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The Irish Sun
28-07-2025
- The Irish Sun
Thousands of women's photos STOLEN from dating app used by 1.6 million as hackers break into messages
A POPULAR dating app used by 1.6 million women has been hacked, as tens of thousands have their data leaked. The app was designed to keep women safe by allowing them to do background checks on their dates - but the data breach has now left female users at risk. 2 Tea for Dating Advice was hacked on Friday, exposing the personal information of its female user base Credit: Tea Who is affected by the data breach? After hackers gained "unauthorised access" to Tea Dating Advice, they leaked the private information of its women user base. Boasting 1.6 million subscribers, an estimated 72,000 images submitted by women This includes photos the women submitted as part of a photo identification process to set up their account for the women-only app. The platform's privacy policy claims that these photos are "deleted immediately" after the account has been authenticated. Read more Tech However, Members of the forum claimed to have discovered an exposed database of users that had subscribed to the app. They proceeded to share screenshots of the women's personal data and pictures across social media. The breach affects members who signed up before February 2024. Most read in Tech On Friday, The company said it was "working with some of the most trusted cyber security experts" as they try to "protect this community - now and always". Inside romance scam target lonely singles on dating apps but what they don't know is if we die What is Tea Dating Advice? Tea Dating Advice provided a similar service to popular Facebook groups like On the platform, women post pictures and information about men that they are dating, trying to warn others about their own negative experiences. This could range from raising awareness of a partner who was abusive, to someone who ghosted after a first date. Individuals will share their own anecdotal experiences, including anonymous dating reviews, to potentially pre-warn other users To access the app, users must first upload selfies to verify that they are a woman. Once on the site, they can then share, or search for photos of men - usually through screenshots of social media and other dating apps. According to the app's website, this serves a number of functions: Find verified green flag men Run background checks Identify potential catfish Verify he's not a sex offender Check for a criminal history Check for hidden marriages Users can search for men using reverse image search, or by looking up their phone numbers. It allows them to "share experiences and seek advice within a secure, anonymous platform". The app also donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, with its main purpose being to protect women. Founder Sean Cook created Tea in November 2022 after seeing his mum navigate online dating. Not only was she catfished, but he was horrified to learn that she had been unknowingly engaging with men who had criminal records, making him realise that "traditional dating apps do little to protect women". Thus, he was inspired to create a platform that made dating feel "safe, informed and empowering". Users cannot take screenshots while using the app, helping to maintain privacy of its users. Why has it faced criticism? The app received backlash by some claiming it is anti-men and an invasion of privacy. They fear that it puts men at risk of invasion of privacy and defamation, with women taking out their anger after a bad date, rather than exposing legitimate concerns. These concerns were reflected in a lawsuit against Meta for posts made in the Are We Dating the Same Guy Facebook group. Nikko D'Ambrosia took legal action against Meta because of a number of claims made about him on Facebook. The lawsuit was later thrown out by a federal judge Defamation laws in the US make it difficult for men to make a successful claim if they are posted on the app. The Sun has reached out to Tea for comment. 2 The platform posts 1.6 million subscribers, with 72,000 images leaked in the breach Credit: Getty
Scottish Sun
28-07-2025
- Scottish Sun
Thousands of women's photos STOLEN from dating app used by 1.6 million as hackers break into messages
APP-APPALING! Thousands of women's photos STOLEN from dating app used by 1.6 million as hackers break into messages Click to share on X/Twitter (Opens in new window) Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window) A POPULAR dating app used by 1.6 million women has been hacked, as tens of thousands have their data leaked. The app was designed to keep women safe by allowing them to do background checks on their dates - but the data breach has now left female users at risk. Sign up for Scottish Sun newsletter Sign up 2 Tea for Dating Advice was hacked on Friday, exposing the personal information of its female user base Credit: Tea Who is affected by the data breach? After hackers gained "unauthorised access" to Tea Dating Advice, they leaked the private information of its women user base. Boasting 1.6 million subscribers, an estimated 72,000 images submitted by women have been leaked. This includes photos the women submitted as part of a photo identification process to set up their account for the women-only app. The platform's privacy policy claims that these photos are "deleted immediately" after the account has been authenticated. However, personal information about some of its users was posted to the right-wing forum site, 4chan on July 25. Members of the forum claimed to have discovered an exposed database of users that had subscribed to the app. They proceeded to share screenshots of the women's personal data and pictures across social media. The breach affects members who signed up before February 2024. On Friday, the company confirmed that an additional 59,000 images from the app showing posts, comments and direct messages from over two years ago were accessed. The company said it was "working with some of the most trusted cyber security experts" as they try to "protect this community - now and always". Inside romance scam target lonely singles on dating apps but what they don't