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Daily Record
7 hours ago
- General
- Daily Record
Dear Coleen: Crippling shyness in social situations is ruining my life
The other thing is, I blush a lot, which I find very stressful, as it's obvious to everyone I'm with how I'm feeling inside. Things that other people take for granted feel like an ordeal for me. Dear Coleen My problem is that I'm a very shy man when I'm out with other people in social situations and I feel it's ruining everything for me. Life feels like a battle a lot of the time and I overthink every scenario. The other thing is, I blush a lot, which I find very stressful, as it's obvious to everyone I'm with how I'm feeling inside. Things that other people take for granted feel like an ordeal for me. For example, if I go out for dinner with a group of people, I'm only able to eat a small amount, as the shyness and the blushing take over and put me off my food. All I can think about is how I'm coming across to the other people. I live in Ireland, but in two weeks' time I have to travel to England to visit my brother and his wife and family, and I haven't been able to stop thinking about it and worrying about how I'll cope. I hope this doesn't seem like a trivial problem for you to answer. I'd be very grateful for any suggestions on how I can cope better. Coleen says Of course it's not a trivial problem; shyness is a real issue, which affects your self-esteem and can stop you from enjoying your life to the full. I'm glad you're going to visit your brother and his family and that you haven't backed out because the only way to feel more comfortable in social situations is to keep showing up. It's important to know that if you're out in a social situation, you don't have to be the life and soul of the party; there are always other people who are very good at that. And when people speak to you, just answer them without feeling any pressure to be funny or outgoing. Try not to overthink what people are expecting of you because they won't be expecting anything and don't assume they're judging you. Join the Daily Record WhatsApp community! Get the latest news sent straight to your messages by joining our WhatsApp community today. You'll receive daily updates on breaking news as well as the top headlines across Scotland. No one will be able to see who is signed up and no one can send messages except the Daily Record team. All you have to do is click here if you're on mobile, select 'Join Community' and you're in! If you're on a desktop, simply scan the QR code above with your phone and click 'Join Community'. We also treat our community members to special offers, promotions, and adverts from us and our partners. If you don't like our community, you can check out any time you like. To leave our community click on the name at the top of your screen and choose 'exit group'. If you're curious, you can read our Privacy Notice. The chances are, most people won't notice you blushing and, if they do, it won't affect how they think of you. Also, sometimes it can be good to just own it and say something like, 'I feel shy in these situations', because people will understand, and you might get something back like, 'Don't worry, I find these situations tricky, too.' I'm shy, which surprises people because I have a job on the telly but, in a room full of people, I'm always one of the quietest because I find big groups quite intimidating. In a small circle, I'm fine. It's worth having some icebreakers in your back pocket (there's loads of help online). Also, think about cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) or hypnotherapy to help with confidence. Most importantly, keep trying.
Daily Mirror
19 hours ago
- Entertainment
- Daily Mirror
Wayne Rooney is banned from watching son, 15, play football for sad reason
Wayne Rooney has been banned from watching his son Kai play football, with the Manchester United legend's fame meaning the 15-year-old has to tell his dad to stay away Wayne Rooney's celebrity status has emerged as the reason behind the Manchester United legend being barred from watching his son Kai play football. The 15-year-old is the eldest child of Rooney and wife Coleen, who are also parents to three younger boys - Klay, 11, Kit, eight, and Cass, six. Kai became part of the Red Devils academy in 2016, treading the same path as his iconic father who dedicated 13 years to Old Trafford and holds the club's scoring record with 253 goals. Despite being recognised as a promising talent, the young striker has informed his celebrated dad that his presence isn't welcome at matches, owing to the enormous crowds he attracts. The revelation came during Coleen's appearance on ITV's I'm A Celebrity... Get Me Out Of Here last year. Prior to securing second place behind McFly vocalist Danny Jones, she shared details of her son's difficult choice with her fellow campmates, reports the Express. "That's the thing with kids I think, it's hard to go on days out," Coleen revealed to her jungle companions last December. "Kai told Wayne to stop coming to football games, when he played grassroots tournaments and stuff because he used to get swarmed and he couldn't even watch the game. "How do you say to all of these kids, 'Go away, I'm watching my son?' Adults, it's different you could speak to them, so he [Kai] just said, 'Oh, dad there's no point you coming because you don't even watch me play anyway.' Which is sad, but it can't be helped anyway. At the same time, the fans help you along the way and get you where you are." Despite his father's absence, Kai has continued to shine in the academy and even found the net in United's opening SuperCupNI fixture