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Daily Mail
30-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
Pregnant Shaughna Phillips reveals her plans to have a c-section as she recalls 'traumatic' birth of daughter Lucia which saw her suffer a haemorrhage
Pregnant Shaughna Phillips has revealed her plans to have a c-section as she recalled having a 'traumatic' birth with her daughter Lucia. The Love Island star, 31, is expecting a baby girl with her jailed boyfriend Billy Webb, who is also father to two-year-old Lucia. Following the birth of Lucia in April 2023, Billy, 29, was sentenced to nine years in prison after pleading guilty to conspiracy to supply 4.5kg of cocaine worth at least £360,000. Currently held in a Category D prison, he's been allowed home visits for a few days each month. But on Wednesday, Shaughna opened up about how she has planned a c-section for the birth of her second child. She said this was after suffering a 'traumatic' birth with Lucia where she was 10 days overdue so went in to be induced, before being rushed for a c-section and suffering a post-birth haemorrhage. Taking to her Instagram Story for a Q&A with fans, Shaughna said: 'I absolutely plan on having a c section so I really hope baby girl gets the memo and stays inside until served the eviction notice. 'I had a pretty traumatic birth with Lucia and it got pretty scary towards the end so I don't want to risk that happening again.' Going on to explain her birth, she said in another slide: 'So I was 10 days overdue and when I went in to begin my induction, I opted for a non hormonal method which was the rods, they essentially are placed inside you and expand and should kick start labour (as well as having your waters broke). 'They're supposed to be taken out after 12 hours I believe and mine were left in for 18 hours because no one was available to remove them, which led to painful, bloody removal... on the ward... with no pain relief. 'Then I laboured as normal, had an epidural which was fab, started pushing after about 10 hours and she was coming down and sliding back every time I stopped pushing.' Shaughna continued: 'She started getting really distressed after about an hour of pushing, so I was rushed for a c-section. Before they done that they tried forceps (?????) as soon as they put them on her head she twisted so they stopped and went ahead with the c-section. 'I then had a post-birth haemorrhage which was the cherry on top of a 48hr ordeal lol.' Elsewhere Shaughna revealed she had been struggling to decide on baby names for her second daughter. 'GUYS the name situation is really killing me. We've narrowed it down to two, one traditional and one very random and slyly made up... I don't know if I have the nerve to use it,' she wrote. She said this was after suffering a 'traumatic' birth with Lucia where she was 10 days overdue so went in to be induced, before being rushed for a c-section and suffering a post-birth haemorrhage 'Two names we loved but have taken out of the running are Misse and Miley, still love them though.' Shaughna revealed the gender of her second baby in a sweet new Instagram video she shared on Tuesday. Thrilled to announce the gender, Shaughna posted a video of a fury pink baby grow ahead of welcoming her baby girl. Sharing her excitement, she told Closer magazine: 'I'm going to be a girl mum - I can't believe it. I really can't, because I was absolutely convinced I was having a boy!' 'It was a huge shock, it took me a minute to be like "Right okay". Because not only did I think it was a boy, but I did want a boy. I thought if I had one of each I am done, as I'll have the best of both', she added. 'I can't imagine having a boy now and I won't try again - two is perfect. Having three is expensive.' Shaughna recently revealed she got to a point where she was doing pregnancy tests 'seven times a day' while opening up about her very unexpected second pregnancy. Admitting she wasn't expecting to get pregnant so quickly on her 'first attempt', the TV star explained she 'kept Clear Blue in business' due to the very high amount of tests she ordered. 'Then it got to the point where, because I was testing so much, I would do one and not even think twice about it because I was doing them about seven times a day,' she told The Sun. Yet Shaughna was shocked to see the positive line when she found out she was pregnant and felt 'over the moon', calling herself 'very lucky'. She admitted she could barely believe it and decided to conduct yet another test to make sure the news was definite. 'But I just really didn't expect it'd be the first try. So, it was a shock. It was still a shock, even though I was trying. 'The next day I did another and I thought right, I'm going to film this, and it came up with a stronger line, and even then I was still in shock.' The TV personality recently revealed how she planned her pregnancy with Billy after her ovulation period had coincided with him being home from prison. Speaking to the Mirror last month, Shaughna said: 'It was the first time that my ovulation window coincided with Billy being home. 'I was like, "You know what? Why not? Let's just see" - and literally, the next day, I said to Billy, "I think I'm pregnant".'
