Worker's unusual lunch spot backfires after uncomfortable confrontation: ‘Was I being disrespectful?'
The internet erupted recently when a Reddit user revealed an unusual lunch location, sparking strong reactions.
The user began by noting that he or she was an introvert working in a 'highly social customer service job,' the person said in a thread on the popular 'Am I the A–hole' subreddit.
Advertisement
'I often need to take my lunch hour alone to recharge,' the commenter added. 'Next door to my workplace is a big, well-kept cemetery.'
'On nice days, I take my lunch to one of those benches, eat my sandwich and read a book,' the Redditor wrote. 'Sometimes I walk along the paths and read the gravestones.'
But recently, the lunch spot led to an uncomfortable social situation that left the person shaken up, as relayed in the post.
'Last week, I had just finished my lunch and was packing things away when another visitor approached me and we began chatting,' the user said. 'They said they were here to visit their parents and asked whom I had lost.'
Advertisement
6 The user began by noting that he or she was an introvert working in a 'highly social customer service job.'
LoloStock – stock.adobe.com
The person went on, 'I had to admit that none of my loved ones were buried here, but that I was coming here because it was peaceful and I needed a place to take a break from my work.'
The grieving person responded with disgust — and accused the lunch eater of 'treating the cemetery like a personal park,' which took the Reddit poster aback.
'I apologized and left immediately and haven't been back since,' the user admitted. 'But I was surprised to hear this, as I had not thought I was being disrespectful.'
Advertisement
6 But recently, the lunch spot led to an uncomfortable social situation that left the person shaken up.
Addressing a query to the community's 24 million users, the person asked, 'Was I being disrespectful?'
In response, hundreds of Redditors overwhelmingly supported the person's decision.
'Graveyards are places of peace and reflection not only for those who have lost someone, but for everyone,' the top comment read.
Advertisement
6 The grieving person responded with disgust — and accused the lunch eater of 'treating the cemetery like a personal park.'
sauletas – stock.adobe.com
'Originally, cemeteries were used like this,' another user claimed. 'It's why when you go to older ones, [there are] lots of open spaces and benches.'
Another chimed in, 'In the Victorian period, it was quite common to have picnics in cemeteries … It's only after regular parks became more common that the practice died down.'
A different user quipped, 'Why do they think there are benches in these places? Certainly not for the 'residents.''
6 Addressing a query to the community's 24 million users, the person asked, 'Was I being disrespectful?'
Ina Meer Sommer – stock.adobe.com
The thread also attracted an apparent admirer of the occult — who claimed it was 'a very witchy thing to do.'
'I myself am drawn to witchy symbolism and I respect it a lot,' this user wrote. 'A certain type of witch finds peace with the ancestors and [is] drawn to cemeteries. They have a connection. This isn't my path, but it is very respected.'
A few users found the choice of lunch spot to be in poor taste and accused the original poster of being disrespectful.
Advertisement
6 A user quipped, 'Why do they think there are benches in these places? Certainly not for the 'residents.''
LIMARIO – stock.adobe.com
'I can't imagine going to visit my nine-year-old nephew's grave and [finding] someone popping open a f—ing soda,' said one person bluntly.
'Truly macabre. Have people lost all sense of propriety and respect?' another wrote.
Another commenter said, 'You're using people's loved ones' final resting place for lunch as a private park … Go out and find a park that's actually a park.'
Advertisement
6 'Truly macabre. Have people lost all sense of propriety and respect?' another wrote.
m-art – stock.adobe.com
Florida-based etiquette expert Jacqueline Whitmore weighed in on the drama, telling Fox News Digital there's 'nothing wrong with taking a break and having lunch on a bench in a cemetery.'
'A lot of people find cemeteries quiet and peaceful and a wonderful place to decompress and reflect,' she said.
Advertisement
One commenter wrote that, while the person did not do anything wrong, it's important to value the feelings of the mourner also visiting the cemetery.
'I don't think you're being disrespectful … I do think, though, that commenters here aren't thinking about the mindset of someone who is visiting [a] loved one's grave,' the response read.