on Monday. The teenager converted from the penalty spot and mimicked the trademark celebration of Arsenal's latest acquisition, Viktor Gyokeres. Following his assist for Sam O'Brien's opener against West Cork Academy, Kai confidently dispatched the spot-kick before team-mate Abdoulaye Bassirou Nkoto sealed a third. The celebration, which sees Gyokeres mask his face by weaving his fingers together, was devised whilst the Swedish striker was on his holidays, with the forward admitting his mates pushed him to devise his own goal celebration. "Before I got it, my friends were always saying to me to find my own celebration because they were very tired of me doing all kinds of stuff when I was celebrating," he previously said. "I had some time off. We went on vacation together. During that time, we came up with it after a while. We thought it looked good, and I started doing it straightaway. It felt even better on the pitch." Despite the existence of his ban, Rooney, 39, attended the tournament in Northern Ireland alongside his wife to keep a keen eye on their son in action. The ex-Plymouth boss spoke to BBC News NI about his son's career in the academy and the role he plays in his progression. "He has great coaches at Manchester United, so I take a stand-off approach," Rooney said. "I speak to him, but for me it's all about his mentality and his mindset, to make sure he keeps enjoying it – that's the main thing for me. It's a long time since I was here, but it does bring back great memories. "The Super Cup, like many other tournaments, is a fantastic place to go away as a young person; you're away with your team-mates in a hotel together, and it's great for team building." Join our new WhatsApp community and receive your daily dose of Mirror Football content. We also treat our community members to special offers, promotions, and adverts from us and our partners. If you don't like our community, you can check out any time you like. If you're curious, you can read our Privacy Notice.
Daily Record
a day ago
- General
- Daily Record
Dear Coleen: Angry husband's perma-rage could end our marriage
It's rarely directed at me or anyone in the family; the way it comes out is in road rage or he'll have a go at neighbours for parking in an awkward spot or leaving their bins in the wrong place. Dear Coleen My husband is full of rage and, the way things are going, I'm not sure there's an alternative but to divorce him. He's not physically violent, thank goodness, but he's verbally aggressive and the slightest thing sets him off. It's rarely directed at me or anyone in the family; the way it comes out is in road rage or he'll have a go at neighbours for parking in an awkward spot or leaving their bins in the wrong place. He also gets mad at shop assistants if they take too long, or waiters, bank clerks and so on. He's like a bear with a sore head and I find myself walking on eggshells around him and I now dread going anywhere with him in case something or someone sets him off. He's always been a bit inclined to unreasonable rage, but the problem has definitely become worse as he's got older, but I've been putting off having a big conversation with him in case he blows a fuse. It's not just me; I've noticed that other people avoid him and therefore avoid us, so it's affected our social life. Who wants to go for dinner with an angry man who shouts at staff if his steak is undercooked? I'd appreciate anything you can suggest that might help. Coleen says Well, I think we do become more set in our ways with age and possibly less willing to put up with things. I think for a lot of people it manifests in not sweating the small stuff and being able to react more calmly and remove yourself from situations or people that annoy you. Not so for your husband. There's always something else behind anger – fear or anxiety – so I think it's worth your husband trying to understand why he's so triggered all the time. I do think you need to have that conversation and explain that you don't want to live on the edge all the time, and that his anger has become an issue that you're not willing to accept unless he starts taking steps to address it. Join the Daily Record WhatsApp community! Get the latest news sent straight to your messages by joining our WhatsApp community today. You'll receive daily updates on breaking news as well as the top headlines across Scotland. No one will be able to see who is signed up and no one can send messages except the Daily Record team. All you have to do is click here if you're on mobile, select 'Join Community' and you're in! If you're on a desktop, simply scan the QR code above with your phone and click 'Join Community'. We also treat our community members to special offers, promotions, and adverts from us and our partners. If you don't like our community, you can check out any time you like. To leave our community click on the name at the top of your screen and choose 'exit group'. If you're curious, you can read our Privacy Notice. But also, try to get him to see that feeling the way he does isn't good for him either in terms of his physical and mental health. It can't be nice for him to feel on edge all the time. And help him to see how it's affecting his relationships with family and his friendships too. You could do some research and find out what's available locally in terms of counselling and anger management or cognitive behavioural therapy, as well as online resources but, ultimately, it's his problem that he needs to figure out. You can show him how he can be helped, but he needs to be willing to accept it. If he doesn't take you seriously, then you have a choice to make about what's best for you.
