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Yahoo
09-05-2025
- Entertainment
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Rejection Stinks—Here's How To Deal With It, According to Experts
The classic Rolling Stones song, "You Can't Always Get What You Want," is more than a timeless hit. It's a fact of life. Still, rejection doesn't feel great, whether you get turned down for a job, date or platonic happy hour invite. In the moment, it can feel impossible to figure out exactly how to deal with rejection."Rejection is hard because people all have a need to feel seen, accepted and loved," says Anna Hindell, LCSW-R, CIYT, an NYC-based licensed clinical social worker and Iyengar yoga teacher providing psychotherapy. "When people are rejected, their feelings of self-worth and acceptance are threatened."Just the word "rejection" has weight—and not the good kind."Rejection often carries a negative stigma, leading us to think there's something wrong with us," says Tina Fey, a relationship expert and founder of the love and dating website Love as the Rolling Stones song says, "If you try sometimes, well, you might find what you need." Experts shared how to flip the script and develop a positive outlook on What To Say to Someone Who's Been Laid Off, According to Psychologists Related: Love Yourself With 125 Self-Love Quotes There are many different scenarios of rejection happening in life. Whether it's in the workplace, a romantic relationship or friendship/family relationship, there are a number of unique instances when we might feel jilted or situations largely require a lot of introspection and the right perspective to get through in a healthy way. Hindell and Fey share exactly what to do in the following events. You made your resume, checked it twice and felt you really clicked with people during interviews. But you just got an email from the human resources rep at your dream company—thanks, but no thanks. If it helps, this type of rejection happens to basically everyone. You're not alone."If you apply for enough jobs, you will get a rejection," Hindell it can sting, especially if you were already envisioning yourself working there. Work can feel personal and like a part of our identity, but not getting a job isn't a total reflection of you as a human being. "Taking the rejection in stride and not taking it as a personal attack is key to moving through difficult feelings," Hindell says. Before hanging up the phone or deleting the email, respond with grace."Thank the interviewer for the opportunity to interview and for their time and consideration," Fey adds. "Politely inquire about areas where you could improve or what the company is looking for in a candidate. This feedback can help you in future job searches." Then, keep sending out your resume—or focus on your current gig."Don't let the rejection consume you and impact your work performance," Fey says. Focus on the present and future, not the past."Related: The Benefits of Mindfulness—Here's How to Live In the Here and Now (And Why You Should) Unlike an external job rejection, you still have to work with the people who decided not to promote you. Awkward much? It doesn't have to be."Avoid getting defensive or negative, even if the rejection feels personal," Fey says. "Maintaining a professional demeanor shows respect and maturity."There may still be opportunities to show your worth to the company or pad your resume to find your desired role elsewhere. "Ask for additional responsibilities or projects to work on to demonstrate your value and help you grow professionally," Fey says. If you think you deserved the promotion, look forward—even if it means acknowledging you've reached your ceiling at your current employer. "Network with others in your industry and seek out opportunities to learn and develop new skills that can enhance your chances of success in the future," Fey If You Use These 8 Unexpected Phrases, You Have Higher Self-Confidence Than Most, Psychologists Say You mustered up the courage to ask someone on a first date. You may have even practiced what you would say in front of a mirror or with your dog. Turns out, you'll be spending Friday night with your pup because the person said next steps will depend on your current relationship with the person."When it comes to dating, being rejected by someone you don't know well can be a little easier to handle than rejection from someone close to you," says Fey. "The rejection is less personal." The lack of emotional connection is a silver lining. Fey says the person likely isn't interested in a relationship–lick your wounds and look to reel in another fish in the sea. It can feel a bit murkier if had an established friendship with the person. But it doesn't mean you need to go through a friendship break-up."Try to avoid any awkwardness or tension between the two of you by having an open and honest conversation about how you both feel," Fey says. "Reassure your friend that your friendship is important to you, regardless of whether or not you are dating. Remember to maintain your boundaries and keep your interactions friendly but not flirtatious."Related: Women