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Hindustan Times
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Bengaluru real estate developers welcome Karnataka's new setback norms but warn of project delays, higher costs
Bengaluru real estate developers say the Karnataka government's amendment to setback norms under the Revised Master Plan (RMP) 2015 will bring much-needed clarity and design flexibility, particularly for mid-rise buildings. They caution, however, that ongoing projects may face short-term redesign costs and delays in adapting to the updated requirements. Bengaluru developers say Karnataka's amendment to setback norms under RMP 2015 offers clarity and design flexibility, but warn of short-term costs and delays for ongoing projects. (Representational Image) (Unsplash ) The amendment, effective August 1, updates setback standards for buildings across the city, with a particular focus on structures taller than 12 metres. Setback refers to the minimum open space between a building and the property boundary. Under the revised rules, buildings on plots up to 4,000 sq. m must maintain at least 1.5 metres at the front and 1 metre each on the sides and rear. For larger plots, the minimum is 5 metres on all sides. Buildings with 12–15 floors but no stilt floor must have a 5-metre setback, with higher requirements for taller structures. Also Read: Independence Day 2025: Bengaluru struggles to achieve freedom from flooding, traffic and unplanned urban growth Clarity and livability gains Industry experts say the codified norms will improve light, ventilation, and safety in new developments while resolving inconsistencies in earlier guidelines. 'The amended setback rules are a welcome move, particularly for buyers,' said Priyanka Kapoor, senior vice president at Research and Advisory, ANAROCK Group. 'They eliminate ambiguity, especially for buildings using stilt floors for parking, and address safety concerns. But their real impact will depend on proper implementation alongside infrastructure upgrades.' Lakshmi Prasad G V, Head of Liaison at Assetz, said the changes also enhance buildable potential for certain projects. 'Buildings up to 15 metres in height now benefit from the exclusion of stilt floors (up to 3 metres) from total height calculations, allowing one additional floor without design penalties. This improves design flexibility and enables more efficient parking layouts.' Short-term challenges: Increased costs, likely to delay ongoing projects While the new rules are expected to smooth approvals and improve urban design, developers admit the transition won't be seamless. 'This amendment was required and brings standardisation, especially for taller structures,' said Anil RG, managing director, Concorde. 'However, reworking designs and approvals for ongoing projects could cause delays and raise costs, and in some cases, we may need to re-evaluate project feasibility.' Prasad of Assetz noted that the amendment applies to all existing buildings with proposed modifications and all ongoing projects, meaning some developers will have to redesign plans, incur additional approval costs, and extend timelines for projects. Also Read: Will US tariffs alter the landscape of luxury and affordable housing in India? Developers will likely adapt new design innovations To adapt, developers are looking to design innovations. 'Balancing FAR optimisation with setbacks requires context-specific solutions,' Prasad said. 'We can use stilt floors smartly, adopt vertical stacking, and work closely with planning authorities to remain compliant without compromising viability.' Developers say that design innovations such as vertical stacking, efficient floor plate layouts, and integrated service cores help maintain project viability even with larger setback requirements. "Additionally, engaging early with planning consultants and development authorities is crucial to optimising layouts while ensuring compliance," Prasad said. Anil RG noted that setbacks, when designed well, can improve livability. 'We should focus on optimising space without sacrificing light, air, and comfort. Setbacks, when used well, can actually enhance the livability of a project,' he said. Overall, developers say that amended regulation fosters a more streamlined and enforceable planning regime, even though they may face short-term friction in adjusting to these standards.
India Today
06-08-2025
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- India Today
Why FAFO parenting is blowing up right now
If you're a parent sitting there thinking, "When does this get easy?"—hate to break it to you, but the easy part is long gone. Remember those well-meaning elders who told you to enjoy your pregnancy before the real roller coaster begins? And how you rolled your eyes, thinking, "How hard can it really be?"Well, now you know, it was wisdom speaking. The early days may have been a blur of feeding schedules, first words, and milestone celebrations. But as your child grows, the challenges evolve: What kind of parent do you want to be? How involved is too involved? How much freedom is the right amount?advertisementAnd just when you thought you had parenting figured out, there's a new trend everyone's talking about: FAFO parenting, which stands for F**k Around and Find is it? Dr Deepak Gupta, child and adolescent psychiatrist, senior consultant, Sir Ganga Ram Hospital, New Delhi, explains that FAFO parenting is a firm, consequence-based approach where kids learn through real-world outcomes rather than repeated warnings."This approach believes that natural consequences support the development of critical thinking skills by allowing children to feel empowered in their decision-making, rather than simply following directives from authority figures," he tells India this, Priyanka Kapoor, a Mumbai-based couple and family counsellor, psychotherapist and psychologist, adds that this parenting style lets the child learn the hard way. "People are tired of explaining and being kind to children. Children are taking advantage of politeness and patience, and parents are losing patience," she states. This parenting style encourages kids to make decisions and learn from them | Photo: Pexels/KoolShooters She further shares that the ideology behind FAFO parenting is to make the child learn through experiences. Experiences often teach good lessons in life. Such an approach increases resilience, high self-esteem, boundaries, and gentle parentingA lot of parents have started feeling like gentle parenting, while great in theory, can sometimes