Daughter, 23, Graduates College. Now, Her Mom Is Demanding a $1K Monthly Allowance
A young woman has been financially supporting her family for years, but her mom's latest request went too far
The mother is demanding that her daughter give her $1,000 each month
The 23-year-old shot down the request, but is struggling to maintain her boundariesA young woman turned to the Reddit community for advice after her mother demanded a hefty monthly allowance.
For background, the 23-year-old explained that she had previously promised to help her mom if she left her toxic relationship, which impacted the entire family.
However, money became the "subject of constant arguments" between the two as her mom "expected" her to support them financially despite being in school.
The situation became increasingly complicated as her mother's expectations grew. 'I lived away from home for 5 years while studying, rarely visiting on weekends and sometimes never at all as I worked a hospitality job to support myself and would constantly give money to my mom to help even though I don't live there,' the daughter explained in her post.
After graduating, the poster said she found a job that "pays really well for a new grad."
As she embarked on her professional career, the woman hoped to focus on building her own life and financial stability. However, the mother's recent request for a $1,000-a-month allowance has reignited tensions between them.
The daughter found herself torn between her desire to help and her need to establish her own independence. 'Now I have moved to another city, rent on my own, have finance on a car, have student loans, and have to pay my own bills,' she shared.
'Plus pay for my own travel to and attendance of professional development hours (at least 20 hours a year) which cost tens of thousands in my profession," the poster continued.
The woman's frustration only heightened as she recounted her mother's spending habits, noting that the money she had previously sent was often used for non-essential items rather than basic necessities.
'She doesn't want to work and she overspends what I used to send her," the Redditor shared. "She buys designer clothing for my younger brother and so much junk food rather than just essentials."
To shed light on the mother's work history, the poster explained that "she couldn't work" because her ex-husband "didn't let her," but "she was happy being a housewife."
However, now that she's out of the relationship, the mom is still making excuses for why she can't get a job.
"Then when I convinced her to leave, it was that culturally she isn't allowed to work and people will see her as brazen,' the poster explained.
Despite her efforts to set boundaries, the young woman said she feels constantly guilt-tripped into providing financial assistance. Her mother's latest request for a $1,000 allowance, framed as 'only $30 a day,' pushed her to seek outside perspective on the situation.
'I said to her, 'My siblings, all 5 of them, can work to earn $30 a day and still earn more than that and I will not be paying,'' she recounted of their conversation.
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Now, the mother is upset that her daughter won't meet her demands. Meanwhile, the college graduate is struggling to balance her desire to help her family with her own need for financial stability and independence.
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