'Grief is top of mind for them.'
Try Our AI Features
Explore what Daily8 AI can do for you:
Comments
No comments yet...
Related Articles
Newsweek
9 hours ago
- Newsweek
Dog 'Broken Out' of Animal Shelter After 730 Days—Her Reaction Says It All
Based on facts, either observed and verified firsthand by the reporter, or reported and verified from knowledgeable sources. Newsweek AI is in beta. Translations may contain inaccuracies—please refer to the original content. A dog's two-year journey of living in the animal shelter finally came to an end after she was "broken out" and placed in a foster home. Waffles first arrived at an animal shelter 730 days ago, when she was about a year and a half old. She came in with her daughter after managing to escape a backyard breeder in the area, the shelter told foster parent Alyssa. Her pup has since been adopted, Alyssa told Newsweek. After two years, Waffles finally received a break from the loud, chaotic shelter environment thanks to Alyssa, also known as Reddit user u/dogluvr_1, who decided to foster her after seeing a Facebook post about the dog on June 25. Alyssa shared photos in yesterday's Reddit post on the subreddit r/velvethippos of the journey home with Waffles and her newfound freedom after leaving the shelter. The large dog happily sat in the back seat of the car. Every picture showed a smile plastered on her face. Waffles has been showered with endless toys and a very deserved pup cup since being picked up. In one photo, Waffles comfortably sat on a dog bed with all her new toys surrounding her. Screenshot from a June 23 Reddit post about a dog breaking out of an animal shelter after 730 days thanks to a foster parent stepping in. Screenshot from a June 23 Reddit post about a dog breaking out of an animal shelter after 730 days thanks to a foster parent stepping in. dogluvr_1/Reddit "She has been loving the backyard and all the toys and has been exploring the little doggy pool," Alyssa said. "She does love to jump with all fours off the ground when we have her toys to throw." Alyssa said that Waffles' new doggy siblings, Boba and Bambi, have been "very welcoming." So far, there have been "no problems" between the dogs. They've all been exchanging cuddles in the owner's king-sized bed. While Waffles is currently being fostered, Alyssa hopes she'll stay permanently. "We are considering adopting her; we just want to give her some more time to adjust and make sure everything is good with the dogs," she told Newsweek. "I just can't imagine how a dog-friendly, people-friendly dog who knows commands sat there without a family for that long." Reddit flooded the comment section with their congratulations. The post reached over 4,200 upvotes and 80 comments as of Wednesday. "So happy to see this. Thanks for giving waffles a chance. And thanks to the shelter for never giving up on him," wrote one Redditor. "Yay for sweet Waffles!!! It looks like they are already fitting in with the family!" another commenter said. A third person commented: "The bestest smile on the most patient of pibbles!!! Lots of love to Waffles." Do you have funny and adorable videos or pictures of your pet you want to share? Send them to life@ with some details about your best friend, and they could appear in our Pet of the Week lineup.
New York Post
10 hours ago
- New York Post
Worker's unusual lunch spot backfires after uncomfortable confrontation: ‘Was I being disrespectful?'
