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Telegraph
19 hours ago
- Entertainment
- Telegraph
Dear Richard Madeley: ‘Should we refuse to shell out any more on this wedding?'
Dear Richard We've got a big family wedding coming up, and between travel logistics, kids' exams and getting time off work, it has been a bit of a mission to arrange everything. It's also cost us a fortune, from train tickets to clothes. Now we have had an estimated bill from the bride's mother for accommodation, which we expected, but also a share of the rehearsal dinner and various 'extras' including local transport costs, which we didn't. (Our son, the groom's first cousin, is DJing at the evening do, unpaid, so the least we expected was for him to be let off some of these costs, which he hasn't been.) The total is creeping up to a point where we would have seriously considered sending our apologies had we known. My husband says we should just not pay, or pay a 'reasonable' sum, as one is supposed to be allowed to do after a disappointing meal at a restaurant. It's been a while since we've been involved with anything like this so we don't know the protocols, but as far as we knew the bride's parents were doing the heavy lifting, in the traditional way (as we expect to do with our two girls). To return to the restaurant analogy, we feel as though we have moved to that awkward situation where everyone pays for their own food and the evening dissolves into bickering about garlic bread. It's too late not to go, and we want to support our nephew, but we feel taken advantage of. Must we simply submit? — Anon, via email Dear Anon, This is definitely one of the trickier letters I've received for these pages. I had to read it several times before I could start to work out exactly what's at play here. Even then, I consulted my wife Judy (she's something of an expert on wedding etiquette) before forming this reply. One. It is, as you say, perfectly reasonable to ask you to pay for your own accommodation costs. Two. I would suggest that the same applies to the dinner following the wedding rehearsal. It's not as if you're being asked to contribute to the costs of the wedding reception on the day itself. The rehearsal – a recently imported concept from the US, and pretty daft and unnecessary if you ask me – is very much a voluntary occasion. I certainly wouldn't bother going to one. But if I did, and joined in the dinner afterwards, I would expect to pay for my meal, wine etc. Three. Local transport – by which I assume you mean some sort of coach to the wedding itself, on to the reception afterwards, and then back to your hotel… yes, this does seem a little 'tight' but perhaps the bride's parents are as concerned about costs as… well… YOU are. But if you remain uncomfortable about these demands, and given you say you're committed to attending the wedding, here's what I suggest. Make your own alternative arrangements. Book your own accommodation. By all means go to the 'rehearsal', but have dinner afterwards somewhere else on your own ticket. Order local taxis on the day to and from all the various locations. But I'm still a bit puzzled by your letter. Are there other, deeper issues at play here? Some problem in your relationship with the bride's mother? #justasking!
The Sun
2 days ago
- Entertainment
- The Sun
Dani Dyer stuns in white gown as she and footballer Jarrod Bowen get married in star-studded bash
mr and mrs DANI Dyer looked sensational in white as she and footballer Jarrod Bowen got married in a star-studded ceremony. She and Jarrod, both 28, were the picture of wedded bliss while saying 'I do' in front of their nearest and dearest. 2 Former Love Island star Dani chose a stunning off the shoulder gown for her big day. Meanwhile West Ham striker Jarrod looked dapper in a black suit. Dani took to Instagram to share snaps from their big day, simply captioning them: "The Bowens." She was flooded with messages from fans, with one writing: "Stunning massive congratulations to you both !!!! You both deserve the love & happiness." Someone else said: "You look stunning . The most beautiful bride."