know is if we die What is Tea Dating Advice? Tea Dating Advice provided a similar service to popular Facebook groups like Are We Dating the Same Guy? On the platform, women post pictures and information about men that they are dating, trying to warn others about their own negative experiences. This could range from raising awareness of a partner who was abusive, to someone who ghosted after a first date. Individuals will share their own anecdotal experiences, including anonymous dating reviews, to potentially pre-warn other users about bad behaviour. To access the app, users must first upload selfies to verify that they are a woman. Once on the site, they can then share, or search for photos of men - usually through screenshots of social media and other dating apps. According to the app's website, this serves a number of functions: Find verified green flag men Run background checks Identify potential catfish Verify he's not a sex offender Check for a criminal history Check for hidden marriages Users can search for men using reverse image search, or by looking up their phone numbers. It allows them to "share experiences and seek advice within a secure, anonymous platform". The app also donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, with its main purpose being to protect women. Founder Sean Cook created Tea in November 2022 after seeing his mum navigate online dating. Not only was she catfished, but he was horrified to learn that she had been unknowingly engaging with men who had criminal records, making him realise that "traditional dating apps do little to protect women". Thus, he was inspired to create a platform that made dating feel "safe, informed and empowering". Users cannot take screenshots while using the app, helping to maintain privacy of its users. Why has it faced criticism? The app received backlash by some claiming it is anti-men and an invasion of privacy. They fear that it puts men at risk of invasion of privacy and defamation, with women taking out their anger after a bad date, rather than exposing legitimate concerns. These concerns were reflected in a lawsuit against Meta for posts made in the Are We Dating the Same Guy Facebook group. Nikko D'Ambrosia took legal action against Meta because of a number of claims made about him on Facebook. The lawsuit was later thrown out by a federal judge in Illinois. Defamation laws in the US make it difficult for men to make a successful claim if they are posted on the app. The Sun has reached out to Tea for comment.
Newsweek
12-06-2025
- Health
- Newsweek
Most Women Can Spot 'Toxic Masculinity' After This Many Dates
Based on facts, either observed and verified firsthand by the reporter, or reported and verified from knowledgeable sources. Newsweek AI is in beta. Translations may contain inaccuracies—please refer to the original content. Roughly 79 percent of women said they could spot "toxic masculinity" as early as the third date in a new study, which also found that nearly 7 in 10 said there was a growing emotional divide between men and women. Why It Matters Toxic masculinity generally refers to harmful beliefs and behaviors related to masculine ideals taken to the extreme. The phrase can include a wide array of behavior, from actions to dominate and harm women to homophobia, pushing down emotions and being overly aggressive and competitive with other men. As increasing numbers of Americans stay single and women have become financially independent from men today, any hint of toxic masculinity on an early date could be a dealbreaker. Its overall impact on dating culture could also lead to long-term tension between the sexes. What To Know Toxic masculinity is seen as a deal-breaker for many women, according to Match's Singles in America study of 75,000 singles. Among all singles, the traits most closely associated with healthy masculinity were kindness and empathy (34 percent), and nearly 8 in 10 women said they could spot toxic masculinity by the third date. Nearly 70 percent of women said the emotional divide is growing between the genders. The lived experiences of men and women in dating can have stark contrasts. A third of single men said women assume they're only interested in sex, and one in four feel unfairly labeled commitment-phobic. "It's understandable that women are turned off by toxic masculinity right now. The feminist movement is being eroded by a historic backlash against the #MeToo movement. We are in scary times for sure," Dr. Wendy Walsh, a relationship expert from DatingAdvice, told Newsweek. "However, can we please slow the roll on the toxic masculinity finger pointing? Ladies, please! Every male behavior isn't toxic. It may just be, well, it may just be a masculine trait. Now, I'm not saying that toxic masculinity doesn't exist, nor that it doesn't hurt women. It's there and it does. But is it overdiagnosed? For sure." On the other hand, many women felt misjudged as only looking for a provider over a partner, and often felt men believed they were looking for hookups over a meaningful connection. File photo of a man and woman dining in New York City's Bryant Park on August 13, 2021. File photo of a man and woman dining in New York City's Bryant Park on August 13, the growing gap between men and women, singles are more likely to believe in love now than they were in 2014. The belief in love at first sight nearly doubled from 34 percent to 60 percent in that time frame, and 73 percent of all singles still believe in forever love. Roughly seven in 10 even said they believe in destiny when it comes to relationships. "Today's singles are rejecting the one-size-fits-all approach to dating," Garcia said. "The human desire for love has not changed, but the ways in which single adults pursue and prioritize it are radically evolving." The study also found that nearly half of singles in their 40s were having sex at least once a month, and 93 percent said sexual compatibility and chemistry are key factors in romantic relationships. "By their 40s, many singles have outgrown the pressure to perform or conform," said Dr. Amanda Gesselman, director of Sex and Relationship Science at Match, in a statement. "They know what they like, and they're unapologetic about