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Scottish Sun
2 days ago
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- Scottish Sun
I was certain my girlfriend had cheated, Dear Deidre helped me see what was really happening and deal with the truth
Heartbroken reader thanks Dear Deidre team after burning sensation worries - scroll down to see how YOU can submit any problem to our team THANK YOU SAL I was certain my girlfriend had cheated, Dear Deidre helped me see what was really happening and deal with the truth Click to share on X/Twitter (Opens in new window) Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window) DEAR DEIDRE: THANK you for saving my relationship after I became convinced my girlfriend had cheated on me when I developed an STI. The burning and itching all around my privates was so distracting that I knew it didn't bode well. Then I started to have trouble going to the loo. Sign up for Scottish Sun newsletter Sign up Dr Google diagnosed me and my mind went into meltdown. My girlfriend had been on a 'girl's week away' to Ibiza the month before and when she got home she was too tired for sex. Thinking back I realised we'd only had sex once since her return and she didn't seem that into it then. I put two and two together and came up with seven. I knew I had been faithful the entire time and so in my head there was only one logical explanation; not only had she cheated, but she hadn't used protection and had put both our sexual health at risk. I was furious and on the verge of leaving her. Distraught, I had already moved out to the spare room. Completely baffled, she kept asking why I was so angry and what was going on. At that point I felt so let down by her - we'd been together for three years and I was considering asking her to marry me. I couldn't even bear to look at her. Then, I wrote to you, and thank goodness I did. You told me to get to the sexual health clinic so that I could get any necessary treatment and information, you reassured me the staff would be respectful and considerate. Spotting the signs your partner is cheating Then you explained to me that there are some STI's that lay dormant, for years even, which if relevant in my case could explain my recent symptoms within a committed relationship. I went to the clinic, discovered I had genital warts and the doctor confirmed that the virus (HPV) could have lain dormant and undetected in either myself or my girlfriend. Taking a deep breath, I explained to my girlfriend why I had been so upset and cross. She initially felt very let down by me, not just because I had assumed the worst, but because I didn't talk to her. I got in contact again with you and you coached me on how to reconnect with her and show her I really wanted to change. Six months on since I initially wrote to you in my desperate state, and I am very happy to say she said 'yes' when I asked her to marry me. So, thank you. From both of us. DEIDRE SAYS: I'm so pleased you contacted me. By confiding your worries, I was able to explain this STI could have lain dormant in your or your girlfriend's system for years - to a time that predated you meeting each other even. It would have been such a shame to end a good relationship because you had jumped to the wrong conclusion. Your story also highlights why it's so valuable to communicate well. By keeping everything locked up your problems were only magnified. You aren't the first person to write in with the completely wrong impression of what is really going on. My support pack Looking After Your Relationship explains how to improve your communication skills.
Scottish Sun
24-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Scottish Sun
Kinky one-night stand has reignited my sex life with husband – but now he's asking where my new fetish has come from
DEIDRE AFTER DARK Kinky one-night stand has reignited my sex life with husband – but now he's asking where my new fetish has come from Every Saturday read our new, even racier, Dear Deidre advice column only in Sun Club...
Scottish Sun
09-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Scottish Sun
Agony aunt Dear Deidre solves your raunchiest problems EVER in new After Dark column -prudes, look away now!
Keep your eyes peeled for our unmissable new column in which Britain's raciest agony aunt tackles YOUR bedroom problems DEIDRE AFTER DARK Agony aunt Dear Deidre solves your raunchiest problems EVER in new After Dark column -prudes, look away now! 3 SWINGING, polyamory and love affairs which break the ultimate no doubt that Britain's bedroom antics are only getting racier. And now Britain's best agony aunt - the Sun's legendary Dear Deidre - is launching an unmissable new column. Advertisement 3 If you've got a dirty little secret that you want answers to, you've come to the right place Credit: Getty 3 From tomorrow, Dear Deidre will be able to answer your most risque problems yet... Credit: Getty Prepare to get frisky, as After Dark is set to explore the most risque problems to hit her postbag. Starting tomorrow, exclusively for Sun Club members, our team of counsellors will answer the nation's raciest questions yet. Sally Land, the Sun agony aunt behind Dear Deidre, explained: 'Britain is a million miles away from its straight-laced reputation. 'Dear Deidre has always tackled people's secrets, helping them move forward with their problems no matter how serious. Advertisement 'But there are plenty of issues that are too risque for a family news outlet and over the years there have been countless problems that we haven't been able to publish - until now. 