Lifelong Friends Move in Together. But Then Pal's Disrespectful Behavior Threatens to End Friendship
One of the women often disregards her roommate's boundaries, causing tension between the two
Now, they wonder if they can salvage their friendshipLiving with a friend can be challenging, especially when boundaries are crossed.
A 25-year-old woman seeks support from the Reddit community after ongoing tensions with her best friend and housemate have made their living situation increasingly difficult.
The two have been close for decades and were initially excited to live together. However, over time, their differing needs and disregard for each other's wishes have led to tension. Now, the poster has come to realize that their lifestyles have become incompatible.
'I have always known I am pretty introverted and came from not a great family home, so shared with her ahead of time that I will need alone time and there may be days when I'm just chilling solo in my room,' the woman writes in the since-deleted post.
Her housemate, on the other hand, turned out to be far more extroverted than she had realized before moving in. This fundamental difference has contributed to growing friction, along with her friend's disregard for boundaries.
The woman describes how, while she was out of town, her housemate damaged their shared car but failed to inform her.
'She had some kind of minor accident leaving noticeable scratches on my wing mirror and didn't tell me, leaving me to have to ask about them when I found them,' the woman writes.
Beyond property concerns, her housemate often makes unsolicited comments about the poster's health, despite being asked to stop. This is particularly sensitive given the Redditor's history with Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) and a past eating disorder.
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'She will often comment on my diet and make comments about my exercise even when I ask her not to as my health is a difficult journey for me and diet in particular triggers my past binge eating disorder from my crappy home life," she writes.
Her housemate has also been allowing people, including strangers, to stay in their shared space without permission. When confronted about this, she failed to respect the woman's wishes for future instances.
The final straw came when the woman walked into their living room and found her housemate and her boyfriend being intimate with the door open. 'I just think she should be more considerate and I don't think I want someone in my life who doesn't care about me or how their actions would make me feel,' she writes.
Though they have discussed many of these issues after the fact, the woman notes that nothing has changed. Now, as she prepares to move out, she is left wondering whether their friendship can—or should— survive beyond their time as housemates.
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