Woman Tells Pregnant Sister She Won't Be Her 'Live-In Nanny.' Now She's Getting the Silent Treatment
A 20-year-old student tells her pregnant sister she can't skip class and work to attend a check-up, sparking tension between them
She refuses to move into her sister's small apartment or become a live-in nanny, despite being asked to help full-time
The two haven't spoken since, and now the younger sister is left wondering if setting boundaries makes her the villainA woman turns to the Reddit community for support after feeling torn between her sister's pregnancy and the demands of her own personal life.
At just 20 years old, she's trying to balance being a full-time college student with a part-time job, all while maintaining a close bond with her older sister.
'I (20F) am very close with my sister (25F),' she writes in her post. 'We've always gotten along since we were kids, and I was just recently in her wedding as her maid of honor.' She shares how she's always been there for her sister, doing whatever she could to help whenever needed.
So when her sister recently shared the news of her pregnancy, the poster was thrilled. 'Of course, I was super excited for her,' she says, explaining that motherhood had always been a dream of her sister's.
But tension started to grow when her sister asked her to accompany her to the hospital for a check-up. 'She wanted me to go along with her unfortunately I told her I wasn't going to be able to go,' the Redditor writes, acknowledging that this didn't go over well.
Caught between her sister's expectations and her own packed schedule, she tried to explain. 'I am a full-time college student taking summer classes and working a part-time job to pay off the classes,' she says, adding, 'I told her I had things to do today and apologized and told her I couldn't drop what I was doing.'
She didn't dismiss her sister's concerns and wished her the best, but it wasn't enough to smooth things over. 'I wished her the best for her and the baby and apologized again but she hasn't talked to me since this morning,' she shares.
This isn't the first time the two have butted heads over boundaries. Before her sister was even pregnant, she says, 'She told me how I was going to move in with her and help her with the baby and I told her, 'No I wasn't.' '
The Redditor says she made her stance clear from the start, not wanting to put her own goals on pause. 'I have my life I wanted to live and I didn't want to be a live-in nanny for her,' she explains.
While she's willing to help in ways that work for her, she's not ready to give up her education and job to move into her sister's small apartment. 'I did offer my services to help her but I wasn't going to move in with her in her very small apartment she would share with her husband, herself, a newborn and me,' she writes.
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The idea of dropping out of school and work to take care of a baby 24/7 never sat right with her, but OP's boundaries didn't sit well with the sister. 'This angered her, but she forgot about it since at the time she wasn't even pregnant,' she recalls.
Now that the pregnancy is real, the tension has returned, and the Redditor is left feeling conflicted. She emphasizes, 'I love my sister, and I'm willing to help where I can, but I have my own life to live and a future I want to achieve.'
For her, setting boundaries isn't about being unsupportive, but about survival. 'I can't do that if I'm living with my sister and taking care of a baby and dropping everything in my personal life to sit by her side through this pregnancy,' she says.
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