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Yahoo
3 days ago
- General
- Yahoo
Man Asks Wife to Stop Sharing Their Arguments with Her Sister and Giving a ‘Front-Row Seat to Every Flaw I Have'
'She said I was 'trying to isolate her' and being controlling,' the husband recalledNEED TO KNOW A Reddit user explained that he would like his wife to keep their private life, including arguments, between the two of them The husband said his sister-in-law 'has been getting a running commentary of our marriage from my wife's side only' His wife said he is ' 'trying to isolate her' and being controlling,' he recalled after he requested her to stopA husband is uncomfortable with his wife's sister seemingly having 'a front-row seat to every flaw' he has in his marriage. The 38-year-old man explained on Reddit's 'Am I the A------' forum that his 35-year-old spouse has been sharing 'basically every argument we have, big or small,' with her sibling whenever he's not around to defend himself. 'We're not constantly fighting or anything, but like any couple, we have our moments — stuff like me forgetting to take out the trash, getting the wrong cereal or spacing out during a conversation,' he wrote. 'Her sister used to be super warm with me, but lately, she's been cold, even passive-aggressive, and it didn't click until I realized she's been getting a running commentary of our marriage from my wife's side only,' he added. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. He then asked his wife to keep their private life between the two of them. 'I wasn't yelling or accusing, just trying to express how it feels to be seen as the 'bad guy' over minor stuff that gets retold out of context,' he said. 'She said I was 'trying to isolate her' and being controlling.' 'To be clear: I don't care if she vents now and then, or leans on her sister during tough times. I just feel like there's a difference between support and giving someone a front-row seat to every flaw I have,' he continued. The husband admitted that he is getting anxious at gatherings for feeling judged by someone — his sister-in-law — who he didn't marry. Pondering if he's being unreasonable, he asked Redditors, 'Am I the a------ for asking her to keep our relationship a little more private?' One reader replied, 'Your wife is weaponizing therapy language here. It's completely reasonable to ask your partner to keep private disagreements private. We all need outside advice now and then, but some privacy in a relationship is also warranted. It's also unfair that your wife was sharing all these presumed-private interactions without you knowing about it.' 'Again, she doesn't need to clear her conversation topics with you, but it feels like she at least should have been upfront with the fact that her sister hears absolutely everything,' the Redditor continued. Another person commented, 'Ask your wife how she would feel if you were relaying every disagreement the two of you have to your family's group chat. Let her know going forward you will not engage with her family ever again while she continues to poison them against you.' Still, a third commenter offered a different perspective. "Generally speaking if someone is happy in their marriage they may vent occasionally about their partner but they don't discuss every single interaction outside the home," they wrote. "If even small things are angering your wife enough that she feels the need to have a running diatribe about you to her sister then she is not happy at all." "It's not wrong to ask for some aspects of your relationship to be private but you should really try to find out why she is so unhappy. Maybe marriage counseling would be a good start," they concluded. Read the original article on People Solve the daily Crossword
The Sun
17-07-2025
- Entertainment
- The Sun
Freddy Brazier splits from new girlfriend after huge row rocks whirlwind romance
FREDDY Brazier has split from his girlfriend Holly Swinburn after a whirlwind romance. The 20-year-old called it quits after a string of arguments - just weeks after getting a puppy together. 3 3 3 Friends close to Jade Goody 's son Freddy have told The Sun that it's over between them after one particularly upsetting row. The Race Across The World star was living with Holly and had even gone on holiday with her during their short-lived relationship. They decided to get a dog - a bully called Pablo - and set up an Instagram account for him. Within days, Freddy candidly admitted he had upset Holly by staying out to the 'early hours with the boys', while she stayed at home with the dog. He is now thought to be living back with his nan Jackiey and is concentrating on his health and happiness after a very tricky few months. It comes just weeks after his TV presenter dad Jeff Brazier launched legal action to block Jackiey from seeing him. Freddy had been staying with her at her home in Bermondsey despite his dad's concerns for his welfare. A source close to the Brazier family previously told us: "This is something Jeff and anyone who cares about Freddy hopes will help keep Freddy safe from a relationship that has been incredibly detrimental to his well being for a long time now. "The fact that he is going down this route shows how concerned we all our and how our efforts to keep Fred safe are being grossly undermined by other people." Freddy was just four-years-old and his EastEnders actor brother Bobby, was five when their mother Jade Goody died from cervical cancer in 2009. The Big Brother legend passed away at the age of 27 after a seven month battle with cancer and he has since been raised by his dad.
Daily Mail
03-06-2025
- General
- Daily Mail
How I was was conned out of £62k by a Facebook scammer posing as a French single mother
It was a cold January afternoon in 2019 when Arthur Jackson finally left his wife. After 25 years of marriage he'd had enough of the arguments. 'I'd just got home and she started shouting,' recalls Arthur, 63. 'My Collie, Patch, doesn't like confrontation, so we sat at the bottom of the garden. He looked at me as if to say, 'Let's go'. So we did.'
