23 Bad First Dates, According To Men
"Went to dinner; she was on her phone the entire time texting. Even when we were talking. Figured she was just in it for a free dinner, cause really, what's the point of agreeing to date if you're not going to try to get to know the person?"
—None
"She. Didn't. Say. Anything. Like, there is being nervous and then there is that. We were taking a film class together in school and agreed to go see a movie together (50/50) that counted for extra credit. It became clear a few days beforehand that this was turning into a full-on date, and I just rolled with it. We were both single, and I thought we could have a fun night out together. I asked if we could get dinner after the movie to talk about it and get to know each other better. She seemed excited by the idea, and I was looking forward to the night."
"Constantly talking about how awful her ex was."
—None"In my experience, that's usually a sign that they jumped back into the dating pool too soon."—WereOnTheEdgeOfGlory
"She showed up in a dirty white dress, her hair looked like it had not been brushed in months. During dinner, she told me that she still lived at home, never wanted to get a job, and that she stole her dad's car while he was asleep to meet me at the restaurant. Then, when she found out that I was divorced, she said, 'You didn't work hard enough to save your marriage.' I put down the chopsticks, went and paid, said nice meeting you, and left."
"She chewed gum through our initial date, which was at a decent Italian place, including a bottle of good white wine. And she proceeded to tell me how she had married early, had two kids (girls), realized she was a lesbian, left her husband and took most of his money, lived with girlfriend number one, left girlfriend number one for number two, ended that and then realized that 'long term, she needed a dick.'"
"I noped the fuck out of there so fast..."—palomino_blackwing
"When she asked me for my birth date, she proceeded to tell me everything that was wrong with me as a person based solely on my horoscope."
"First date. Her: 'Are you sure you want to be a (my career)? Don't you think that you should wait until our children are old enough to have their lives together? Then you'll be free to do what you want.'
"Me: 'Listen, I'm leaving. Bye.'"—None
"She 'forgot' to mention that she had a boyfriend. I became suspicious when I saw the background of her phone. It was a picture of her kissing a man. When I asked her about that picture, she told me it was her boyfriend. The 'reason' she was doing this was because her boyfriend was 'boring.' She coudn't answer when I asked her why she didn't break up with him in the first place. Told her that what she was doing was not cool, and that she needs to be honest with her boyfriend. Ended the date afterwards."
"I arrived at her place, and she told me to hop in her car as she just needed to drop something off at a friend's house real quick. It wasn't a friend, it was someone she had an appointment to sell those hot oil infusers and their millions of scented inserts to. I sat in a stranger's home for 90 minutes while they smelled them all. She wanted to go to dinner afterwards, and I asked her to please drop me off at the car so I could go home."
''She had a business to run.' Guess it didn't even make it a whole first date."—Face-palmJediWere you... incensed?"—None"He was infused with anger."—Darkblade48
"She spent 30 minutes talking about her ex who apparently sat on his ass at home during most of the 18-27 years playing Xbox while she was working two jobs and getting her pregnant twice. Then, after she finished this speech, she spent ten minutes telling me that she was now going to get a man who had a job and money, and he was gonna take care of her and her kids, etc., etc. I left after this part, having paid for the dinner and thinking many, many unpleasant thoughts."
"She forgot to take off her wedding ring on the second date."
"She had hidden the fact that she was married on the first date, and left it on for the second. I left instantly."—-God_Riddance-
"Met her at a hospital (I was an ER patient for a hand wound; she was a phlebotomist). Asked her out to a movie and then dinner; we had a really excellent talk about comics and movies. We were getting to know each other and flirting; it was clearly a date. At the end, when I told her I'd like to do it again, she said her fiancé probably wouldn't be cool with it a second time."
"She rolled her eyes when I said she looked nice. Criticized where I chose to eat. Complained about the music we went to see. I spent the whole date anxious, assuming that she was hating every moment, because, you know, she didn't have anything positive to say about anything. Then I get: 'I had a good time! Let's do this again.' Nah, I'm good. I've got enough negativity and mixed signals coming from my own brain. I don't need that coming from the outside too."
—[deleted]
"Teeth as black as the night. She didn't have any diseases or syndromes, but simply no 'time' to brush her teeth. For the record: her photos didn't show her teeth."
"She was super rude to our waitress, as if it was the appropriate way to behave towards another human being."
—will_eat_ass_4_noods
"We sat down at a corner booth, and she was sitting really close to me. We both ordered, and to start off, she was hella rude to our server, like 'I want a lemonade. No ice. Did you get that, sweetheart? I said no ice. Don't screw it up.' So that was already a bit of a turnoff. And then when our food got in, she used like an entire squirt bottle of Heinz 57 ketchup, on broccoli cheese casserole, and she was trying to whisper shit in my ear like 'You're hot,' 'Let's fool around,' but I could smell the ketchup, and it made me want to actually vomit and die. We did not go out again."
"Six years ago, I went out with a woman who called me a racist because I don't like sushi."
—[deleted]
"She asked if I had any love interests still in existence. When I said no, she didn't believe me. She told me she wanted to travel the world and see old friends (who were guys) and thought that I, as a lawyer, should work and pay for her travels. She was wild. She also offered to fuck in her car in the first five minutes of meeting. No second date for you!"
"When we saw Fury in the theater, she read the subtitles out loud. I'm not sure if she thought I couldn't read them or if she needed to sound them out, but I knew at that moment no follow up was necessary."
—[deleted]
"On a lunch date with a very attractive woman whom I shared a couple of classes with, she mentioned that she was in the process of getting a divorce. She seemed to want to talk about it, so I indulged. When I asked why things were ending, she said, 'He's been cheating on me.' 'That's heavy, how did you find out?' 'Internet history...' Pauses, leans in and whispers: 'He looks at porn.' 'Oh (I know I smiled) is porn cheating?' 'It's mental cheating, and my pastor says that's the worst kind.'
"I went out with a doctor. I understand that it's important, and she should be proud of it. However, she would not stop talking about how good she was at it. At one point, she said she was thinking of quitting to be a baker and opening up a bakery. I asked if she had any experience. Nope. She decided she could do it because she's so smart; she could just learn it and be successful right away. I know people who bake professionally, and it's a lot of work. You can't just jump into it and open a business. I don't know if I've gone out with anyone quite so insufferable."
—Jantripp
"I once went to a movie as a first date with a woman (her idea; bad idea). She got there late, and the movie had already started. She then wanted to talk during the movie in the middle of the crowded theater. I didn't shush her or anything, but everything was a one-word answer, trying to end the conversation. She got up halfway through and said I was obviously not interested in her. She was right."
"I drove her home because she didn't have a car at that time, and she asked if we could stop for an errand... to pick up matching T-shirts she had designed for her and her ex."
—snapyourvitals"That's rude that she didn't make you one."—abeaninspace
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