Yahoo
05-07-2025
- General
- Yahoo
New Mom Is Frustrated with Mother-in-Law for Being 'Impossible to Please'
A new mom says her mother-in-law is getting on her last nerve In a post on Reddit, the woman writes that her husband's mom wants to see her new baby, but also refuses to actually visit The woman writes that she's now struggling to balance the whims of her mother-in-law with the anxiety of her husbandA woman says her mother-in-law is "impossible to please" — so much so that she isn't satisfied with anything concerning her new grandchild. In a post published on Reddit, the woman writes that she just gave birth two months ago to her mother-in-law's "first grandbaby" and yet she is making the birth "about her." "This week she's called husband to say she's going to have to take care of the baby soon if she's going to watch them occasionally while I'm at work. (We're not desperate for the help btw, she volunteered to babysit some)," she writes. While the woman writes that her mother-in-law was acting passive-aggressive and could have just called and asked to visit, she responded by saying she was more than welcome. But when the couple called to nail down a visit, the mother-in-law responded, 'Actually I'm too busy this week, maybe next week.' "For context she's been OBSESSED with becoming a grandma, tried to make a nursery in her house, had a grandma shower, and literally cried when my husband told her no one but us would be holding our baby the day of my c-section," she continues. She adds: "I'm starting to think maybe she's more selfish and/or manipulative than I presumed? It's definitely a different vibe than we had before any babies entered the picture." "She complains, but doesn't want to visit. Makes ridiculous requests, like that we travel to visit with a 1 month old, and gets annoyed when we say no. But she's obsessed with being a grandma and talks about it to all her friends," she writes. The woman adds that she's now struggling to balance the whims of her mother-in-law with the anxiety of her husband. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. Other Reddit users are weighing in on the situation in the comments section, with one advising the poster, "If mil is impossible to please, stop trying to please her. It's not your task to please her." Adds another, seemingly from experience: "She's absolutely fishing for control and drama, classic 'grandma victim' move. Obsessed with the idea of being a grandma but not actually willing to do the work or respect boundaries. Your husband's anxiety just makes her puppet strings easier to pull. You're right to check yourself and not bend over backward for her circus. Keep your guard up, she's definitely trying to drive a wedge." Read the original article on People
Times
20-06-2025
- Health
- Times
I won't be shamed for having an elective c-section — trust me, it wasn't easy
Readers, I have a bone to pick. With myself. In my first dispatch here, written when my son was 12 weeks old, I told you that it was 'fine to take shortcuts' and under that umbrella included 'having a c-section'. Oh dear. Even while still nursing a very sore scar and after months of replying 'because I want one' to NHS midwives and obstetricians who asked 'and why do you want a caesarean?', I had still internalised the message that it's somehow 'cheating'. So let me set the record straight: I had an elective c-section and, given the experiences of other women I know — some of whom still can't talk about their births years later — I'd do the same thing again in a heartbeat. But it really wasn't a shortcut. I don't want to sugarcoat it: this is major surgery and my recovery was slow, painful and reliant on painkillers (I was taking codeine on and off for three weeks, when I'd expected maybe one). I had to inject my stomach with anti-clotting drugs for ten days afterwards. Still no regrets. • I'm not breastfeeding. Why are mothers still pressured into it? That's me. I have no interest in playing different types of birth off against one another. But what I do want to talk about is how we're letting women down by withholding information, conflating facts and scaremongering, where we should be doing everything in our power to inform and reassure. Take the new Nice guidance, published this week and designed to improve care for women having caesareans. One minor problem: it conflates the data for planned c-sections and emergency ones. And, as any woman who's had the latter (often after many hours of excruciating and exhausting labour in the pursuit of a vaginal birth) will tell you, there's a bloody world of difference. Lumping the two together is unfair and skews the statistics — for example that one in 25,000 vaginal deliveries ends in maternal death, compared to one in 4,000 for caesareans. Except that includes emergency caesareans, where the mother or baby is in distress and already at risk. For crying out loud. Nice has explained that it's too difficult to separate the two, but frankly I'd rather it didn't publish any numbers than ones that could confuse women even more. How about properly informing parents-to-be, rather than scaring them? It plays directly into the stigma that still exists around choosing a caesarean — that you're entitled and happy to put your baby at risk. A pal admitted to me that before having her daughter, by emergency c-section, she might have judged other women for actively choosing that type of birth. 