Who Are Lonely in Life Often Display These 10 Behaviors Without Realizing It, Psychologists Say They say it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. But getting dumped is the pits. It can leave a gaping hole in your schedule for you to dwell on the also-gaping hole in your heart."Want to know what makes getting dumped so challenging?" Fey asks. "It's because it not only hurts our emotions but also our self-esteem."But you can emerge stronger. First, Fey suggests prioritizing your mental and emotional health. "Take a step back from social media and focus on spending time with the people who matter most to you—your friends and family," Fey says. "This time will help you process your feelings and heal." Your former flame may want to remain friends. That's up to both of you. "If you feel like you need to talk to the person who dumped you, be honest about your emotions," Fey says. "Let them know that you're hurting and need time and space to heal. However, if you're open to maintaining a friendship, express that too."Related: Living in the Present Isn't Always Easy—Here Are 50 Mindfulness Quotes To Help Make It Happen Everyone at work is psyched for the weekend. They're all going to hang out together at a party. Your invite didn't get lost in your inbox. You simply didn't get one—on purpose—from a work clique you thought you were a part of."Being left out of a social event can be tough, especially if it's someone you're just getting to know," Fey says. "But here's the thing, it's not the end of the world, and there's always next time."Keep things in perspective. "There is a likely reason you weren't included, such as you don't know the person so well, or they are keeping the party small," Hindell says. But don't deny your feelings, either. "Start by reflecting on your feelings," Fey says. "It's normal to feel hurt or left out, but don't let it consume you." There's no need to sit home and wallow. "Focus on finding other ways to socialize and have fun, whether it's with other friends or by trying out a new hobby," Fey says. "It's also a good idea to remind yourself of your own self-worth, and that one event does not determine your value as a person." No rejection does. Up Next: Related: 15 Phrases to Politely Decline an Invite Without Offending the Person
Scottish Sun
22-04-2025
- Entertainment
- Scottish Sun
Singer and Mick Jagger's ex Marianne Faithfull left just £35k behind after she died aged 78 without writing will
Marianne passed away surrounded by her family LAST GIFT Singer and Mick Jagger's ex Marianne Faithfull left just £35k behind after she died aged 78 without writing will SWINGING sixties icon Marianne Faithfull left just £35,000, newly released documents show. The singer and actress, who died aged 78 in January, had no will. Advertisement 9 Singer and actress Marianne Faithful died aged 78 in January Credit: Redferns 9 Marianne with Mick Jagger Credit: Rex Features 9 The couple shared a four-year romance Credit: PA:Empics Sport Her only child, Nicholas Dunbar, has been appointed to administer her estate worth £43,000 gross and £35,000 after expenses. Documents show her registered address was a residential home in London for members of the theatrical profession. Faithfull was known for hits like As Tears Go By, which reached the UK top 10 in 1964. She also had starring roles in films including 1968's The Girl On A Motorcycle. Advertisement Faithfull was famously the girlfriend of Rolling Stones frontman Mick Jagger in the 1960s. She inspired songs such as Wild Horses and You Can't Always Get What You Want. When she died the Rolling Stones legend led tributes to her saying: "I am so saddened to hear of the death of Marianne Faithfull. "She was so much part of my life for so long. She was a wonderful friend, a beautiful singer and a great actress. Advertisement "She will always be remembered." Bandmate Keith Richards added he was "so sad" following Faithfull's death saying that he "will miss her". After a period of heroin addiction in the 70s she resurrected her career with the classic album Broken English. In recent years, she teamed up with songwriters like PJ Harvey and Nick Cave, who each cited her as an inspiration. Advertisement In 2009 she received the World Lifetime Achievement Award at the Women's World Awards. She was made a commandeur of the Ordre des Arts et des Lettres by the government of France. 9 Marianne passed away in London Credit: Getty - Contributor 9 The actress on the set of The Girl on a Motorcycle Credit: Getty Advertisement 9 The singer with composer and friend Warren Ellis 9 Marianne Faithfull during the filming of Thank Your Lucky Stars TV show in May 1965 Credit: Redferns 9 The singer snapped at Granada Offices in Soho Credit: PA 9 Marianne with supermodel Kate Moss Credit: Reuters
The Irish Sun
22-04-2025
- Entertainment
- The Irish Sun
Singer and Mick Jagger's ex Marianne Faithfull left just £35k behind after she died aged 78 without writing will
