If You're Feeling Curious...People Just Revealed The Biggest Lessons They Learned From Having Threesomes
1."When you're the invited third, you can always tell which of the couple wanted you there and which one is just humoring their partner."
—johnnysubarashi
2."Three people being active in a small room puts out a lot of heat. Even in wintertime in a not very well-insulated flat, we were all sweaty and wanting the door/window open."
—Dheorl
3."I've had threesomes with a few different women, and one thing I found amusing is that out of all of these different women, one always compliments the other on their breasts before we get started."
—xoexohexox
4."You need to keep changing condoms when you change partners. I guess I never gave much thought about it before it happened."
—tregges
5."I was AMAZED by how much longer I lasted with two than with one. You spend more time swapping positions. There's WAAYYYY more foreplay and a lot of talking, surprisingly. The whole ordeal was the most fun I've ever had. The three of us kept that thing going for like four or five months before one of them moved. It was originally just supposed to be a one-time thing."
—Jdawg_mck1996
6."It baffled all three of us how hard finding a somewhat decent position was! You'd think you can just apply what you usually do with a two-some and then just +1 it? Nope! Most of our time the first time was spent trying to find positions where you could even sit/lie down properly and not have elbows and knees everywhere."
—thistaintedbeef
7."Someone is usually left out. It's a lot harder than you think. Movies make it look easy because they are actors."
—IvoShandor
8."That a bed is smaller than you think if you have three adults on it. And I guess that there's always someone doing a bit more watching than participating at a given moment, and that's something you have to be okay with."
—Fuzzy-Economy2327
9."I know this isn't true of every threesome, but for me, it's how silly and casual it can be. If the energy is good between all three, there's a lot of giggling and cute moments rather than it just being non-stop full throttle action."
—cmalh
10."That, to be honest, I would prefer to have slept with both people separately rather than together because the multitasking aspect is overwhelming."
—BrightPapaya1349
11."It's way more fun if you're invested in the other two people's enjoyment as much as your own. Don't do it because someone else wants to do it."
—SullenEchoes
12."How much logistics are involved. It's less porn and more project management."
—Ekesita89
13."The dude sent me a Hallmark thank you card in the mail after. Like, straight up went to the grocery store and purchased a card, wrote a message, bought a stamp, and mailed it to my house. It was a lovely gesture."
—cotillionaire
14."I found that threesomes that happen spontaneously are much better than planned."
—stargazer1888
15."Men, for all the talk they are, are actually quite shy and self-conscious when they have to perform in front of one of their friends."
—TetsukoUmezawa
16."I realized that you need to be picky with who you choose. You need to trust that person and trust they will respect the boundaries you have. But you also have to make sure you don't know them TOO well. Lol."
—MaeAndChad_
17."How many knees and elbows there are on three people. You'd think it would be six of each, but it feels like way more."
—MaggieLuisa
18."What surprised me was how much communication needs to happen for it to be a good time for all three people."
—Intelligent-Earth9
19."I did one with my wife's best friend. The amount of laughing and joking around was definitely a surprise. All in all, great time and no hard feelings after."
—season8branisusless
20."That threesomes are very overrated. It's hard to include everybody in everything you do. Foursomes are better. If there's something you can't all do together, then everyone will still have someone to be with."
—Theonlywindow
21.And: "They can be fun, but everyone has to be on board, otherwise it turns into a weird chasing triangle. My first one was awful because the guy was more into me, I was more into my friend, and she was more into the guy. The next several were amazing because I actually had good communication with the couple, and we could all take turns focusing on each other. Also, we were all into each other, so no one was turning it into this is my one and only chance to be with this one person."
—QuiteLady1993
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