it. For them, sex isn't about experimentation, it's about refinement." Still, 47 percent of all singles reported feeling burned out by dating, and 54 percent feel drained by the modern dating scene. What People Are Saying Dr. Wendy Walsh, a relationship expert from DatingAdvice, told Newsweek: "It is important that women notice when a man feels threatened by a woman's power and attempts to compensate through bragging, intimidation, and that age-old psychological trick that many men use—putting down a woman to undermine her self-esteem." Dr. Justin Garcia, chief scientific adviser to Match and executive director of the Kinsey Institute, said in a statement: "There's a disconnect between the way many people define masculinity, and how men and people who date men want them to show up in relationships. Kindness and empathy are universally desired traits when it comes to finding a romantic partner, and this year they rose even higher up the rankings. Emotional depth, among both men and women, is incredibly valuable as singles search for someone they can reliably weather the storms of life with." What Happens Next For some women, toxic masculinity might be confused with a desire for traditional gender roles, Walsh said. "Gender roles are learned within families, and there are still plenty of men who need a little nudge and education in this area to make things feel fair at home. But I think it's an overreach to call a man like this 'toxic' when he's just been conditioned by his family of origin," Walsh said. However, Walsh said far more men than women are diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, with up to 7 percent of men potentially having the disorder. Since narcissists tend to be the "poster boys" for toxic masculinity, it makes sense why women are on guard, Walsh said. However, there are still differences between genders that may need to be understood before establishing a healthy relationship, she added. "Just like in politics, I think men and women need move closer to the middle. It's unrealistic to hope your boyfriend will think and feel just like a girlfriend," Walsh said. "You can marry a girlfriend if you like. We all need to understand that there are documented sex brain differences. Understanding, male psychology would help many women in their dating lives just as it is incumbent on men to learn how women think, feel and behave. The best relationships happen when partners have curiosity and empathy for each other."
CBS News
14-02-2025
- General
- CBS News
6 green flags to look for in a partner, according to relationship experts
Daters are often aware of red flags, behaviors to avoid or undesirable traits in a potential partner. But what green flags, or positive traits, should singles be on the lookout for? Frankie Bashan, a clinical psychologist, board-certified sex therapist and relationship expert with over 20 years of experience, said shifting your focus from red flags to green flags can lead to more successful dating. "You want to be looking for all this from the outset," she said. "Because we're wired for survival, what do we notice? We notice the orange and red flags right away, and it often scares us, so we foreclose opportunities." Instead, she encourages people to suspend immediate judgment and be curious. "I'm noticing this, but I'm not going to make a definitive answer just yet. Right now, I'm just taking in information," she advised thinking. "Our brains don't do it automatically. It has to be intentional." Here are some green flags to look for. Reliability While showing up late or canceling a date last-minute may be a red flag, doing the opposite is a green flag. "Do they commit to a date? Do they show up on time?" Bashan said of indications someone is reliable. Trustworthiness As they share information about themselves, Bashan said you want to see if they're consistent in their stories. "Figure out, is this somebody that is trustworthy?" she said. Values relationships Having and valuing relationships outside of a romantic partner — like friends and family — is another green flag, according to Bashan. "Is this person somebody who can have sustainable, long term relationships?" she said. "Not everybody has family that they're close to for one reason or another, but do they have chosen family? Do they have friendships that they value and that are important to them, that they invest in?" Reciprocity Someone who's not afraid to let you know that they're interested is another green flag. "When you're sharing about yourself, your interests, your desires for relationships, what you're looking for — they're listening," Bashan said. "They're not just waiting for you to finish so that they can give a response and focusing on how they want to respond to everything. No, they're actually attentive, focused, curious about you." Boundaries Being able to set (and respect!) boundaries is another green flag, according to Wendy Walsh, a relationship expert at the website DatingAdvice and psychology professor with a doctorate in clinical psychology. "There's been some talk on social media about people who trauma dump on dates," she said, explaining this isn't the way to go. "They think they're being open, authentic and vulnerable, but what they're really doing is disclosing too much, too soon." Or, if your date asks you something you're uncomfortable answering on a first encounter, take note of how they respond to you setting a boundary of not sharing that part of yourself just yet. Balance of dependance A relationship is about growing both together and independently, and Walsh said it's a green flag when someone understands and demonstrates and appropriate balance. Picture a Venn diagram with the circles representing the individuals and the overlapped area representing the relationship. "Relationships are unhealthy when the two circles completely overlap. Psychologists would call that the enmeshed. They're so enmeshed that nobody can remember whose problem is whose, and they start to control each other, and what ends up happening is the individual starts to die," she said. "Now picture the two circles right beside each other, but not overlapping. And now you have individual growth, but you have no relationship security."