SWINGING sixties icon Marianne Faithfull left just £35,000, newly released documents show. The singer and actress, who 9 Singer and actress Marianne Faithful died aged 78 in January Credit: Redferns 9 Marianne with Mick Jagger Credit: Rex Features 9 The couple shared a four-year romance Credit: PA:Empics Sport Her only child, Nicholas Dunbar, has been appointed to administer her estate worth £43,000 gross and £35,000 after expenses. Documents show her registered address was a residential home in London for members of the theatrical profession. Faithfull was known for hits like As Tears Go By, which reached the UK top 10 in 1964. She also had starring roles in films including 1968's The Girl On A Motorcycle. Read more Showbiz News Faithfull was famously the girlfriend of Rolling Stones frontman Mick Jagger in the 1960s. She inspired songs such as Wild Horses and You Can't Always Get What You Want. When she died the Rolling Stones legend led tributes to her saying: "I am so saddened to hear of the death of Marianne Faithfull. "She was so much part of my life for so long. She was a wonderful friend, a beautiful singer and a great actress. Most read in Showbiz "She will always be remembered." Bandmate After a period of heroin addiction in the 70s she resurrected her career with the classic album Broken English. In recent years, she teamed up with songwriters like PJ Harvey and In 2009 she received the World Lifetime Achievement Award at the Women's World Awards. She was made a commandeur of the Ordre des Arts et des Lettres by the government of France. 9 Marianne passed away in London Credit: Getty - Contributor 9 The actress on the set of The Girl on a Motorcycle Credit: Getty 9 The singer with composer and friend Warren Ellis 9 Marianne Faithfull during the filming of Thank Your Lucky Stars TV show in May 1965 Credit: Redferns 9 The singer snapped at Granada Offices in Soho Credit: PA 9 Marianne with supermodel Kate Moss Credit: Reuters
The Sun
22-04-2025
- Entertainment
- The Sun
Singer and Mick Jagger's ex Marianne Faithfull left just £35k behind after she died aged 78 without writing will
SWINGING sixties icon Marianne Faithfull left just £35,000, newly released documents show. The singer and actress, who died aged 78 in January, had no will. 9 9 Her only child, Nicholas Dunbar, has been appointed to administer her estate worth £43,000 gross and £35,000 after expenses. Documents show her registered address was a residential home in London for members of the theatrical profession. Faithfull was known for hits like As Tears Go By, which reached the UK top 10 in 1964. She also had starring roles in films including 1968's The Girl On A Motorcycle. Faithfull was famously the girlfriend of Rolling Stones frontman Mick Jagger in the 1960s. She inspired songs such as Wild Horses and You Can't Always Get What You Want. When she died the Rolling Stones legend led tributes to her saying: "I am so saddened to hear of the death of Marianne Faithfull. "She was so much part of my life for so long. She was a wonderful friend, a beautiful singer and a great actress. "She will always be remembered." Bandmate Keith Richards added he was "so sad" following Faithfull's death saying that he "will miss her". After a period of heroin addiction in the 70s she resurrected her career with the classic album Broken English. In recent years, she teamed up with songwriters like PJ Harvey and Nick Cave, who each cited her as an inspiration. In 2009 she received the World Lifetime Achievement Award at the Women's World Awards. She was made a commandeur of the Ordre des Arts et des Lettres by the government of France. 9 9 9 9 9 9
Daily Mail
22-04-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
EXCLUSIVE Twist in death of Marianne Faithfull as records show pop icon and Rolling Stones muse died without a will and left tiny estate to her family
Singer and actress Marianne Faithfull who was the lover of Rolling Stones frontman Mick Jagger for four years in the 1960s left an estate worth just £35,000. Faithfull who died aged 78 on January 30 this year became the ultimate rock chick, inspiring Stones songs such as Wild Horses and You Can't Always Get What You Want. She also had flings with two other Stones – Keith Richards and Brian Jones – as well as David Bowie, but she resisted the advances of Bob Dylan and Jimi Hendrix. Her life spiralled out of control due to heroin addiction and homelessness in the early 1970s before she resurrected her career with a string of new albums including Broken English in 1979. Probate records revealed today that Faithfull who was married and divorced three times died intestate without leaving a will. Under intestacy rules, her entire estate of £43,000, reduced to a net figure of £35,000 after deduction of liabilities, will be inherited by her only son Nicholas Dunbar. Faithfull died after years of suffering multiple health problems, including bulimia, breast cancer and emphysema caused by decades of smoking. She was hospitalised for 22 days when she contracted Covid-19 in 2020 and was not expected to survive, but she pulled through, releasing her 21st album, She Walks in Beauty, a year later. Faithfull's grant of probate revealed she was living at the time of her death in the Denville Hall care home for members of the theatrical profession in