'Of course, I feel ridiculous now,' she said. I don't blame her. We're rarely told another story, one that says planned caesareans — while not a walk in the park — are at least, all being well, more predictable. I arrived at the hospital feeling calm, my Spotify playlist prepped, happy in the knowledge that my baby would be lying on my chest about 30 minutes after the anaesthetist said: 'Can you feel that?' After two decades of suffering thanks to undiagnosed endometriosis and adenomyosis, I wanted some control over how I gave birth. Yet even I felt a bit embarrassed and felt I had to explain to anyone who asked. When I was eventually told that, a) it would actually be more sensible to have a caesarean given my health conditions, and b) that the baby was breech, meaning he couldn't come out via the traditional route anyway, I felt a wave of relief. Now I had a proper excuse as to why I needed a caesarean and didn't just want one. Looking back, I find it sad that I felt that way. • My painful battle to have the 'unnatural' birth I wanted Out of eight women in my antenatal class, two of us planned caesareans. We spent most of the sessions eye-rolling at each other across the room as our tutor focused on 'normal' birth (the worst term imaginable if you're not having one), and pretty much ignored us, aside from a few minutes spent playing with tiny plastic dolls to demonstrate how many people would be in the room during our surgery. Translation: heavily medicalised and 'unnatural' birth, which also happens to be more expensive for the NHS. And yet. Out of those eight women, seven ended up having caesareans — five emergencies. No wonder they now feel furious that they weren't better equipped to cope. It might be anecdotal, but it's also not unusual from where I'm sitting. A friend tells me that out of the eight women in her antenatal group, every single one of them ended up having caesareans. Off the top of my head, I can think of four electives among my wider social circle and upwards of 20 emergencies. According to NHS Digital, 46 per cent of all the births in England last September were vaginal and 44 per cent were c-section (the other 10 per cent involved instruments). So what exactly is a 'normal' birth now? Officially, the NHS has moved away from its target-led pushing of vaginal birth over caesarean and most women I know haven't had to fight to get one. But what seems more common is uncertainty around when those c-sections might actually take place — time not really being all that flexible at the end of a pregnancy. The NHS says you'll get a date two weeks in advance, with the surgery planned from your 39th week onwards. Hmm. One pal was told the hospital could call her the day before — would that be OK? Another currently has hers scheduled for the end of the week and is terrified by the prospect that she'll be pushed down the list and have to wait until the following Monday. Me? I got a call from the birthing unit to book mine when I was already 38 weeks and three days (having not been booked in, I'd moved my care elsewhere at the last minute). • Natural birth v caesarean — what the latest statistics tell us I know the NHS is stretched but, as one friend put it, it's like they're delaying in the hopes you go into labour and they don't have to pay. For any woman who's been trying to book in for the best part of nine months, it's a nervy prospect, a bit like relying on the Glastonbury resale to get a ticket. Look, I don't want to scare anyone. I hope I haven't. The biggest problem we have is how petrified we make mothers-to-be, or those who haven't yet made up their minds about starting a family. But we're letting women down if we don't tell them the truth: that whatever birth you want is the right birth for you — just also make a plan A, B or C. After all, babies tend not to behave as you want them to, even before they've been born.
Yahoo
14-06-2025
- General
- Yahoo
Wife Gives Husband 3 Rules Before Going Into Labor. He Breaks Them All
A woman says her husband named their new baby without her, while she was recovering from surgery In a post on Reddit, the woman writes that she and her husband agreed to a few ground rules before she underwent a cesarean section — but he went against every one Now, she's considering leaving him and changing the baby's nameA new mom says she wants to rename her 7-month-old baby after her husband named the child while she underwent a cesarean section. In a since-deleted Reddit post, the 33-year-old woman writes that she laid a few ground rules prior to undergoing the procedure so that she could be "clear about my needs." The three rules were as follows: "1. I did not want to wake up from my c-section to people in the room - his family. Not because they're bad people or anything, but I did not want people to see me like that. I knew it was going to be a vulnerable time and didn't want people there." "2. Nobody besides the doctors, nurses, and my husband were allowed to hold my baby before I was. 3. We had a list of names - that I liked and he was okay with some. He was free to pick from the list or we'd talk about it when I woke up. Specifically, I didn't want him to name our baby after his dad, which is what he'd wanted to do." While her husband agreed to the rules initially, he ended up breaking all three. "I was not prepared for when I was going to be put under…. They didn't walk me through anything that was going to happen or give me any warning," she writes in the post. "I got wheeled into a room, they asked me questions about myself, and next thing I know I was out like a light." "I wake up and the first thing I see is his mom holding my baby," she continues. "Mind you when I woke up I had no idea what was going on, forgot why I was there, that I had been pregnant, had a baby… all of it was gone from my mind." Once others had left the room, the woman asked her husband what they should name the baby and he immediately "got a bit awkward and said he named him after his dad." Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. "I asked why and he said because the nurses had been harassing him about a name," she explains. Now, seven months later, the woman says she is considering ending the marriage and moving back to her home country, where she would file to get the baby's name changed to one on the original list. Fellow Reddit users are offering their takes on the situation, with many encouraging her to "take your baby and run." "There's nothing to salvage here," one user wrote. "He doesn't care about you or what you want to even help provide for him, 'his family.' " "Go home. What you've experienced so far is what your entire life will be with him," another agreed. "He'll agree to what you want and then do as he pleases because there are now consequences to breaking promises for him. Not to mention he'll never try to support his family because he already isn't. Run while you can." Read the original article on People