The internet erupted recently when a Reddit user revealed an unusual lunch location, sparking strong reactions. The user began by noting that he or she was an introvert working in a 'highly social customer service job,' the person said in a thread on the popular 'Am I the A–hole' subreddit. Advertisement 'I often need to take my lunch hour alone to recharge,' the commenter added. 'Next door to my workplace is a big, well-kept cemetery.' 'On nice days, I take my lunch to one of those benches, eat my sandwich and read a book,' the Redditor wrote. 'Sometimes I walk along the paths and read the gravestones.' But recently, the lunch spot led to an uncomfortable social situation that left the person shaken up, as relayed in the post. 'Last week, I had just finished my lunch and was packing things away when another visitor approached me and we began chatting,' the user said. 'They said they were here to visit their parents and asked whom I had lost.' Advertisement 6 The user began by noting that he or she was an introvert working in a 'highly social customer service job.' LoloStock – The person went on, 'I had to admit that none of my loved ones were buried here, but that I was coming here because it was peaceful and I needed a place to take a break from my work.' The grieving person responded with disgust — and accused the lunch eater of 'treating the cemetery like a personal park,' which took the Reddit poster aback. 'I apologized and left immediately and haven't been back since,' the user admitted. 'But I was surprised to hear this, as I had not thought I was being disrespectful.' Advertisement 6 But recently, the lunch spot led to an uncomfortable social situation that left the person shaken up. Addressing a query to the community's 24 million users, the person asked, 'Was I being disrespectful?' In response, hundreds of Redditors overwhelmingly supported the person's decision. 'Graveyards are places of peace and reflection not only for those who have lost someone, but for everyone,' the top comment read. Advertisement 6 The grieving person responded with disgust — and accused the lunch eater of 'treating the cemetery like a personal park.' sauletas – 'Originally, cemeteries were used like this,' another user claimed. 'It's why when you go to older ones, [there are] lots of open spaces and benches.' Another chimed in, 'In the Victorian period, it was quite common to have picnics in cemeteries … It's only after regular parks became more common that the practice died down.' A different user quipped, 'Why do they think there are benches in these places? Certainly not for the 'residents.'' 6 Addressing a query to the community's 24 million users, the person asked, 'Was I being disrespectful?' Ina Meer Sommer – The thread also attracted an apparent admirer of the occult — who claimed it was 'a very witchy thing to do.' 'I myself am drawn to witchy symbolism and I respect it a lot,' this user wrote. 'A certain type of witch finds peace with the ancestors and [is] drawn to cemeteries. They have a connection. This isn't my path, but it is very respected.' A few users found the choice of lunch spot to be in poor taste and accused the original poster of being disrespectful. Advertisement 6 A user quipped, 'Why do they think there are benches in these places? Certainly not for the 'residents.'' LIMARIO – 'I can't imagine going to visit my nine-year-old nephew's grave and [finding] someone popping open a f—ing soda,' said one person bluntly. 'Truly macabre. Have people lost all sense of propriety and respect?' another wrote. Another commenter said, 'You're using people's loved ones' final resting place for lunch as a private park … Go out and find a park that's actually a park.' Advertisement 6 'Truly macabre. Have people lost all sense of propriety and respect?' another wrote. m-art – Florida-based etiquette expert Jacqueline Whitmore weighed in on the drama, telling Fox News Digital there's 'nothing wrong with taking a break and having lunch on a bench in a cemetery.' 'A lot of people find cemeteries quiet and peaceful and a wonderful place to decompress and reflect,' she said. Advertisement One commenter wrote that, while the person did not do anything wrong, it's important to value the feelings of the mourner also visiting the cemetery. 'I don't think you're being disrespectful … I do think, though, that commenters here aren't thinking about the mindset of someone who is visiting [a] loved one's grave,' the response read. 'Grief is top of mind for them.'
Yahoo
14 hours ago
- Yahoo
"It's Such A Turn-Off": Frustrated Women Are Revealing Everyday Things Guys Aren't Ready To Hear About Women, And This Is So Spot On