swing too far. Sure, it's all about empathy and understanding, which sounds amazing, but when every tantrum gets met with endless negotiations, some mums and dads feel like the lines blur. Where are the boundaries? Who's actually in charge here?That's where the concern comes in: if kids never hear 'no' or face real consequences, does that set them up to think the world will always bend for them? Some parents believe it does, and that it can create a sense of entitlement without meaning to Dr Gupta, there's a noticeable shift. Parents are looking for something a little firmer, a style that still cares but doesn't compromise on structure and agrees, "Gentle parenting is giving parents a hard time, where children are becoming more rebellious and disrespectful. Children always think in black and white ways. Their brain is not equipped to understand the shades of grey. Hence, the absence of rules, restrictions, and strictness can lead to children taking advantage." Parents are taking a break from gentle parenting | Photo: Pexels/Arina Krasnikova Meanwhile, according to Nishita Srivastava, clinical psychologist, LISSUN (a mental health startup), parents are now moving away from gentle parenting because it can feel exhausting. Being the constant guide, always calm, always explaining, it's a lot. And after all that effort, many still feel taken for resonate with FAFORiddhi Doshi Patel, a Mumbai-based child psychologist and parenting counsellor, says FAFO parenting resonates with parents for two reasons: it promotes independence and responsibility in kids, and it helps parents reclaim the authority they felt they were losing with gentle parenting."With gentle parenting, the support needed to be 100 per cent. Even if you wanted to discipline a child, you'd point it out gently once or avoid discipline altogether. Over time, kids started taking their parents for granted. Parents were stressed, especially during and after the pandemic, when behavioural changes weren't showing up despite all the patience and calmness."advertisementFAFO feels different because it brings boundaries back into the equation. "The idea is simple: you explain, you warn, and if the child still does it, then the responsibility is theirs," Patel says, adding, "Parents like this because they grew up with very authoritative parents and wanted to break away from that. Many went all-in on gentle parenting because social media made it seem like the only 'right' way. But now, they want balance."However, the problem is, parents take one style and follow it to the extreme. You need to merge styles and balance them for Priyanka Kapoor, FAFO parenting makes kids emotionally and physically independent. They are solving their problems themselves. They are able to handle difficult emotions and it means for kidsNishita Srivastava tells us that this style of parenting gives kids a strong sense of autonomy from an early age. They're trusted to make their own choices, within safe limits, and that freedom comes with an important lesson: every action has a it's positive or negative, they begin to understand cause and effect in real life. Over time, this helps them develop accountability, decision-making skills, and resilience because they learn to own the results of their choices instead of relying on someone else to bail them further explains that FAFO parenting can affect kids both short and long term. At first, children may struggle to see their parent as affectionate rather than cold, but over time, it fosters autonomy and confidence. These kids often develop decision-making skills earlier and feel more assured in their Kapoor feels that the FAFO style of parenting may sometimes mean ignorance or neglect to the child. It depends upon the age of the child and also the personality."When the child is young, till the age of eight, they need guidance, warmth, and affection too. For some kids, especially those who are rebellious, it is respect, space, and independence. But kids who are sensitive and emotional can't handle everything all alone emotionally, physically, or in relationships. Hence, each to its own," she this parenting style can help kids become resilient and emotionally strong, it's not without risks. If taken to the extreme, children may end up feeling detached, lonely, or even emotionally neglected. The lack of warmth and affection can create a sense of emptiness, which over time may build into anger and Doshi Patel also shares that for kids, FAFO can sometimes feel harsh. The tone of 'I warned you, now deal with it' may backfire, leaving children feeling emotionally unsafe or unsupported. Some may fear making mistakes, worry about who will help them, or even withdraw from sharing things with their overused, this approach can damage trust, create anxiety, or lead to lying and internalised shame. Too much of FAFO parenting can lead to fear and lying | Photo: Pexels/August de Richelieu Is FAFO the right approach?The experts believe that FAFO parenting style can be effective, but only when used thoughtfully. Like anything else, too much of it isn't good. The ideal approach is a balanced one: a mix of authority, warmth, affection, and independence. Without guidance, children can make wrong decisions that may lead to serious works best when paired with empathy. If it turns punitive, parents need to reassess and bring in connection-based discipline, like a lighthouse, offering safety, support, and clear boundaries while still giving children space to explore, make mistakes, and single parenting style works for everyone. What matters is finding the right balance for your child. Extreme approaches rarely work; what children need is firmness combined with kindness.- EndsMust Watch
India Today
30-07-2025
- Lifestyle
- India Today
How to keep the spark alive between bottles and blowouts
