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Newsweek
01-05-2025
- General
- Newsweek
Why Bride Refuses To Invite Sister-in-Law to Wedding Cheered: 'Out of Line'
Based on facts, either observed and verified firsthand by the reporter, or reported and verified from knowledgeable sources. Newsweek AI is in beta. Translations may contain inaccuracies—please refer to the original content. The internet has backed a bride who made the controversial decision to exclude her sister-in-law from her wedding guest list—sparking a family rift. The situation was shared by the bride's brother, posting under the username u/CoralCryptic, who explained that his wife, 32, and his older sister, 37, have long had a strained relationship. The sister is a divorcee with one child, and the entire family—including the poster's wife—gathers bi-monthly at their father's home. "Now the issue is between my sister and my wife. Whenever they have even a small disagreement, my wife resorts to saying really hurtful things to my sister. The one she always uses is something like, 'You're not ashamed of yourself? At your age, no husband, single mother...'" he wrote. "I've told my wife multiple times that this is completely out of line and unnecessary, and there are better ways to express herself if there's a problem. But she keeps doing it." The post, which gained 9,900 upvotes in the subreddit AITA [Am I The A*****], revealed that the sister has now drawn a firm boundary. According to the original poster, his sister is preparing to remarry—to who he described as a "genuinely great guy" who is also financially well-off. She invited all family members to the celebration except for his wife. "She was very clear about it too," he wrote. "She said my wife has consistently made her feel like less than because of her past, and she doesn't want her at her wedding." Upon returning home, his wife was furious. She told him it was improper for his sister to invite him and not her, and that he should decline to attend. "I told her flat-out that she brought this on herself and that I am going to my sister's wedding. It's her big day and she deserves happiness without drama," he said. Since then, his wife has become "cold and distant," accusing him of choosing his family over her. He ended the post by asking the community: "AITA for still planning to attend my sister's wedding even though my wife wasn't invited?" Expert Insight Therapist Frank Thewes, owner of Path Forward Therapy LLC, weighed in on the situation with Newsweek, supporting the original poster's decision to attend the wedding. "OP's wife has set her own table here," Thewes told Newsweek. "Based on what's provided, she seems to have boundary issues and can't seem to hold back the impulse to say hurtful things to her sister-in-law." While acknowledging the situation may damage the marriage, Thewes added: "This post gives the sense that there are already major issues in the relationship waiting to emerge between OP and his wife. OP should have eyes on that fact when he goes to the wedding." However, he also offered hope that the fallout might lead to a reckoning and a healthier future for the couple. A stock image showing a man looking apprehensive whilst at a wedding. A stock image showing a man looking apprehensive whilst at a wedding. Wavebreakmedia/iStock / Getty Images Plus Reddit Reacts Many Reddit users were quick to take the husband's side. "NTA but why do you want to be married to someone like this? I'd have my sister serve her divorce papers," wrote one commenter. "I'd go to the wedding and celebrate your sister," another user chimed in. "Your sister deserves support on her big day. Ignoring her feelings impacts your marriage, but your wife's behavior is also unacceptable. Tough situation all around," echoed another. Newsweek reached out to u/CoralCryptic for comment via Reddit. We could not verify the details of the case. Newsweek's "What Should I Do?" offers expert advice to readers. If you have a personal dilemma, let us know via life@ We can ask experts for advice on relationships, family, friends, money and work and your story could be featured on WSID at Newsweek.
Newsweek
29-04-2025
- Newsweek
Gen Zer Backed for Snooping on Boyfriend's Phone After What He Found
Based on facts, either observed and verified firsthand by the reporter, or reported and verified from knowledgeable sources. Newsweek AI is in beta. Translations may contain inaccuracies—please refer to the original content. A Gen Z man has been supported by users on Reddit after sharing why he decided to take a peek into his boyfriend's phone—and what he found on there. The 20-year-old man, known as u/mainelectrical8427 on the platform, had decided to trust his gut and look into his boyfriend's phone, but he was not prepared for what he would uncover—or the surge of support he would later receive online. He took to Reddit on April 25, detailing the night he discovered that his boyfriend had downplayed their relationship to another man, describing him merely as a "friend from school"—even after posting affectionate photos of him. The man later updated viewers that he had decided to break up with his 22-year-old partner, citing his flirting with the other man and his dishonesty as reasons. Frank Thewes, a therapist specializing in relationships and life transitions, told Newsweek that the man's decision to leave was justified. "This one seems pretty cut and dry," Thewes said. "The man does not appreciate flirting outside of the relationship, and his partner crossed his boundary. "He does not have to stay with his partner nor does he owe his partner any further explanation," he added. The man shared in the post that his ex-boyfriend had posted a picture of him to Instagram on his birthday. While his boyfriend was open about his sexuality, he kept the relationship semiprivate, leaving the post ambiguous but "obvious" to close observers. After visiting his ex's dorm on a following night, the man was left alone with his ex's phone while he went to fetch friends. With Instagram already open on his unattended phone and a lingering gut feeling that he could not shake, the man scrolled through direct messages—and found flirtatious exchanges between this then-boyfriend and another man. "My stomach dropped," he said. "The day he posted that story of us, the guy who he was flirting with slid up and asked him, 'Is that your boyfriend?' My boyfriend's response was 'no no no, that's just my friend from school.'" Shocked, the Reddit user took screenshots and left before his then-boyfriend returned with friends. "I wanted to confront him right then and there but I'm not a very confrontational person and you have to remember his friends were coming up," he said. "I turned my location off and went home." An update followed after he processed the betrayal and read through thousands of comments. "To the comments saying I'm wrong for going through his phone … I'm glad I did," the original poster said. After initially ghosting his then-boyfriend, the poster later sent him a pointed list titled "things 'friends from school' don't do," including writing love letters and introducing each other to family. When confronted about the messages, his ex's explanations grew increasingly strained. First, he claimed the man he was flirting with was like "family" and did not know he was gay. When that excuse faltered, the ex argued that he flirted to "get him out of my DMs," a rationale the man described as laughable. The final excuse offered was that the flirting "didn't mean anything," suggesting the behavior was not serious enough to merit ending the relationship, but, by then, the damage was already done. Thewes added that the betrayal likely felt even deeper to the 20-year-old because it occurred on a day intended to celebrate their bond. "The man seems to feel more impact around this because it was his birthday and because he saw lying in his partner's flirtatious messages about their relationship status," the therapist said. Viewers on Reddit have largely sympathized with the man for the emotional turmoil he was subjected to, with many praising his decision to end the relationship. "I'm sorry that happened to you," one viewer said. "That sucks. I definitely think you should tell him that you found out that he's talking to someone else and that this is over for you and it's not going to work. If you're worried about him coming to your dorm, you can alert an RA [resident assistant] but I think you'll be fine." "I am sorry this happened to you," another added. "I would just send him the pics of his messages with the other guy and then block him on everything. Don't let him try to explain or apologize or anything." "It hurts a lot but also remember that he did a huge favor to you," a third reader commented. "You saw that early on and you didn't invest years into the relationship. "You will come across a lot of trash that you need to weed out until you find the one that speaks to your heart and means it." Newsweek reached out to u/mainelectrical8427 for more information via Reddit. Stock photo: A seated young man looks upset while staring at a smartphone. Stock photo: A seated young man looks upset while staring at a smartphone. Getty Images Has infidelity broken your trust in your partner? Let us know via life@ We can ask experts for advice, and your story could be featured on Newsweek.
