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Daily Mail
3 days ago
- Daily Mail
Elderly man goes ballistic during feud over ex-wife's estate: 'You got to die first'
An elderly man brandished a revolver and started firing during a family feud that nearly turned 'catastrophic.' John Webb, 81, was taken into custody on charges of attempted murder and aggravated assault after cops say he opened fire on his ex-wife's heirs who were trying to sell her Micanopy, Florida home. The heirs - who Law & Crime identifies as Webb's ex-wife's daughters and son-in-law - arrived at the home to prepare it for sale at around 1pm on Thursday. As soon as they pulled up, deputies said they noticed Webb's car outside - and they began to record video on their cellphones. The family then went inside the home, where they allegedly found Webb in the living room. At that point deputies say, the family told Webb - who had divorced their mother in 1998 - he 'was not supposed to be there,' the Miami Herald reports. The comment apparently sent Webb on a rampage, pulling out a revolver and firing into the ceiling. As the victims then scrambled to leave, Webb allegedly told them: 'No, don't move. You got to die first.' But the heirs were able to get safely back into their vehicle and reverse down the driveway, when Webb exited the home and allegedly fired multiple shots at the car. One bullet struck the engine, which caused the vehicle to break down on a nearby road, but none of the victims were injured. In the aftermath, Webb drove away - but deputies were able to conduct a traffic stop and take him into custody without incident, they said. When police later questioned him about the incident, Webb reportedly claimed that his ex-wife's family 'harassed him,' according to an affidavit obtained by Law & Crime. 'They come in threatening me and I fired a shot in the air, then fired some into the radiator of their car, period,' he allegedly admitted. But cops wrote that his actions were 'imminently dangerous' to the victims and 'demonstrated a depraved mind without regard to human life.' 'Had those rounds impacted maybe just a couple more inches up, unfortunately, you probably would've had a catastrophic incident where multiple victims would have been harmed,' Alachua County Sheriff's Office Capt. Chris Sims, a public information officer, told WCJB. 'I think it's important to remember that there are no age restrictions on people who make poor decisions or try to harm someone,' he added.
Washington Post
3 days ago
- Washington Post
Carolyn Hax: Stepparent resents husband's ex over teen's support agreement
Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My husband had a baby when he was 19, was named on the birth certificate and paid support from birth. When his son was 1, his ex moved away. Her attorney created a new support order with a section that said my husband consented to the move. My husband was 20, couldn't afford a lawyer and was not a very involved father. The deal was less than current support, so he took it.
Yahoo
4 days ago
- General
- Yahoo
This is how we do it: ‘I was twice her age, married and her boss. I questioned whether I was a bad person'
We don't call ourselves a couple. We value our own and each other's freedom Ava and I grew close when I was her boss, and still with my ex-wife. I'm twice her age, and worried how that would appear. What if people confused us for father and daughter? I questioned whether I was a bad person. My daughter, who is four years younger than Ava, was disgusted at first, calling me a pervert, and my ex-wife was also understandably furious. They felt as though they had never truly known me. I feared I may have severed those relationships for ever, but I knew that, with Ava, I had the chance to be incredibly happy. It was months before we had sex. The first time we were intimate, we kept our clothes on. It was an intense experience. I remember her scent and how soft her skin was. I hadn't been able to get an erection for a few years, which led to the death of my sex life with my wife, and I assumed that was it for me. With Ava, I've rediscovered pleasure. Not only sexually, but also the pleasure of being together. We both believe in female empowerment … and Ava likes to be spanked, which excites me In sex, we have dominant-submissive roles. We both believe in female empowerment and equality, and we talk about that conflict, but the two can coexist. Ava likes to be spanked, which excites me. I also find her freedom a turn-on, so sometimes we roleplay scenarios where she's been unfaithful and I'm punishing her. I like the idea of her being with other people, but it makes me jealous. We don't call ourselves a couple. We value our own and each other's freedom, and don't want a conventional future where we fall victim to the mundanity of daily routine. Although we work together, we have decided we will never live together. I've found that cohabiting causes the desire to know everything about someone to fall away, and I always want to feel a deep interest in Ava. To me, intimacy is the time we afford each other. I feel most connected to Ava at the end of the day when I massage her feet and we talk about things that interest us. Sometimes I wake up during the night and we're holding hands, so I start the day feeling loved, like I've been replenished overnight. We want to explore other ways to have sex and not stay as the lovers that we are now There's tension between what I enjoy sexually and my feminist values. I've always taken on the submissive role, but recently I've been questioning how much of this is my desire and how much has been prescribed by the patriarchy. I ask myself: do I actually like this, or have I been taught to like it? Often, I can't tell the difference. Why do I want to be submissive? For example, Benji used to grab my hair during sex, but after questioning it, I've asked him to stop. I listen to feminist podcasts and read feminist literature, and we communicate a lot about it. We want to challenge, test, learn and develop our relationship in a way that feels progressive. We want to explore other ways to have sex and not stay as the lovers that we are now. We have sex in the office, and use our workspace as part of the fantasy At the start, I wasn't attracted to Benji – there were no romantic or sexual feelings, but I felt this strong pull towards him that I couldn't understand. I cared about him and his opinion. He was an important person in my professional and personal life. We had lots of things in common. Then, when he told me his feelings, that the smell of my perfume made him crazy, it opened up another dimension. Our relationship developed. The first time Benji stayed at my place, we didn't sleep at all. We stayed up all night caressing each other through our clothes and looking up at the full moon. It was special. And it was still exciting teasing and building the sexual tension between us with no penetration or orgasm. Benji and I now run a business together, where we're the only employees, and sometimes we roleplay that he's the boss and I'm his secretary. We find that dynamic exciting. We have sex in the office, and use our workspace as part of the fantasy. Since we've been together, I feel free to be more myself, to wear the clothes I want, to say what I want. He speaks to my values of freedom and happiness.