Yahoo
3 days ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Woman Skipping Sister's Wedding Because She Expects Guests to Chip in and Pay for It: 'Charging Admission'
A woman shared on Reddit that her sister is planning her wedding and intends to — as she put it — "charge admission" to the event The bride and groom want their loved ones to chip in and help cover the various costs of the wedding, from the flowers to the catering "They're calling it a 'shared celebration' and acting like it's normal for guests to help fund it," the Redditor wroteA woman was "shocked" to learn about her bride-to-be sister's unconventional wedding scheme. She shared her story in a post on Reddit's "Am I Overreacting" forum, explaining that her older sister and her fiancé plan to charge their guests "admission" to their nuptials. The couple wants their loved ones to contribute to the costs of the celebration — or else they won't be welcomed on the big day. "Instead of just inviting people to celebrate, she and her fiancé decided that every family member needed to pay to attend. Not like buying your own dress or travel (which I'd expect), but actually pitching in for the wedding expenses — things like the catering, flowers, decor and whatever else they've got planned at this fancy hotel venue," the OP (original poster) wrote. "They're calling it a 'shared celebration' and acting like it's normal for guests to help fund it," she added. When her sister informed her of the scheme, she tried to dissuade her — but the bride-to-be was unmoved. "I brought up how uncomfortable it made me and how it felt less like a wedding and more like buying a ticket to a private party. I also gently suggested maybe going with a less expensive wedding if money was that tight, but she completely shut me down," the OP recalled of the "tense" conversation. "She got super defensive, said I wasn't being supportive." When the OP later received her wedding invitation in the mail, a note was included that said "unless I had 'contributed,' I shouldn't come." The OP went on to share why the situation has left her feeling upset and frustrated. "I love my sister, but it felt really wrong to be asked to pay hundreds if not up to a thousand dollars just to be there, especially when I wasn't even asked to be a bridesmaid or anything," she wrote. "Plus, she's not covering hotel rooms, and it's in a super pricey location. I'm still in school, I work part-time, and I just don't have that kind of money to spare." She said her parents are encouraging her to pay her share and show up to her sister's wedding to "keep the peace." But she argued that she shouldn't have to be "guilted" into forking over the money "just to prove I care about my sister." Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. So she has decided to stand her ground and not attend the wedding. Seeking advice, the OP asked fellow Redditors if she's "being unreasonable." In the comments section, readers agreed with the OP's stance and said she's justified in not giving in to her sister's demands. "Not Overreacting. Charging an 'admission fee' for a wedding is weird and tacky," one person wrote. "This whole situation sounds incredibly entitled," another commented. "Weddings are personal choices, and expecting guests to shoulder the cost is completely out of line. If someone can't afford a big wedding, a courthouse ceremony is a beautiful, respectful option. No one should be guilt-tripped into going broke for someone else's celebration." Some commenters questioned why the OP's parents and other family members are on board with the sister's plan to charge people to attend. "What is happening in the world that couples expect guests to pay to attend their wedding — the audacity and entitlement. Don't go," one reader said. "This is just wrong, and if family are going along with it, they're just as insane. Imagine if all guests refused to attend? Guess there'd be no wedding. Family are enablers." Another person pointed out that the bride and groom are treating their loved ones as if they are paying "customers," rather than warmly welcomed guests. "If you must pay to attend, you are not a guest, you are a customer," they wrote. "As a customer, I'd want a say in what I ate, where I sat, and maybe even what music was played." Read the original article on People
Yahoo
7 days ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Bride's Wedding Dress Sparks Family 'Drama' as Mother-in-Law 'Flipped Out' and Groom 'Felt Disappointed'
A recent bride asked Reddit users if she was in the wrong for wearing her "dream" white wedding dress even though it meant breaking the groom's family tradition of wearing "blush-colored" gowns The woman's husband told her he "felt disappointed when [she] walked down the aisle in white" and her mother-in-law "flipped out" Most Reddit users commented that the bride could wear whatever she wanted, but noted that it would have been nice to give a warning that she wouldn't be following tradition before the weddingA bride's "dream" wedding dress was a nightmare for the groom and his mother. In a post on Reddit's "Am I the A------" forum, the bride, 31, said that her wedding was "a dream come true" until it wasn't. "One big drama" clouded the special day. "My MIL (mother-in-law) flipped out over my wedding dress," she wrote. The groom's side of the family has a "longstanding tradition" where brides wear "blush-colored" wedding dresses. All the women have followed this tradition for as long as they can remember, so when the Redditor got engaged, she was requested to wear a blush-colored wedding dress too. "When they first mentioned it, I politely said I'd consider it but ultimately would go with whatever color my perfect dress happened to be," the bride explained. When it came time to wedding dress shopping, the bride invited the groom's mother to join her. It didn't take long for her to find her dream wedding dress — but it was white. "MIL immediately asked me if they could dye or alter it to blush," the bride recalled. "I promised I'd ask, but also made it clear if alterations weren't possible, I wouldn't be choosing another dress." The bride followed through with her promise, and asked