Recruiter calls out candidate for rejecting job with '42-mile' commute. Redditors give a brutal reality check: 'Flexibility for thee, not for me'

Time of India

2 days ago

A recruiter's seemingly motivational LinkedIn post backfired spectacularly, sparking a fiery debate online after she shared a candidate's refusal to commute 42 miles for a $150,000 job offer. While the recruiter framed the incident as a lesson in
professional flexibility
, the internet had other plans—and empathy for the commuter.
The drama unfolded on Reddit's r/LinkedInLunatics forum, where users dissected a viral LinkedIn post from a female recruiter who appeared baffled that a jobseeker—publicly marked as 'Open to Work'—would turn down what she described as a 'perfect fit' simply because of a long commute. The post, now circulating widely with screenshots and memes, reads like a blend of pep talk and passive-aggressive disappointment.
'I was transparent about everything,' she wrote. 'Location, comp, expectations… He said, 'Wow, sounds great… but it's 42 miles away. One way.'' The candidate reportedly added that he was only seeking opportunities within 10 miles of his home. 'Sometimes a little flexibility opens a lot of doors,' she concluded. 'Because companies want to hire people who are willing to show up—even when it's 42 miles away.'
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A recruiter's LinkedIn post detailing a candidate's refusal of a $150K job over a 42-mile commute went viral. She advocated for flexibility, but her stance sparked a fiery debate online. (Screenshot/LinkedIn)
'Flexibility for Thee, Not for Me' Trap
What was likely meant to be an inspirational musing about dedication and grit quickly turned into a digital roast session. Users across platforms questioned the underlying assumption that turning down a long, costly commute signals a lack of ambition or work ethic.
One commenter sarcastically rephrased the recruiter's words into a mock dialogue: ''Sometimes a little flexibility goes a long way.' 'Can I work hybrid then?' 'Absolutely not.'' Others pointed out the reality of modern urban commuting, where 42 miles could equate to over two hours of daily travel, stress, and fuel bills—not to mention wear and tear on one's vehicle and mental health.
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Another scathing comment summed up the issue perfectly: 'Flexibility for thee but not for me!'
'Open to Work' Doesn't Mean 'Desperate for Work'
Critics of the post didn't just mock the distance—they did the math. One user noted that a 42-mile one-way commute adds up to nearly 1,700 miles a month, excluding non-work travel. That's not just time lost in traffic; that's money burned in fuel and car maintenance. For some, it's a dealbreaker regardless of salary.
'Open to work does NOT mean desperate for work,' one person commented sharply. Others brought up the FIRE (Financial Independence, Retire Early) movement, noting that mid-career professionals with savings and options don't feel compelled to chase every dollar at any cost.
The Real Red Flag
While the recruiter seemed to question the candidate's priorities, internet sleuths turned the scrutiny on her post itself. Many accused her of using a rejection—made respectfully and reasonably—as fodder for virtue signaling or, worse, to shame jobseekers for having boundaries.
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'This is a critical clue,' one thoughtful comment read. 'If the opportunity is that amazing, make it hybrid or remote. But you aren't REALLY looking for someone talented enough to have options, are you?'
In a job market evolving toward
work-life balance
, remote flexibility, and
employee well-being
, the recruiter's post felt out of touch to many. What was intended as a lesson in seizing opportunity ended up revealing a widening rift between employer expectations and worker autonomy.
No, 42 Miles Is Not Just a Number
What this viral moment underscores is that in today's professional landscape, distance does matter—and so does empathy. Candidates, especially those with experience, are drawing boundaries not because they lack drive, but because they understand the cost of burnout.
So the next time a recruiter asks, 'Is the opportunity worth stretching for?'—perhaps they should also ask, 'Is it worth meeting halfway?'