. Do you think he meant it?' " the Redditor continued. "I hesitated of course but I ended up feeling bad so I figured I'd just tell the truth. I ended up saying something like, 'I mean he used ChatGPT to write it. So maybe?' " She shared that everything quickly blew up after she told her brother the truth, adding that she "didn't say it in a mean way" and that she "wasn't trying to ruin anything." "I genuinely thought he had a right to know. But I could see the exact moment his face changed. He went quiet and walked away. I didn't see him for the rest of the night," she added. The following day, the teen said that she woke up to nearly a dozen text messages from family members — including her mother, who is divorced from their dad — who all said that she "crushed" the nice moment between her brother and father and told her that she "could've kept my mouth shut." "I didn't mean to cause drama," she finished the heartfelt post, before asking the Reddit community if she truly was in the wrong. "I just didn't like seeing my brother connect with something that wasn't even real. He's now barely speaking to Dad again, and to me either." Many replies had mixed opinions about the situation, as commenters argued that while the teen's dad was wrong to fake such a sentimental moment on a major day in his son's life, it was still not a good idea to share that information on the wedding day. "Sure, your dad took the easy way out by having AI write the speech, but he did choose to use those words and who is to say that they did not reflect his true feelings and that is why he chose to use them," one reply read (although the original poster later clarified that her dad only "skimmed" the speech after generating it). "Bottom line is, he read those words and I'd give him the benefit of the doubt that they were sincere. So I'd say [you're the a------] because I think you outed him because of your own resentment, not a deep desire for the truth," the reply continued. "Massive YTA," another commenter added. "I know you still have a lot of growing up to do, but you really need to work on how to treat others." Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. Others agreed that while the original poster [OP] probably should not have shared this information at the wedding reception, she was simply a teenager whose family put her in a "lose-lose situation." is now available in the Apple App Store! Download it now for the most binge-worthy celeb content, exclusive video clips, astrology updates and more! "You had a choice between lying to your brother in order to save the night, which would have led him to probably resent you for the lie later on, if you ever decided to set matters straight, or if the truth came out (which I believe it would have, given that your brother was genuinely surprised by, and curious about, the speech) - or you had the option of telling him the truth, as you did," another reply argued. "While it sounds like you could have handled the matter a little bit more sensitively, it feels like your family are shooting the messenger in channeling their anger towards you, rather than your dad, who's ultimately responsible for having played his son's emotions by reading out an AI-generated speech," the reply continued. "... I don't think you're an a------, OP - I think you're 16 years old, and need to learn to handle things with a little bit more sensitivity, but that you were put in a really awkward position, and picked the lesser of two evils." Read the original article on People
Yahoo
07-05-2025
- Yahoo
Woman Who Claims She's 'Favored' by Her Parents Says Sister Is Upset She Booked a Family Vacation Without Her
The woman shared that she asked her parents and sister if they wanted to come on a trip to a "beachy" locale, but her sister told her that she was unable to as she was having passport issues with her child The woman went ahead and booked the trip for her family and parents anyway She said this caused her sister to get "upset," which is something she feels bad about A woman says her sister is "upset" after she booked a trip without her. The woman shared in a post on Reddit's popular "Am I The A------" forum that she opted to book a vacation at an international "beachy" locale for her family of three and her parents, who also agreed to come on the trip. She noted that she was 'fairly close' with her sister and even checked if her sister and her family would be able to come on the trip as well. However, her sister told her that there was an issue with her baby's name on his birth certificate so he didn't have a passport yet and they wouldn't be able to go. Despite this, the Reddit user said that she went ahead and booked the trip anyway, but since then she said that her sister's attitude had changed toward her. Related: Can You Email Me Now? Half of Americans Lie to Their Boss About Having Wifi on Vacation: Survey 'Now my sister seems cold and upset at me. Is it wrong that I booked a family vacation with my parents without my sister?,' she asked. 'I don't know when her baby's passport will be ready, and don't want to wait,' she continued. 'I also think it will be nice to have fewer people going, it means my parents can watch my son while me and my husband can go on a few dinners / excursions on our own.' Getty A stock photo of a family vacation A stock photo of a family vacation Never miss a story — sign up for PEOPLE's free daily newsletter to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. The woman shared that she is often more 'favored' by their parents, so she can understand why her sister may feel that way. However, she also noted that if her sister went on the trip, she and her husband would've 'subsidized part of her trip, as her sister has 'financial troubles' due to credit card debt. She said that because of her sister's financial situation, her husband 'doesn't particularly want to travel with my sister's family and thinks that we will end up having to pay for them too much,' while pointing out a prior trip that she paid for her sister to go on last month. 