Emily Ratajkowski is over 'centering men' who don't serve a purpose
In a new interview with Elle UK, the model and actress told the publication that the men in her life must serve a specific purpose – or she's ready to show them the door.
"Not centering men is really wonderful," she said in the article, published June 18. "In general, in our world, men have somehow filled this space, but what I found instead of it is community."
"I still like men," she offered as a caveat, but added that her desire for friendship with straight men has dwindled.
"I just have zero straight men in my life, unless they're a romantic interest. In the hierarchy of needs, that's at the top of the pyramid, which is nice," Ratajkowski, 34, told the magazine.
While men may be good for "pleasure and fun," they're "not a part of my core" community, she explained. "The rest of my life is community with other women and queer people, and being a mom," she said. Ratajkowski shares one son, Sly, 3, with ex-husband Sebastian Bear-McClard.
'Hot girl summer,' move aside. Women are going 'boysober' and have never felt better.
Now an author, the model has spent recent years sharpening her feminist voice and becoming an outspoken advocate for women's rights. Her 2021 essay collection "My Body" explored themes of female empowerment, owning your own sexuality and the exploitative tilt of the entertainment and fashion industries.
Her comments echo a wider sentiment circulating in some circles online of a freedom found in "decentering" men. In line with the "boysober" trend of last summer, which saw women renouncing sex and romantic relationships for the sake of clearheadedness and empowerment, Ratajkowski's sentiments match a growing movement to throw out the boy craziness of yesteryear and dig deeper into female relationships.
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