Man Feels ‘Crushed' When Girlfriend Says the Engagement Ring He Proposed with Isn't ‘Impressive' Enough

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After proposing, a man had misgivings about his new fiancée's reaction to the ring
He said he picked a ring that "suited her style," though the woman seemed unhappy with his choice
Redditors generally sided with the woman, noting that an engagement ring is meant to be worn for life — but that both partners should have an honest conversation to clear up any misunderstandingA man was proud of the ring he proposed with — but his new fiancée wasn't that impressed.
In a post on Reddit's "Am I Overreacting" forum, a new fiancé shared his misgivings about his proposal to his longtime girlfriend — or rather her reaction to it. He had been planning to pop the question for months, and when the time finally came, the woman seemed more focused on the ring itself, he wrote.
The couple had been together for three years prior, the man wrote, and recently he thought it was time to propose. He picked a ring he "thought she'd love," he said, which didn't have a huge stone, but he said it was "beautiful and suited her style." The ring itself cost around $6,000, and he only recently came into the funds to be able to afford it.
"She said yes but the first thing she said when she saw the ring was 'oh... it's smaller than I expected,'" the man wrote. "Later she mentioned her friend's ring being bigger and said she thought I wouldve gone with something more 'impressive.'"
The man tried to make light of it, but her comments stung, he said. It "crushed" him to think of that major moment in their relationship as tarnished by her disappointment. The whole thing feels "hollow" now, he added.
Now, the man is wondering if her reaction is indicative of a larger issue: "If this is how she reacted to something that was supposed to be special and meaningful, what else will never be good enough?"
Those in the comments, while justifying the man's emotional reaction, reinforced that just about everything about proposing should have been a conversation. Though the woman's comments and reaction may have been "tactless" based on the man's description, one commenter wrote, it's important to remember that an engagement ring is meant to be worn for the rest of her life.
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"Engagement rings are incredibly personal items, and she isn't out of line for wanting some input into how it looks and feels," the commenter wrote.
Another noted that the man seemed to decide for her what "suited her style" — rather than discussing with her what she'd want. The user suggested the couple sit down together and have a conversation — about the man's hurt feelings and about the woman's ring preferences. That way, there's no misunderstanding.
"Talk to the woman you love and find out what's actually wrong," they wrote. "If she's just superficial, it'll be clear quickly."
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