Woman Walks Out of Boyfriend's Family Dinner After His Mom Says She Is 'Just a Phase'

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A woman walks out after being called 'just a phase" by her boyfriend's mother and now she's wondering if it was the right moveNEED TO KNOW
A woman walked out of her boyfriend's family dinner after his mother called her 'just a phase"
Her boyfriend defended her, but later said her sudden exit made things tense with his family
She turned to Reddit to ask if she overreacted by leaving instead of staying to smooth things overA 23-year-old woman seeks advice from the Reddit community after a tense family dinner with her boyfriend's family ended in her walking out.
The woman, who has been dating her 26-year-old boyfriend for nearly a year, says things between them have been going really well. 'We recently started talking about moving in together,' she writes in her since-deleted post, explaining why she was eager, albeit nervous, to attend a family dinner at his parents' house.
At first, she said the evening seemed to be going smoothly. 'His dad was friendly, his sisters were nice to me, and I felt like I was getting along with everyone,' she recalls.
But things took a sharp turn when her boyfriend's mother made a hurtful comment at the dinner table. 'She looked at one of his aunts and said, 'Oh, don't get too attached to her. She's probably just a phase like all the other girls before her,'' the woman writes, adding, 'She didn't even try to whisper it. Everyone heard.'
The remark left her feeling stunned and humiliated in front of the entire family. 'I just sat there frozen for a second while everyone awkwardly laughed or pretended they didn't hear it,' she says.
Her boyfriend tried to defend her in the moment, telling his mom that the comment was rude and that she's not 'just a phase.' Still, the woman says the damage was already done, and she couldn't bring herself to stay.
'I excused myself to go to the bathroom, but instead, I grabbed my bag and told my boyfriend I was leaving,' she writes. She says she didn't want to cause more drama but felt too hurt to continue sitting at the table.
Later that evening, her boyfriend called her and expressed mixed feelings about how she handled the situation. 'He said he understood why I was upset, but he wished I had stayed because leaving made things tense with his family,' she writes.
According to the woman, his mother didn't offer an apology, but instead doubled down on her comment. 'His mom apparently texted him saying I was 'too sensitive' and that I need to 'learn to handle family banter,'' she shares.
But for the woman, this wasn't light teasing as it felt like a deliberate insult. 'I don't see how insulting someone is just banter,' she says, questioning the mother's excuse.
Now, her boyfriend is caught in the middle, and she's left wondering whether she made the right decision by leaving. 'I feel guilty for walking out,' she writes. 'But I also don't think I should just sit there and let someone treat me like I don't matter.'
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Reddit users have rallied behind her, with one commenter saying this moment could be revealing about her boyfriend's future loyalty. 'Is he going to stand beside you, even when it's uncomfortable with his family?' the commenter asks. 'Or will you be expected to swallow disrespect to keep the peace for everyone else?'
Another user believes the responsibility lies with the boyfriend and his mother to make things right. 'Your boyfriend needs to have your back in this situation,' they write. 'You are owed a sincere apology from his mother.'
As for the original poster, she's still processing the experience but stands by her instinct to walk away.
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