Simple signs that your partner might be cheating on you... and why it could be YOUR fault
During a recent appearance on Jay Shetty's On Purpose podcast, Khan claimed that it may be your own fault if you get cheated on for ignoring obvious warning signs.
'Especially with men in particular it's always your own fault, because most cheaters come with smoking guns on the first date,' she explained.
'People don't usually lie. They may SAY lies, but they'll show you their red flags, pretty much from day one,' she continued.
'It might be that they were in a relationship when you met them, or it might be that you caught them in a few lies when you first got with them. You would've caught some sign that this person is capable of deeper lies.'
Khan then claimed that you don't even need evidence to catch somebody being unfaithful.
'Some cheaters will say, "Well you can't prove anything!" Cheaters will always want you to catch them red-handed. You should say, "I don't need red-handed evidence. I can see your behaviour isn't treating me right",' she said.
Khan said that the best way to catch a cheater is to 'know your partner better than they know themselves', and that way you'll be in tune with any concerning changes in their behavior.
'If you pay close attention to your partner then it's quite difficult for them to live a whole double life without you catching on,' she explained.
Earlier this year, Khan, who boasts over a million followers on social media, said that men get cheated on because 'they don't understand female psychology'.
She went on to say that a lot of men who are cheated on were most likely raised by their mothers.
'They tend to think that their mother's advice is the key,' she said.
'They teach you to be kind, they teach you to listen to them, they teach you not to talk back, not to answer back, never to question them,' she continued.
'They train you into becoming this really good boy who's really obedient and all of these things are desexualizing. All of these things are what moms want from boys, from their sons, but it's definitely not what women want from their partners.'
Khan then said that men need to be more assertive in their relationships rather than taking the laid back approach.
'We want a man that's fearless. So if you're a man that's afraid of flying, afraid of heights, afraid of confrontation, afraid, afraid, afraid, automatically she's less attracted,' said Khan.
'We like some protective jealousy - they care about you, so they worry about you,' she continued.
'So whenever a man comes to me who's been cheated on, he'll tell me, "I never stopped her from doing anything. I allowed to go on holidays whenever she wanted, I allowed her to come home whenever she wanted, she could post whatever she wanted on Instagram and she still cheated on me!"
'And I say to them, "duh!"' Khan finished.
Khan, who bills herself as both a psychologist and a relationship coach, has built up a huge following online for her no-holds-barred advice.
She's well known for her brutal dating tips, and even offers a pricey 'high value man' course that teaches men how to be more confident and charismatic.
Researchers previously found that women are unfaithful because they want 'good genes' for their offspring, known as 'dual-mating theory.'
Women tend to seek out more attractive affair partners for their genetic material, but stay with a long-term mate who would make a better parent, according to a study.
However, some participants reported straying out of boredom or a lack of investment from their current partner, saying they simply wanted to have their cake and eat it too.
The study was conducted by Australian and UK researchers who surveyed 254 heterosexual people, 116 of whom were women, and asked them to measure their physical physical, personal and parental attraction to both partners.
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