Mom Worries She'll Be Labeled ‘Emotionally Manipulative' After She ‘Burst into Tears' in Front of Her 9-Year-Old Son
A woman said she 'burst into tears' in front of her 9-year-old son, and now she 'feels terrible'
The woman — who shared her story on an online community forum — said her son had been difficult all morning, and she finally lost control of her emotions
The woman's fellow community members assured her that sometimes 's--- happens' — and one person even suggested that her son may have learned a valuable lesson from the experienceA woman says she cried in front of her young son — and now she's now feels 'terrible' and is worried she will be labeled 'emotionally manipulative.'
The woman detailed her story on the U.K.-based community site Mumsnet.com, a place where women can go to seek advice from other women. In the post — titled 'Do you let yourself cry in front of your kids?' — the woman shared that her 9-year-old son is currently going through a major 'whiny' phase.
'[He] whines about everything,' she began, adding, 'This morning he started to whine at me before my eyes had properly opened. He whined about wanting the TV on, whined about wanting his iPad, whined about what I was making him for breakfast, whined about getting dressed, whined about his dad going to work!'
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She said that she finally 'had enough' after he 'lost it' at her over what he was going to wear to school that day. 'I burst into tears and I told [him] that I had enough of his whining every single bloody day, and [that] he was making me feel extremely, extremely unhappy,' original poster (OP) said.
'I told him this was getting silly and asked him to stop and to pull himself together, and if there was nothing really wrong to please stop [and] consider how he was talking to me,' she continued. 'He quickly pulled himself together, ate all his breakfast, read his books, packed his school bag and went to the car without a word.'
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While the OP said her tears clearly had an effect on her son, she is 'currently feeling terrible,' and is worried she will be 'labeled as some sort of emotionally manipulative mother for crying" in front of him.
'Do you tell your kids how you feel? Cry in front of them, etc.?' she then asked her fellow community members. She ended by adding, 'My mother never cried in front of us, but I don't feel she did us any favors.'
The vast majority of commenters said they think the OP should cut herself some slack, and that sometimes showing emotion in front of your children is inevitable. 'I think it's fine as long as it's not for emotional manipulation — which it wasn't in your case,' one person responded, adding, 'You had just got to the end of your tether.'
'It's not great to be overly emotional in front of children on a regular basis, but sometimes s--- happens,' someone else offered.
Another person agreed and said the incident may have even taught the OP's son an important lesson. 'I think it's a good thing (not all the time obviously …,' they wrote, adding, '[Children] need to understand that you're not a parental robot that they can treat however they want. You do get overwhelmed/frustrated, etc.'
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