Mom Admits She's "Upset" After Her 8-Year-Old Daughter's Friend "Insulted" Their Home During a Playdate
A woman says she's 'upset' that her daughter's friend called their house 'so small' during a recent playdate
The woman admitted that the topic is a 'sore point' for her because 'most kids at their school have larger houses'
She shared her story on a popular community forum, where the majority of people said they thought she was overreactingA woman admitted that she felt 'upset' after a child 'insulted' her home — and she's wondering if she's overreacting.
She detailed her story on the 'Am I Being Unreasonable?' forum on the U.K.-based community site Mumsnet.com, a place where women can go to seek advice from others on a variety of topics.
In her post, titled 'Child's friend insulted house,' the woman explained that her 8-year-old daughter recently had a friend over for a playdate. She then said that the other child kept asking 'why our house and garden are so small' — and repeatedly commented on it.
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'This is a sore point as most kids at their school have larger houses,' the original poster (OP) added.
The woman said that while her daughter seemed to 'brush it off,' she was personally left with lingering feelings about the comments.
"AIBU [am I being unreasonable] to be upset by this, or is this normal?' she asked at the end of her post.
The vast majority of commenters said they thought the OP was overreacting.
'She's 8. She doesn't understand sensitivities around money and house size,' one person said.
'Children just say things,' added someone else. 'They might have just been observing. It's unlikely an 8-year-old would be judgmental!'
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'She's 8, and at that age, she's just stating a fact. If her house is bigger, she will presume that everyone's house is the same as her house. It's a sore point for you,' agreed another person. 'She isn't some kind of miniature Joan Collins passing judgment on your house. She's just observing something out loud.'
Others said that while they don't think the OP should take the child's comments too seriously, they can also understand why she was bothered by them.
'That scenario is my absolute fear,' admitted one commenter, adding, 'I work hard to give my [daughter] what I can, but my best doesn't compare at all to what her friends have.'
'That happened to me when my kid was 8, too. And it did stick in my head,' said another mom.
One person, however, recommended that the OP use the incident as a teachable moment for her daughter.
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'Take your daughter aside and explain this as a point of etiquette. Never comment on what people are wearing, their family or their home. It is just downright rude!' they said.
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