'Either way I feel bad because she is acting upset,' the woman wrote before opening up the forum to comments. Related: Man Says His Mother-in-Law Insists on Inviting Her Friends on Their Family Vacation — Even Though He's Paying for It Several people noted that she shouldn't worry too much about it as her sister wasn't able to go. One person wrote, '... you gave her the invite [and] she couldn't swing put life on pause waiting on passports, don't let the guilt trip ruin the real trip.' Another person chimed in: 'This summer you wanted to go to the beach with your family and very nice you invited your parents. you offered it to your sister but something SHE is doing has prevented it from happening for her, so you can go ahead.' 'If they couldn't go for legal reasons (passport) I don't understand how you could be the [a------] in this situation,' another person wrote. 'This was your trip and travel plan, and just because they cant go doesnt make you an [a------] for doing something you wanted to do.' Read the original article on People
Newsweek
01-05-2025
- General
- Newsweek
Why Bride Refuses To Invite Sister-in-Law to Wedding Cheered: 'Out of Line'
Based on facts, either observed and verified firsthand by the reporter, or reported and verified from knowledgeable sources. Newsweek AI is in beta. Translations may contain inaccuracies—please refer to the original content. The internet has backed a bride who made the controversial decision to exclude her sister-in-law from her wedding guest list—sparking a family rift. The situation was shared by the bride's brother, posting under the username u/CoralCryptic, who explained that his wife, 32, and his older sister, 37, have long had a strained relationship. The sister is a divorcee with one child, and the entire family—including the poster's wife—gathers bi-monthly at their father's home. "Now the issue is between my sister and my wife. Whenever they have even a small disagreement, my wife resorts to saying really hurtful things to my sister. The one she always uses is something like, 'You're not ashamed of yourself? At your age, no husband, single mother...'" he wrote. "I've told my wife multiple times that this is completely out of line and unnecessary, and there are better ways to express herself if there's a problem. But she keeps doing it." The post, which gained 9,900 upvotes in the subreddit AITA [Am I The A*****], revealed that the sister has now drawn a firm boundary. According to the original poster, his sister is preparing to remarry—to who he described as a "genuinely great guy" who is also financially well-off. She invited all family members to the celebration except for his wife. "She was very clear about it too," he wrote. "She said my wife has consistently made her feel like less than because of her past, and she doesn't want her at her wedding." Upon returning home, his wife was furious. She told him it was improper for his sister to invite him and not her, and that he should decline to attend. "I told her flat-out that she brought this on herself and that I am going to my sister's wedding. It's her big day and she deserves happiness without drama," he said. Since then, his wife has become "cold and distant," accusing him of choosing his family over her. He ended the post by asking the community: "AITA for still planning to attend my sister's wedding even though my wife wasn't invited?" Expert Insight Therapist Frank Thewes, owner of Path Forward Therapy LLC, weighed in on the situation with Newsweek, supporting the original poster's decision to attend the wedding. "OP's wife has set her own table here," Thewes told Newsweek. "Based on what's provided, she seems to have boundary issues and can't seem to hold back the impulse to say hurtful things to her sister-in-law." While acknowledging the situation may damage the marriage, Thewes added: "This post gives the sense that there are already major issues in the relationship waiting to emerge between OP and his wife. OP should have eyes on that fact when he goes to the wedding." However, he also offered hope that the fallout might lead to a reckoning and a healthier future for the couple. A stock image showing a man looking apprehensive whilst at a wedding. A stock image showing a man looking apprehensive whilst at a wedding. Wavebreakmedia/iStock / Getty Images Plus Reddit Reacts Many Reddit users were quick to take the husband's side. "NTA but why do you want to be married to someone like this? I'd have my sister serve her divorce papers," wrote one commenter. "I'd go to the wedding and celebrate your sister," another user chimed in. "Your sister deserves support on her big day. Ignoring her feelings impacts your marriage, but your wife's behavior is also unacceptable. Tough situation all around," echoed another. Newsweek reached out to u/CoralCryptic for comment via Reddit. We could not verify the details of the case. Newsweek's "What Should I Do?" offers expert advice to readers. If you have a personal dilemma, let us know via life@ We can ask experts for advice on relationships, family, friends, money and work and your story could be featured on WSID at Newsweek.