Getting married is a major milestone in any relationship, but choosing to have a child takes that bond to an entirely new level. The real challenge, however, begins after the baby arrives. Sleepless nights, constant crying, hours of rocking the baby, and even the tiniest health scares can test your patience and your every small thing feels like an irritant, and the pressure can expose cracks even in the strongest of partnerships. Parenthood can be overwhelming, and for many couples, it's hard to survive the emotional and physical toll it are moments when all you want is a guidebook to navigate it all, something to remind you that despite the chaos, despite the exhaustion, when you look at your partner, unkempt and drained, you still see the most beautiful human being in the changes with a child, even love Having a baby takes a serious toll on the mother's body, and the dad, after a long day at work, is usually the one rocking the baby and helping his partner recover, just wishing for a little rest. With both feeling tired and not quite themselves, intimacy naturally fades into the background for a while. No matter how much you miss being close, things just aren't the same for some time."When a child arrives, the dyad becomes a triad. The romantic relationship, which was once central, now makes room for a third individual (baby) who has a dependency," Ruchi Ruuh, a Delhi-based relationship counsellor, tells India this, Priyanka Kapoor, a Mumbai-based psychotherapist, psychologist, couple and family counsellor, adds, "With the arrival of the baby, roles change as partners become parents, and it may take time to manage and absorb this, which can lead to confusion and stress. This change also impacts intimacy, which can lead to deprivation, emotional distance, frustration, fatigue, and conflicts."Ruuh agrees that partners have less time and energy for each other as the attention is now diverted towards raising the baby. Sleepless nights and child-raising stress can lead to conflicts frequently. As partners get into new roles, they may feel unseen or unsupported. You start dealing with new vulnerabilities around the new member in the priorities shift?The experts share that the arrival of a new member surely changes the priorities, but it shouldn't entirely replace the couple's connection."Parenthood and partnership must coexist. Being a good parent doesn't require abandoning being a good partner," says further explains, "In Indian households, there's often martyrdom in motherhood, where mothers disappear into the caregiving role. And fathers get busier providing and sometimes discount their presence at home. This imbalance can create resentment or emotional distance." Don't put your relationship on pause | Photo: Pexels/Juan Mendez Meanwhile, as per Kapoor, a couple should prioritise the child, as the first five years are the most important for the child's long-term emotional and physical well-being. However, balancing your relationship with your spouse is crucial too, and it is possible by putting in conscious romance still part of the story?Even with the child taking up all the attention and time, romance isn't secondary. "It's the glue that keeps the couple connected. After kids, it might look different, but it's still vital," says also states that being romantic is very important to keep the spark and interest alive; otherwise, the relationship can become dry and boring, and one can lose interest sneak in romance as new parents, create moments of micro-intimacy throughout the day. This could mean a check-in before bedtime, making a cup of tea for your partner, or just a long just this, but use love languages like physical touch, affirming words, acts of service, even a simple 'you're doing great', which can be romantic during this five minutes before bed just talking, no baby talk, no chores, can also be helpful. Share one high and one low from your day. It keeps the emotional connection partners take up co-parenting, they should keep certain things in mind that can benefit the relationship:You're a team, not opponents. Speak about your partner with respect in front of the divide the task, don't delegate. Shared responsibilities are a sign of equity, not of couples start keeping score of what they do. This can lead to resentment and feelings of rituals of connection. Weekly check-ins about parenting, talking about feelings that might be assume your partner should just know what your needs are. Convey them in a respectful quickly after conflict. Children pick up on tension. It models healthy conflict parenthood... togetherRuuh tells us that surviving parenthood together means being intentional partners, not just default parents. Your relationship will change, accepting that is key. With a little one in your family, life becomes more scheduled than spontaneous, and that's mentions that joining parenting groups can provide emotional support, practical tips, and a sense of community during a phase that often feels isolating. Connecting with others who are going through similar challenges can remind you that you're not hesitate to lean on family and close friends; they can help lighten the load, whether it's through babysitting, running errands, or just offering a listening is just as important. Often, one partner, usually the primary caregiver, bears the brunt of physical and emotional exhaustion. But when one person is completely drained, the relationship suffers too. Parenting starts with taking care of yourself| Photo: Pexels/Andrea Piacquadio Taking time to rest, eat well, pursue hobbies, or simply have a moment of quiet is not selfish, it's necessary. A well-cared-for parent is better able to care for the child and nurture the also shares that healthy parenthood can only be possible when the couple is in sync with each other and the partners are happy with each to her, communication is key. Be open with your partner about what you're feeling and experiencing, don't expect them to just also important for both partners to share common values and stay aligned on important matters like health, parenting responsibilities, and finances, which can often become sources of don't ignore each other's emotional and physical needs. Instead, make a conscious effort to bridge the distance and stay connected. Small acts of care and understanding go a long the burp cloths and sleepless nights, here's what might be hurting your relationship without you realising it:Unequal emotional and physical labour is a major stressor in relationships, especially in Indian households, where women often end up as the default parent and caregiver. This imbalance can lead to burnout and feelings of being taken for time, intimacy begins to fade when couples slip into the roles of only co-parents, rather than continuing to nurture their bond as lovers or friends. This emotional disconnect can significantly affect desire and resentment also builds when one partner feels unsupported or unappreciated, especially when their efforts in the relationship go unresolved fight doesn't just end, it leaves behind a layer of emotional distance. When conflicts aren't dealt with properly, they pile up, creating a wall between partners. Learning to communicate openly and resolve disagreements with empathy can protect, and even strengthen, the relationship.- EndsTrending Reel