'With Dear Deidre After Dark we take a peek at the big issues playing out in bedrooms from Carlisle to Bournemouth.' Every Saturday, the team will be sharing yet another challenging and extreme problem, looking at sexual addictions, surprising fantasies and relationship shattering revelations. So if you've been fantasising about sleeping with your girlfriend's best pal, or aren't sure how to control your kinky role play, we've got you covered. Advertisement And if your sex life is drier than ever before and you're desperate to really spice things up, prepare for the sexiest tips you've ever seen that are sure to drive your partner (or partners!) wild. Sally explains 'People write in for a variety of reasons; some because they know me and my team of counsellors will give them sound, well researched and insightful advice, others get in touch because they can't face sharing their problem with family or friends and others are simply looking for a different perspective. 'With the increasing pressure to have an exciting or adventurous sex life, many people find themselves in intensely uncomfortable situations, which makes it ever more important to explore and explain what is happening in our sexual relationships. Dear Deidre: Understanding open relationships 'In Dear Deidre After Dark we look at the raunchiest previously unpublished dilemmas.' Advertisement It comes at a time where Brits are wilder in the bedroom than ever before, with one in 25 couples have admitted to trying swinging. THE TOP FIVE SEXUAL PROBLEMS THAT WOMEN ARE ASKING The top five sexual question from women filling Dear Deidre's postbag : Should I have a threesome? Is it safe to engage in erotic asphyxiation? How quickly should I have sex when I meet someone new? Is it okay to share nudes straight away? Why does my boyfriend constantly flirt with other women and like their revealing images? With more heterosexual women confessing to fantasising about sleeping with other women and polyamory - which involves having multiple relationships - on the rise, what better time to get into the nitty gritty of what really goes on behind closed doors? Not only are one in ten of us now in a polyamours relationship, with Belfast crowned the UK 'capital of polyamory', but affairs are also up by eight per cent across the UK since the start of 2024. And that's not all, as in a recent study, one in three admitted they would dump their lover if they were a let down in bed, while last year, Durex flagged a 64 per cent rise in Brits buying sex toys to spice up things in the sheets. Advertisement Sun expert Sally also explained: 'From sex parties, kinks, open relationships, and porn addiction becoming commonplace, true Britannia is a million miles away from its straight-laced reputation. In Dear Deidre After Dark we look at the raunchiest previously unpublished dilemmas Sally Land 'We are more sexually open minded, more adventurous and the wide availability of porn is pushing the boundaries of sexual relations." So if you've got a burning desire you need answers for, scroll down to get in touch with our expert counsellors. Every query will get a personal reply from one of our team of counsellors within just one working day. Advertisement Dear Deidre always keeps our readers' identities confidential. Unlock even more award-winning articles with The Sun's brand new membership programme - Sun Club
The Irish Sun
09-05-2025
- Entertainment
- The Irish Sun
Agony aunt Dear Deidre solves your raunchiest problems EVER in new After Dark column -prudes, look away now!
3 SWINGING, polyamory and affairs with the no doubt that Britain's bedroom antics are only getting racier. And now Britain's best agony aunt - the Sun's legendary Dear Deidre - is launching an unmissable new column. Advertisement 3 If you've got a dirty little secret that you want answers to, you've come to the right place Credit: Getty 3 From tomorrow, Dear Deidre will be able to answer your most risque problems yet... Credit: Getty Prepare to get frisky, as After Dark is set to explore the most risque problems to hit her postbag. Starting tomorrow, exclusively for Sun Club members, our team of counsellors will answer the nation's raciest questions yet. Sally Land, the Sun agony aunt behind Dear Deidre, explained: 'Britain is a million miles away from its straight-laced reputation. 'Dear Deidre has always tackled people's secrets, helping them move forward with their problems no matter how serious. Advertisement Read more on Dear Deidre 'But there are plenty of issues that are too risque for a family news outlet and over the years there have been countless problems that we haven't been able to publish - until now. 'With Dear Deidre After Dark we take a peek at the big issues playing out in bedrooms from Carlisle to Bournemouth.' Every Saturday, the team will be sharing yet another challenging and extreme problem, looking at sexual addictions, surprising fantasies and relationship shattering revelations. So if you've been fantasising about Advertisement Most read in The Sun Latest And if your sex life is drier than ever before and you're desperate to really spice things up, prepare for the sexiest tips you've ever seen that are sure to drive your partner (or partners!) wild. Sally explains 'People write in for a variety of reasons; some because they know me and my team of counsellors will give them sound, well researched and insightful advice, others get in touch because they can't face sharing their problem with family or friends and others are simply looking for a different perspective. 