Daily Mirror
2 days ago
- General
- Daily Mirror
'I wouldn't cheat on my wife, but her attractive friend made drunken pass at me'
Agony aunt Coleen Nolan has advice for a reader who's concerned after a friend came on to him while they were away, and doesn't want his wife to think there's anything in it I'm a married man in my 30s and I need your advice on a situation with a married female friend of ours. We see her and her husband regularly and we're part of a bigger group of friends. The background is that I've always felt an attraction between me and this woman, but neither of us has ever spoken about it and I'm not interested as I love my wife and wouldn't cheat. But a couple of weeks ago, a group of us went to a Greek island for a break and, the night before we left to come home, this woman got quite drunk and cornered me at the bar. She draped herself over me, grabbing my waist and telling me how she's always fancied me. I was worried about someone seeing us, so I guided her back to the lounge. Luckily her husband came over and took her back to their room. She didn't say anything to me at breakfast the next day and hasn't said anything since. I've since found out from another friend that her marriage has been in trouble for a while. I don't know whether to say something to her, but my main concern is I don't want my wife to find out and think there was anything to it. Coleen says, Well, maybe she didn't remember or she could have been embarrassed that she had crossed a line. I think you're worrying about this because you know there's some sexual chemistry between you and this woman, but you haven't done anything to feel guilty about. If you don't like hiding it from your wife, then why not say something like, 'I wonder if things are OK in her marriage because she was flirty with me the other night after a few drinks and it was a bit awkward'. Then take a step back from her and her husband socially for a while. Also, maybe give some more thought to why this has unsettled you so much – is it because you are very attracted to this friend and you wanted to act on it, but didn't? Yes, it's a bit embarrassing and it could have been more embarrassing if the others had seen it, but nothing happened. So is this a case of you wrestling with your own conscience because you have feelings for her? Try not to put yourself in a situation where it might happen again and, if it does, then be very clear that you're not interested.
Daily Record
2 days ago
- Health
- Daily Record
Dear Coleen: I'm grieving and worried sick about my health
"I've been putting off health checks, as I'm too scared to go in case I also have the disease, which I know doesn't make any sense, but I don't want to face the possibility that something is wrong with me" Dear Coleen I'm a woman in my 40s and have very bad health anxiety at the moment. I'm sure it's got something to do with my age and feeling older, but I've lost three people close to me in the space of six months, which has been very hard. One was an old friend, who I'd known since school, then my dad passed away and then my cousin, who was the same age as me. They all died from different types of cancer and now it's all I think about. I've been putting off health checks, as I'm too scared to go in case I also have the disease, which I know doesn't make any sense, but I don't want to face the possibility that something is wrong with me. I have two young children and the thought of leaving them without a mother haunts me. I feel ill all the time, which is probably psychosomatic, but I Google my symptoms constantly. It's really affecting my mental health and my quality of life. I know you've been bereaved recently and have cancer in your family, and wonder how you've been able to cope. Any ideas to help calm my anxiety would be welcome. Join the Daily Record WhatsApp community! Get the latest news sent straight to your messages by joining our WhatsApp community today. You'll receive daily updates on breaking news as well as the top headlines across Scotland. No one will be able to see who is signed up and no one can send messages except the Daily Record team. All you have to do is click here if you're on mobile, select 'Join Community' and you're in! If you're on a desktop, simply scan the QR code above with your phone and click 'Join Community'. We also treat our community members to special offers, promotions, and adverts from us and our partners. If you don't like our community, you can check out any time you like. To leave our community click on the name at the top of your screen and choose 'exit group'. Coleen says When people close to you die, I think it's natural to think about your own mortality. I felt it after my sister Linda died in January, so I don't want you to think you're alone in trying to process these thoughts and feelings. I also felt selfish and quite guilty for thinking about myself, which is maybe something you've felt, too. I dealt with my grief for Linda and my fears around my own health by having therapy. I realised I was feeling overwhelmed and it helped a lot to speak to someone. You've had to cope with a lot in the past six months, so please reach out to your GP or have a look online for private therapists or support groups. The bereavement charity Cruse ( is a good place to start and you can search for its local support services. Stop Googling – if you stub your toe, the chances are the internet will tell you that cancer is a possibility. I think it also helps to own how you feel and name your fears because they lose some of their power and become less scary. Tell friends and your partner how you feel and get their perspective. Explain to your doctor you're afraid of screening. If you did have a health issue, not getting tested won't make it go away and the purpose of screening is to catch disease early and treat it. Also, if you have tests and get the all-clear, it'll give you peace of mind and remove anxiety.
