Woman Gets Unexpected Payout. Then Rent-Free Boyfriend Calls Her ‘Selfish' for Not Buying Him a New Car
A woman recently came into some money, and now her boyfriend expects her to spend it on him
He insisted that she should buy him a new car, despite her car being on it's last leg
Now, the boyfriend is sulking around the house and guilt-tripping herA woman is turning to Reddit for advice after getting into a heated disagreement with her boyfriend over her recent financial windfall.
In the post, she details the strain that money and expectations have put on their relationship, questioning if she was in the wrong "for not buying [her] boyfriend a new car and getting mad at him for asking."
'So I recently came into some money. Not lottery-level but enough that I can finally afford to take care of a few big things like getting a decent car and paying off some debt,' she explains, noting that her current car is barely running, while her boyfriend's, though old, is in much better shape.
The couple's finances have always been lopsided, as her boyfriend is currently unemployed and has been living with her rent-free for some time. 'I cover food, bills, and everything else. I've been okay with that because I make enough and I do care about him,' she admits.
However, everything changed when her boyfriend learned about her new financial situation. 'As soon as he found out I came into money his first reaction was that we should upgrade our cars. Not just mine. Ours. As in he wants a new car too,' she writes.
When she told him she planned to replace her own car first, he got upset and accused her of not being generous. 'He got kind of sulky. Said I 'never think of us as a team' and that I 'wasn't being generous,'' she shares.
Her boyfriend's tantrum didn't stop there. Since their conversation, he's been making passive-aggressive comments, such as that it 'must be nice to have money and only think about yourself."
His attitude is especially shocking given that she was willing to get him a new car in the future. 'For the record, I never said I wouldn't help him with things down the line. But right now I need a car that won't fall apart on the motorway,' she clarifies.
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'It's making me question things and I honestly don't know if I'm overreacting by being annoyed,' she confesses. She wonders if she's being selfish or if her boyfriend's sense of entitlement is a red flag.
The Reddit community was quick to weigh in, with one commenter bluntly remarking, 'he lives with you rent free AND wants you to buy him a car?? That's not your boyfriend, that's your son.'
This sentiment seemed to resonate with the poster, who replied, 'The more I think about it the more I'm like… 'why am I the one feeling guilty here?' I didn't realize basic boundaries were such a high bar.'
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