Northwood, north west London. She reportedly moved into care in 2022. The singer was born in Hampstead, north London, on December 29, 1946, little more than a year after the Second World War. Her mother Eva was a Hungarian, half-Jewish baroness and former ballet dancer who had fled the Nazis, while her father Major Robert Glynn Faithfull was a colourful character who had been a MI6 agent before becoming a professor of Italian literature. It was often suggested that Faithfull's free spirit came from her childhood at a country house called Braziers Park, in Oxfordshire, which her father turned into a commune where promiscuity reigned. Her mother later moved with her to a terraced house in Reading and sent her to a Roman Catholic boarding school. It was during this time that she started pursuing a singing career, performing in coffee bars in Reading. Her big break came in 1964 when she was just 17 and attended a Rolling Stones party where she was spotted by the band's producer Andrew Loog Oldham who helped her to release her haunting debut single As Tears Go By in the same year. The wistful ballad had been written by Jagger and his songwriting partner Keith Richards, but Oldham gave it to her because he did not think it was suitable for the Stones. Faithfull went on to release a string of captivating singles including Come Stay With Me, This Little Bird, Summer Nights and a cover of The Beatles' Yesterday. Despite having turned down Bob Dylan when he came to London in 1965, she began a high-profile four-year relationship with Jagger in 1966. One of the Rolling Stones' most famous songs, Sympathy For The Devil, was inspired by a Russian novel called The Master And Margarita, introduced to Jagger by Faithfull. As a couple, they epitomised the Swinging Sixties and attracted huge interest in the media, including lurid headlines. Faithfull was aged just 20 when police found her wearing nothing but a fur rug during a drugs bust at Richards' luxury Sussex home Redlands in 1967. The raid prompted a less than salubrious rumour that Jagger had been performing a sex act on Faithfull at the time, involving a Mars bar. Faithfull always insisted that the story had been made up, describing it in her autobiography as 'a dirty old man's fantasy'. Her popularity was enhanced by acting roles which starring in the Chekov play Three Sisters alongside Glenda Jackson at London's Royal Court in 1967 Faithfull was credited with being the first person to say 'f***' in a mainstream film, when she appeared in the 1967 film I'll Never Forget What's'isname. Her most famous screen role was in the lead tole of the 1968 film The Girl On A Motorcycle in 1968, which was noted for being America's first X-rated film. But drugs took a toll on her and her relationship with Jagger disintegrated as her pop career hit the buffers. Her decline was documented in the Stones' song Sister Morphine which she co-wrote with Jagger and Richards for the band's 1971 album Sticky Fingers. Faithfull lost custody of her son and went into a coma after a suicide attempt as she remained in the grip of heroin addiction which led to her being effectively homeless and living for two years in a squat in Soho. But her fighting spirit helped her make a musical comeback in 1979 with her album Broken English, and its signature song The Ballad Of Lucy Jordan. Her years of hard living, as well as severe laryngitis and drug abuse had left her voice sounding raspy, cracked and lower in pitch. Critics described her tone as 'whisky soaked', and helping to capture the raw emotions expressed in her music, drawing on jazz and blues in particular. Her other albums included Dangerous Acquaintances in 1981, which ended with the searing song Truth, Bitter Truth. Marianne pictured in 1968 on the set of The Girl On A Motorcycle She also played God in two episodes of the sitcom Absolutely Fabulous, and the devil in William Burroughs' and Tom Waits' musical, The Black Rider. Faithfull's final album She Walks In Beauty in 2021 featured her reciting the works of British romantic poets to music arranged by Warren Ellis, Brian Eno, Nick Cave and Vincent Segal. She received the World Lifetime Achievement Award at the Women's World Awards in 2009, and was also made a Commandeur of the Ordre des Arts et des Lettres by the government of France. Faithfull was first married briefly to artist John Dunbar in 1965, then Ben Brierly of punk band the Vibrators from 1979 to 1986, and actor Giorgio Della Terza from 1988 to 1991 Jagger paid tribute to her after her death, describing her as 'a wonderful friend, a beautiful singer and a great actress', and saying he was 'so saddened' by her loss. Richards also posted that he was 'so sad' following her death while Rolling Stones guitarist Ronnie Wood posted pictures on Instagram of himself with her, along with captions saying: 'Farewell dear Marianne', and 'Marianne will be dearly missed. Bless her xx'. Faithfull's long-time friend, the BBC Radio 2 presenter Bob Harris, called her an 'encapsulation of the sixties'. He said that 'people began to see her as an artist, as a creator', although she was initially known as Jagger's girlfriend.