'With the increasing pressure to have an exciting or adventurous sex life, many people find themselves in intensely uncomfortable situations, which makes it ever more important to explore and explain what is happening in our sexual relationships. Dear Deidre: Understanding open relationships 'In Dear Deidre After Dark we look at the raunchiest previously unpublished dilemmas.' Advertisement It comes at a time where Brits are wilder in the bedroom than ever before, with one in 25 couples have admitted to trying swinging. THE TOP FIVE SEXUAL PROBLEMS THAT WOMEN ARE ASKING The top five sexual question from women filling Dear Deidre's postbag : Should I have a threesome? Is it safe to engage in erotic asphyxiation? How quickly should I have sex when I meet someone new? Is it okay to share nudes straight away? Why does my boyfriend constantly flirt with other women and like their revealing images? With more Not only are And that's not all, as in a recent study, one in three admitted they would dump their lover if they were a let down in bed, while last year, Advertisement Sun expert Sally also explained: 'From sex parties, kinks, open relationships, and porn addiction becoming commonplace, true Britannia is a million miles away from its straight-laced reputation. In Dear Deidre After Dark we look at the raunchiest previously unpublished dilemmas Sally Land 'We are more sexually open minded, more adventurous and the wide availability of porn is pushing the boundaries of sexual relations." So if you've got a burning desire you need answers for, scroll down to get in touch with our expert counsellors. Every query will get a personal reply from one of our team of counsellors within just one working day. Advertisement Dear Deidre always keeps our readers' identities confidential. Unlock even more award-winning articles with The Sun's brand new membership programme - Sun Club DEAR DEDIRE'S FREE COUNSELLING Dear Deidre's unique service provides free counselling to anyone who writes into our trained therapists. We reply to every single request within one working day, offering support, insight, practical advice and signposting other useful agencies. Our counsellors often stay in contact with users for weeks or months at a time. We never reveal the identities of letter writers and change details to protect people's privacy. And all this at a time when the average rate of counselling per session starts at £40 and goes up to £80. So if something is bothering you, email me and my team of counsellors on
The Sun
09-05-2025
- Entertainment
- The Sun
Agony aunt Dear Deidre solves your raunchiest problems EVER in new After Dark column -prudes, look away now!
3 SWINGING, polyamory and affairs with the no doubt that Britain's bedroom antics are only getting racier. And now Britain's best agony aunt - the Sun's legendary Dear Deidre - is launching an unmissable new column. 3 3 Prepare to get frisky, as After Dark is set to explore the most risque problems to hit her postbag. Starting tomorrow, exclusively for Sun Club members, our team of counsellors will answer the nation's raciest questions yet. Sally Land, the Sun agony aunt behind Dear Deidre, explained: 'Britain is a million miles away from its straight-laced reputation. 'Dear Deidre has always tackled people's secrets, helping them move forward with their problems no matter how serious. 'But there are plenty of issues that are too risque for a family news outlet and over the years there have been countless problems that we haven't been able to publish - until now. 'With Dear Deidre After Dark we take a peek at the big issues playing out in bedrooms from Carlisle to Bournemouth.' Every Saturday, the team will be sharing yet another challenging and extreme problem, looking at sexual addictions, surprising fantasies and relationship shattering revelations. So if you've been fantasising about sleeping with your girlfriend's best pal, or aren't sure how to control your kinky role play, we've got you covered. And if your sex life is drier than ever before and you're desperate to really spice things up, prepare for the sexiest tips you've ever seen that are sure to drive your partner (or partners!) wild. Sally explains 'People write in for a variety of reasons; some because they know me and my team of counsellors will give them sound, well researched and insightful advice, others get in touch because they can't face sharing their problem with family or friends and others are simply looking for a different perspective. 'With the increasing pressure to have an exciting or adventurous sex life, many people find themselves in intensely uncomfortable situations, which makes it ever more important to explore and explain what is happening in our sexual relationships. 'In Dear Deidre After Dark we look at the raunchiest previously unpublished dilemmas.' It comes at a time where Brits are wilder in the bedroom than ever before, with one in 25 couples have admitted to trying swinging. With more heterosexual women confessing to fantasising about sleeping with other women and polyamory - which involves having multiple relationships - on the rise, what better time to get into the nitty gritty of what really goes on behind closed doors? Not only are one in ten of us now in a polyamours relationship, with Belfast crowned the UK 'capital of polyamory', but affairs are also up by eight per cent across the UK since the start of 2024. And that's not all, as in a recent study, one in three admitted they would dump their lover if they were a let down in bed, while last year, Durex flagged a 64 per cent rise in Brits buying sex toys to spice up things in the sheets. Sun expert Sally also explained: 'From sex parties, kinks, open relationships, and porn addiction becoming commonplace, true Britannia is a million miles away from its straight-laced reputation. 'We are more sexually open minded, more adventurous and the wide availability of porn is pushing the boundaries of sexual relations." So if you've got a burning desire you need answers for, scroll down to get in touch with our expert counsellors. Every query will get a personal reply from one of our team of counsellors within just one working day. Dear Deidre always keeps our readers' identities confidential.