Note: The story below discusses harassment. Let's be honest: there are a lot of things men don't know about women. So when I saw Reddit user Early-Manner-473 ask: "Women of Reddit, what are some things the guys aren't ready to hear about women?" I thought it would be helpful to share their answers. Here's what they said below. 1."If you don't do your share of the chores, then in our minds you become a child to care for, and we lose attraction and desire." —Rounders_in_knickers "Facts. I don't want to pick up after a grown man. It's such a turn-off." —woolyjumper2 2."We observe how you treat women you're not attracted to." —M_Ad "My mom taught me to pay attention to how a man treats the elderly, babies, and animals — or just how he treats others in general." —Sea_Breath28 3."We have a lot more body hair than some men seem to think we do. A lot of us, in addition to shaving our legs, are also shaving our toes." —NoIntroduction2673 "When I got laser hair removal on my legs, I asked if I could get it on my toes. Apparently, the whole top of the foot is included with the leg, so I was pretty psyched." —stampedingnuns 4."That the first however many minutes it takes a guy to decide if they want to sleep with us, we are deciding if you are a safe person to be around." —raerae1991 "Exactly! Sometimes, it seems to only take mere seconds. About two weeks ago, two men stopped me while I was walking and asked me a bunch of invasive questions. They were trying to get me to go somewhere after work with them. It was so strange." —Hello-Avrammm 5."Just because we're nice doesn't mean we're interested. Kindness ≠ flirting. A woman being polite isn't a green light, and rejecting someone doesn't make her cold or rude." —Ok-Raspberry-5374 "Sometimes we're polite and nice because we're uncomfortable and scared of you and trying to safely end the interaction without upsetting you. I can only speak for myself, but if I'm interested, there will be some teasing, joking, etc. I won't be using the same politeness I use with people I meet when I go to church with my parents." —EducationWestern5204 6."Period shits. Periods give a lot of women wild indigestion, and there's no experience quite like having three liquids coming from your body at the same time. Sorry." —lady-luthien "By my count, six liquids: Evacuating your guts from both ends, peeing, bleeding, sweating, and crying. Multitasking." —UhLeXSauce 7."Bras fucking suck most of the time. More specifically, our underwear isn't as comfortable as guys." —Grey_0724 8."I was hit on more by grown men when I was between the ages of 12-17 than I am now at 24. This isn't uncommon, and many of my friends have also experienced this. Call out your pedo friends." —voidharmony "Yep. I didn't realize it until I was out of college because in college I was surrounded by college-aged guys, but holy shit, that spikes in your early teens then falls off so fast. It's horrifying. I'm 32 now and haven't dealt with this for years. I love that for myself, but am also realistic about what I look like and what I looked like as a literal child when I was getting that attention. It's foul and more men need to call that shit out." —willikersmister 9."Guys with big dicks, be proud of it if you want, but keep in mind that it can hurt some women! The bigger it is, the more foreplay, communication, and gentleness are needed the first time. Don't assume it's going to be amazing for everyone. You have to check to make sure your partner is okay, and stop if they're not. Vaginas can't handle every size dick instantly because it's capable of childbirth, those are very different actions. Seriously, stop if your partner is not okay, please." "In fact, no matter your size, always check that your partner is okay. Real sex isn't like porn, you have to talk or have your partner signal that things are still good. You don't know what's going on in their head unless you ask or they tell you. No orgasm is worth traumatizing someone." —Saphira9 "Also, just because you have a big dick doesn't mean you don't also need all the other skills, too. I don't wanna speak for everyone, but I'd personally rather a small penis and great hands and mouth vs. a big penis and average hands and mouth." —kucky94 10."If you only see women as romantic or sexual partners, you are very likely (whether you realize it or not) treating most women like they don't matter. Besides, treating the remaining ones as though they only matter for one reason. It is making you unlikable. Think of them as people, regardless of your personal level of attraction to them, and you might find yourself a more likable person." —InimitableMe 11."We want you to amp up the foreplay and go down on us more and act like we are the most beautiful thing on the planet and every other girl could never compare." —aimeeytk 12."Not taking no for an answer and lingering around women who have made it very clear your presence is not wanted is a complete and total ick. It's genuinely so gross, and I don't know why some men still do this. It makes me want to bust out my beard mace on y'all." —AnywhereParty573 13."We can say the exact same thing as a man, and be taken automatically less seriously or talked down to more than a man would. A lot of us have to work harder to even be seen as competent, especially by certain groups of men. It's especially apparent when it's less obvious I am a woman online, and not talked down to nearly as often." —Cthulhuhaspeduncles "Yep. My experience as a woman in construction: men are perceived as competent until they prove the opposite, and women are perceived as incompetent until we prove the opposite. Also, we are often seen as one homogeneous entity. I've heard so many variations of 'I once worked with a woman who was bad at this job, so I thought maybe this just isn't for women.' I then always say the same thing: 'Ok, but how many incompetent men do you know?' It's almost comical seeing the realization in their faces." —ellenitha Women, are there some things guys aren't ready to hear about women? Tell us what it is and why in the comments or in the Google Form below:
