Mom Says It's ‘a Bit Rude' That Her Daughter Never Gets to Go to Friend's House for Playdate
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A mother has noticed her daughter is never invited to play at a boy's house, despite him regularly coming to their home
In a Mumsnet post, the mom said that on the rare occasions when her daughter does get to go, the children have to play outside
'My friends and I generally take turns to have playdates. Does anyone else find this a bit rude?' she asked
A mother is frustrated with her daughter not being invited to a friend's home in return for playdates at their house.
On Sunday, Aug. 10, the mom penned a Mumsnet post about a 'lovely' boy who lives close by and 'always' comes over to play with her daughter. She said the 7 and 8-year-olds 'play nicely together,' and he has even stayed for dinner during visits that last up to five hours.
It's rarely OK for her daughter to play at the boy's house, however, and when it is approved by his parents, they have to be outside.
'She's even asked if she can play at his for a change (did her this was cheeky) and he said he wasn't allowed but could come to ours,' the mom said. 'My friends and I generally take turns to have playdates. Does anyone else find this a bit rude?'
The majority of responses to the post described the boy's parents as 'cheeky' for never offering to have playdates at their home, while approving of him spending hours at the mom's house.
'Yeah, it's a bit cheeky, but there might be a reason for it I guess. My DC [dear children] are older, but there are a couple of friends who always come to ours and never invite to theirs,' one person wrote. 'I don't really mind, but I stopped feeding them a while ago. I send them home at dinner time and that makes it less of a burden.'
'At our previous house, the other parents on the street seemed to think that I was a free childcare facility,' another said. 'It got to the point that I resented it as it wasn't reciprocal, so I just reigned it right in. Some people take the p---.'
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'It's not the child's fault, do you want your child to play with them if so, don't overthink it, if you don't want to provide food, then don't,' a third commented.
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Another commenter asked a series of questions as they attempted to offer suggestions for why the mom's daughter may not be invited to the boy's house.
They wrote, 'How well do you know his mom? How old are the kids? Perhaps she or someone else in the household struggles with anxiety or their mental health, there may be a hoarding issue, unpredictable pets, or a controlling partner?'
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