The Sun
21-05-2025
- General
- The Sun
I've made a huge mistake by leaving wife for exciting sex with younger lover – how do I win her back?
DEAR DEIDRE: A YEAR after leaving my wife for my mistress, I have learned it is true that the grass is not always greener on the other side. I realise I made a huge mistake, which I will regret until my dying day. How can I tell my ex that I'm sorry and I want her back? I'm 46 and my ex-wife is 45. My current partner, who used to be my lover, is 32. My wife and I were married for 15 years and had a son together. Three years ago, I started having a classic mid-life crisis. My life felt stale. But instead of acknowledging I needed to change my career and take up a hobby, I stupidly decided that my marriage was the problem. While I loved my wife, our sex life had become dull, and I took her for granted. We never did anything together, and our conversations were all about our son or the house. So, when I met a good-looking younger woman through work, I thought she was the answer. Her interest in me was flattering. The sex was exciting and frequent, and we went out and had fun together. After six months of lying and sneaking around, I walked out on my wife. When I told her I had met someone else, she was absolutely devastated. My son was in bits too. I moved out to a rented flat, and we went through a painful divorce. Now, 18 months into my new relationship, the sex is no longer so great. Dear Deidre After Dark- Understanding open relationships She's immature and, if I'm honest, she bores me. I'd do anything to get my wife and son back. DEIDRE SAYS: You've learned a very painful lesson. It's possible your wife still loves you and will take you back. But it's highly unlikely that she will be able to trust you again. And she might not want to give you the opportunity to hurt her – and your son – for a second time. The truth is, you were selfish, and it's important to ask yourself if you're still only thinking about what you want. Some time alone would help you to figure things out. It sounds as if there is no future with your lover, but instead of rushing into another relationship, or trying to woo your ex, take your time and focus on rebuilding your relationship with your son. Counselling could help you to work through your feelings. My support pack, How Counselling Can Help, will guide you. SINGLE AND STUCK BEING LIVE-IN CARER FOR MOTHER DEAR DEIDRE: I'VE been single for almost my whole life and I've now accepted I will never have a serious relationship. At 40, I'm still living with my mother. She's old and sick, so I can't leave her – and if I did, I'd be even more alone. I had a couple of girlfriends in my teens and early-20s, but they didn't last. Since then, there's been nobody. There's nothing wrong with the way I look and I have a job, but women just aren't interested in me. It's clear they judge me for living with my mother. I'm capable of being independent, but she's a widow and I'm an only child, so how can I abandon her? I'm trapped. I've watched all my peers settle down and have kids. Fate seems to have decided that's not for me. My life feels so pointless and empty. What can I do to help myself? DEIDRE SAYS: Life might feel hopeless right now, but nothing stays the same forever. You're clearly a loving son, but if living with your mother is making you unhappy, perhaps it's time to look at other options. Talk to her – and her doctor or social services – about getting a carer, so you can have some independence. If you're lonely, a relationship isn't the only solution. Making friends through activities you enjoy, could be rewarding – and might also lead to romance. See my support pack, Widening Your Social Scene. FEAR HE HAS LUBE FOR SEX WITH MEN DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner can't get an erection with me, but I found a used tube of lubricant in his backpack. Now I'm wondering if he's actually gay and sleeping with men instead. We're both in our early-30s and have been together for two years. When we first got together, we did have a sex life, but it was never great and soon fizzled out. He always says he's too stressed and tired, and just wants to hug me instead. If I express my sexual frustration, he gets annoyed. I love him, and I hoped things would get better. But the other day, when I went to get some dirty clothes to wash from his backpack, I found the lube. I felt sick. I haven't said anything because I don't know how to bring it up, and I'm scared of upsetting him. DEIDRE SAYS: This relationship isn't making you happy, and sounds unhealthy. You deserve a sex life, yet your partner won't discuss his lack of interest or erectile difficulties, and you're scared to rile him. There's no communication or trust in your relationship. I'm sorry to say, but things won't get better on their own. If he won't talk to you honestly, without getting nasty, or go to the doctor about his lack of desire, then perhaps you need to think about breaking up. Read my support pack, Ending A Relationship. PAL AVOIDING ME AFTER OUR KISS DEAR DEIDRE: I'VE been confused about my feelings for my female best friend ever since I kissed her and joked that we'd make a good couple. Although I've always thought of myself as straight, I'm now wondering if I might be a lesbian or bi. I think she's questioning her sexuality too. We're both 21-year-old students, and have been friends for three years. A few weeks ago, we were at a party and both got very drunk. At one point, we were dancing, and I grabbed her and kissed her spontaneously. She seemed surprised, but kissed me back. Afterwards, we laughed about it and said it was a shame we're both straight, as we'd be perfect together. I didn't feel anything at the time, but I haven't been able to stop thinking about it since. I've even had sexy dreams about her. I know she's worrying about this too, because she's been a bit off with me recently. It feels like she's avoiding spending time alone with me. But when she doesn't think I'm looking in her direction, I catch her staring at me. This is really preoccupying me, and I'm not sure what to do. And sometimes, just having strong feelings of friendship for one specific person can transform into sexual attraction. It sounds like your friend is probably experiencing the same confusion as you. So it would be a good idea to discuss this with her, both for the sake of your future friendship and simply so you can be there for each other. My support packs, Gay Support and Bisexual Questions, both contain details of organisations you and your friend can contact for further help and advice.
