Woman Tells Boyfriend His Mom Can't Come to Her Birthday Dinner. His Response Ends Their Relationship

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3 days ago

A Reddit user was stunned when her boyfriend asked if he could bring his mom to her birthday dinner hours before the big event
The poster declined, resulting in a poor reaction from both her boyfriend and his mom
After asking for advice from Reddit, she decided to end the relationshipShould I have to let my boyfriend's mom come to my birthday dinner? That was the question posed by a Reddit user in need of advice.
The 20-something-year-old woman explained that she was planning to celebrate her birthday at a rooftop restaurant with her friends and her boyfriend, whom she'd been with for over two years at the time of the post.
Two hours before the dinner, her boyfriend texted her, 'Hey, my mom's coming with me, cool?' The woman noted she didn't even know her boyfriend's mom was in town.
While the poster didn't have any major issues with his mom, she explained that she 'calls him multiple times a day, shows up unannounced, and makes comments about how no woman will ever take care of him like she does.'
The user texted her boyfriend back saying, 'I'd prefer if it was just us tonight, babe. This is something I planned with people I'm close to.' The boyfriend responded by saying, 'Wow, seriously? It's just dinner. She wanted to come support you.'
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The user held firm and wouldn't let her boyfriend's mom come, resulting in him skipping the celebration altogether. Meanwhile, his mom posted passive-aggressive things online like 'Some people don't know how to appreciate others who genuinely care for them' and 'God don't like ugly.'
Many Redditors sided with the poster, agreeing that she made the right call and should reevaluate the relationship she had with her boyfriend, noting that it feels like he's putting his mom above her.
'If he can't go to a birthday dinner without dragging his mom along like an emotional chaperone, he's not ready for an adult relationship. OP made the right call, she needs a partner, not someone who needs mommy's approval to function. Time to level up to a man, not a man-child,' wrote one user.
Another added, 'Just run, this is never going to get better.'
In an update, the poster added that after reading the advice of commenters, she "decided to break up with him."
"I called him and let him know that things aren't going to work out," she wrote. "He cried, and I felt sad, but I had to let him go.'
To which one person replied, 'Good update. He's already in a primary relationship and it isn't with you.'
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