for alterations. However, she was told that dying the gown could potentially "ruin" it. The bride didn't want to take any chances, so she decided that it wasn't worth the risk and left the dress as it was. What the bride didn't do was inform her future husband, 32, and mother-in-law before the wedding that she wouldn't be following their family tradition after all. "It was my day, my dress, my choice," she said. When the bride made her way down the aisle in her white dress, her mother-in-law was "visibly angry the whole time." After the ceremony at reception, she even "cornered" her and "demanded an explanation." "I calmly told her they couldn't alter my dress, and I didn't want to choose another one," the Redditor said. "She said she was disappointed I broke their family tradition, and, to my surprise, even my now-husband mentioned later that he felt disappointed when I walked down the aisle in white." "Hearing that my husband was disappointed seeing me on our wedding day just broke me," she added. The bride asked fellow Redditors whether or not she was in the wrong for sticking with her wedding dress instead of following tradition. In the comments section, the majority of users said that the bride was NTA (Not the A------) for wearing a white wedding dress. "YOU wore the dress so the only opinion that matters is yours," one person said. is now available in the Apple App Store! Download it now for the most binge-worthy celeb content, exclusive video clips, astrology updates and more! Another user wrote in part, "Your mother-in-law is allowed to be sad that the tradition wasn't upheld, but she needs to understand that it [is] your day and your choice. She should have kept her opinions to herself. If the color of your dress was that important to your husband, he should have communicated that to you before you went dress shopping." A handful of commenters argued that it would have been more considerate for the bride to have at least given a heads up that she wasn't going to be following tradition before the ceremony, so that it wouldn't have been as jarring or disappointing for the groom and his mom. Read the original article on People
Yahoo
7 days ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Bride's Wedding Dress Sparks Family 'Drama' as Mother-in-Law 'Flipped Out' and Groom 'Felt Disappointed'
A recent bride asked Reddit users if she was in the wrong for wearing her "dream" white wedding dress even though it meant breaking the groom's family tradition of wearing "blush-colored" gowns The woman's husband told her he "felt disappointed when [she] walked down the aisle in white" and her mother-in-law "flipped out" Most Reddit users commented that the bride could wear whatever she wanted, but noted that it would have been nice to give a warning that she wouldn't be following tradition before the weddingA bride's "dream" wedding dress was a nightmare for the groom and his mother. In a post on Reddit's "Am I the A------" forum, the bride, 31, said that her wedding was "a dream come true" until it wasn't. "One big drama" clouded the special day. "My MIL (mother-in-law) flipped out over my wedding dress," she wrote. The groom's side of the family has a "longstanding tradition" where brides wear "blush-colored" wedding dresses. All the women have followed this tradition for as long as they can remember, so when the Redditor got engaged, she was requested to wear a blush-colored wedding dress too. "When they first mentioned it, I politely said I'd consider it but ultimately would go with whatever color my perfect dress happened to be," the bride explained. When it came time to wedding dress shopping, the bride invited the groom's mother to join her. It didn't take long for her to find her dream wedding dress — but it was white. "MIL immediately asked me if they could dye or alter it to blush," the bride recalled. "I promised I'd ask, but also made it clear if alterations weren't possible, I wouldn't be choosing another dress." The bride followed through with her promise, and asked for alterations. However, she was told that dying the gown could potentially "ruin" it. The bride didn't want to take any chances, so she decided that it wasn't worth the risk and left the dress as it was. What the bride didn't do was inform her future husband, 32, and mother-in-law before the wedding that she wouldn't be following their family tradition after all. "It was my day, my dress, my choice," she said. When the bride made her way down the aisle in her white dress, her mother-in-law was "visibly angry the whole time." After the ceremony at reception, she even "cornered" her and "demanded an explanation." "I calmly told her they couldn't alter my dress, and I didn't want to choose another one," the Redditor said. "She said she was disappointed I broke their family tradition, and, to my surprise, even my now-husband mentioned later that he felt disappointed when I walked down the aisle in white." "Hearing that my husband was disappointed seeing me on our wedding day just broke me," she added. The bride asked fellow Redditors whether or not she was in the wrong for sticking with her wedding dress instead of following tradition. In the comments section, the majority of users said that the bride was NTA (Not the A------) for wearing a white wedding dress. "YOU wore the dress so the only opinion that matters is yours," one person said. is now available in the Apple App Store! Download it now for the most binge-worthy celeb content, exclusive video clips, astrology updates and more! Another user wrote in part, "Your mother-in-law is allowed to be sad that the tradition wasn't upheld, but she needs to understand that it [is] your day and your choice. She should have kept her opinions to herself. If the color of your dress was that important to your husband, he should have communicated that to you before you went dress shopping." A handful of commenters argued that it would have been more considerate for the bride to have at least given a heads up that she wasn't going to be following tradition before the ceremony, so that it wouldn't have been as jarring or disappointing for the groom and his mom. Read the original article on People