Telegraph
29-05-2025
- General
- Telegraph
What I call a chat, he calls an argument: How blazing rows almost broke our eight-year relationship
At the time of writing this at 2.30pm, my partner Mike* and I have already had an argument. He thinks I cause arguments for the sake of it. I think I'm simply asking for something, I don't even see it as an argument. I sit firmly in the camp of raising issues and talking them through. Small things, like asking for confirmation of holiday dates or needing to leave for an event on time, can go from zero to 60 in seconds, and before you know it, names are being called or slammed doors. We're both prone to becoming heated, things escalate, and then he loses his temper, sometimes saying things he doesn't mean. Today's argument was about the neighbours asking us to cut our trees back. He wants to leave it, I want to address it, cue: he said, she said, and we're off. Whenever my two grown-up kids are around, they leave the house somewhat messier than when they arrived. What kids don't? Their clothes get strewn across their bedrooms, and dirty dishes pile up. I come from a chaotic, busy family, so for me, the detritus is expected, although not unnoticed. My partner grew up living with his mum and no one else, and things were very ordered, so I understand why it causes him distress. Last time they visited, there was an argument. We try not to argue in front of the kids, so we have our angry conversations in desperate whispers, which makes everything more tense. In the end, he said he felt it was better that he went to his mum's for a while, to avoid being around the disruption. It isn't ideal, but at least he felt comfortable voicing his concerns, and it didn't end up shouty and awful, or with bubbling resentment and silent treatment. We've been together nearly eight years now. It does upset me that we can't argue constructively after all these years together. And he gets upset and frustrated too. It's definitely a problem. What I see as a discussion, he sees as an argument, and then tempers flare. We don't seem to be able to talk things through calmly. We actually split up at Christmas because we'd come to a place where it didn't feel workable any more. The straw that broke the camel's back was my family coming for a few days, and he said he didn't want a load of strangers ransacking the house. We split up for a while, but there's still a lot to fight for in the relationship. We're trying to make it work. The arguments are different now than a couple of years ago. Not talking afterwards doesn't last as long, and the heat seems to leave the situation more quickly. I would prefer it if he was open to raising issues and talking them through – even difficult ones, you know, can get heated. I've always been OK about getting things out in the open. There's something cathartic and just healthy about being honest and laying everything out. Maybe it's because I grew up in the 1970s, seeing my parents having some blinders when I was little. Proper shouting wasn't unusual, and the argument often ended with my dad slamming the door and going out to the pub. That's not my style at all, and is what has probably made me want to face issues. I've always been someone who prefers to bring grievances, rather than let them fester, but the types of arguments have been different in every one of my relationships. There was one relationship where there were very few cross words. Another where we'd get on like a house on fire, and then immediately, it would feel like we were the house on fire. Shouting, raging, walking off, slamming doors; we couldn't seem to find a good balance. Then, we were both dealing with teenage children and pressures from work. It sometimes felt like I was nailing jelly to the wall and couldn't get to the root of what the problem actually was. Mike and I are currently in 'discussions' about how we can argue better. And I'm noticing a difference. The other day, an argument arose about the kids drinking the beers in the fridge and not replacing them. Historically, this would have ended in raging and days of silent treatment, but when it came up, I stopped the conversation, said I needed a few minutes, then I typed a text instead to try and reduce the heat out of the situation. Brilliantly, it actually worked. It would really help if we knew how to deal with the conflict better and talk it through, but we're not all as equipped as we could be. Dr Monika Wieliczko, a chartered clinical psychologist believes that if couples were taught how to handle arguments, it would have saved many marriages. 'Conflicts in relationships are normal and unavoidable since we are dealing with two people with different sets of needs and expectations. Therefore, being in a relationship requires reaching a compromise. Argument is nothing but a process we go through to reach the middle ground.' One of the biggest problems I've had in relationships is that we both feel like we're being attacked by the other. For instance, Mike might bring up that I didn't stay in the garden long enough to help him do the weeding. I would say that I did some time out there, then went to prepare dinner, or else we would have both been in the garden until 6pm with nothing to eat. Both of us think we are right, and that the other is 'having a go' unnecessarily. Reassuringly, Dr Wieliczko says this breakdown of communication is common. 'Often, we perceive partners asserting their needs as an attack. Then that triggers a defensive response, which might feel dismissive to the side that raised an issue. This leads to a gradual withdrawal. As time goes by, the build-up of resentment erodes trust and closeness.' Dr Wieliczko also points out that – as with most psychological matters – how you argue as a couple is closely linked to the differences in how you were brought up. That certainly rings true in my current relationship. While my family were never afraid to bring up an issue, I think my partner's family tended to push things down and expect it would sort itself out, often leaving everyone dissatisfied. 'Some people avoid communicating their needs because they learnt as children that adults rarely make them feel safe and secure, and are more likely to avoid arguments in their relationships. Their aloofness is likely to make the other side feel insecure. Stereotypically, we're more likely to see this among men.' My ex-boyfriend often wouldn't say how uncomfortable he felt with me going out with a certain group of people. Or if I wanted to stay over a few nights, he would just say it was fine, when he didn't really feel that way. Then he would give me the silent treatment or not be very nice when I got back. I felt alone and misunderstood, and this just pushed us further apart. This is why I utterly believe that facing issues, even with disagreements, is a necessary part of a relationship, and that shying away from them is a bad sign. It's not a coincidence that several times I've had to look at the back of partners' heads as they walk away from the relationship, slamming the door because they've not asked for what they want. Dr Wieliczko says: 'What we often see behind the mask of a conflict-free relationship is an avoidance of real emotional intimacy. Both sides do not understand each other's points of view and think that the only way to maintain the relationship is to protect it from conflicts. But this comes at a cost to the quality of their relationship and leads to emotional detachment and eventual collapse of the relationship. If you can't argue properly, you are also likely to struggle to experience passion and emotional closeness.' Mike and I are really working on how uncomfortable it is at times and seeing how we can make it better. Bringing what we need, however difficult, is going to be a part of that process. And there are probably going to be a few arguments. As Dr Wieliczko says: 'Arguments are healthy and a necessary part of any relationship; however, the problem is that many couples don't know how to have constructive arguments that bring them closer rather than driving them apart.' So, if you recognise any of the above, it's not the end of the world, and there are ways we can get to a better place.
